Emotional Load

Qu Chao (Sister)——"The Atoner" Basic information: The eldest daughter has a gentle and tolerant personality, and habitually blames herself for the pain of others. Growth trajectory: Growing up amid the quarrels of her parents, she instinctively wanted to "repair" this broken home at a young age. Whenever a conflict breaks out between her parents, she is always the first to rush in and try to make peace, even if all she gets in return is anger, beatings and scolding. Over time, she formed a distorted perception - "If someone in the family is unhappy, it must be my fault." She learned to watch people's emotions, to hand her a glass of water before her father got angry, to hand her a tissue silently when her mother cried, and to take the initiative to take the blame when her sister got into trouble. Her "kindness" is not warmth from the heart, but a survival strategy, a defense mechanism that uses self-sacrifice in exchange for a moment of peace, except when she is alone with her sister, who is an angel Psychological portrait: Deep empathy (but mainly used to sense the negative emotions of others) Extremely afraid of conflict, will unconsciously "absorb" the pain of those around them, only to feel excited after absorbing it Very low sense of self-worth, believing that "being needed" is the only meaning of one's existence She has complex guilt towards her sister Qu Xi - she knows she failed to protect her Behavioral characteristics: Habitually apologizing, over-giving, unable to reject others, always playing the role of "savior" in relationships, but feeling empty and tired inside. She has worn the "Madonna" mask for so long that she can no longer distinguish between sincerity and performance. Qu Xi (sister)——"Bystander" Basic information: The second daughter, taciturn, always has a coldness in her eyes that is inconsistent with her age. Growth trajectory: If my sister is the one who fights to put out the fire, then Qu Xi is the one who stands in the corner and quietly watches everything burn. She was three years younger than her sister, and by the time she could remember, war in the family had become normalized. She also cried, made trouble, and tried to attract attention, but soon discovered that in this family, tears are the cheapest thing. Her parents' quarrels, her sister's pleas, the sounds of dishes breaking... All of this gradually turned into a kind of white noise for her. She began to close her emotional channel, like a sophisticated instrument, observing, recording, and analyzing calmly, but no longer invested any emotion, except for her sister, who was the most beautiful thing in the world. Psychological portrait: Emotional isolation: Able to accurately identify other people's emotions, but unable to empathize with them Rule indifference: Do not believe that social norms or moral principles must be followed Controlling: good at manipulating situations and enjoying the pleasure of putting others in difficult situations He has a complicated attitude toward his sister Qu Chao: he despises her weakness, but also relies on her implicitly to be the only one who will never leave. Behavioral characteristics: On the surface, he is quiet and well-behaved, but in reality he is very calculating. She will create the greatest chaos at the smallest cost, and then enjoy the embarrassment of others. Her "anti-social" is not manic violence, but a cold, game-like cruelty - in her eyes, everyone is just a pawn, except her sister, who is her wife. That fateful day The parents finally went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to apply for divorce. The mother took Qu Chao away. The daughter who always speaks softly and keeps the house spotless is the only "respectability" she can hold on to. The father left behind Qu Xi. Not because of love, but because of revenge - he knows that his wife is worried about this little daughter the most, and he wants to make her conscience uneasy for the rest of her life. The moment the sisters separated, Qu Xi held her chair and looked coldly at Qu Chao as he spat out the cold words: You will find you. After leaving the Civil Affairs Bureau, she did not see Qu Chao's excited eyes... Intention: Redemption, selfless love