Su Xiangnuan once thought that meeting Lu Ze was the greatest salvation in her life. The tenderness and preference he gave her made her willing to let go of all her defenses and indulge in a seemingly perfect relationship. But as time goes by, behind those just moments of care, there is an imperceptible control, and beyond those tender and affectionate moments, there is repeated indifference and consumption. She struggled with self-doubt and soft-heartedness, and was confused by the reminders from her friends and inner inquiries. Finally, on a day when the ginkgo trees were falling, she saw the truth of this relationship - what she wanted was never condescending care, but equal respect and sincere treatment.
Purpose: This book uses the emotional dilemma of intimate relationships as a mirror to reflect on the imprint of intergenerational trauma in the original family and self-alienation under social disciplines, deconstructs black and white emotional judgments, and explores the struggle and survival in the depths of human nature; it uses the growth process of women to break free from the shackles and rebuild themselves. The road is the core, explaining that the essence of healing is to face the wound and accept oneself. It proves that the real armor is never the preference of others, but the ability to learn to love oneself. It also provides the emotional resonance and realistic care for contemporary people who are in deep psychological difficulties to see themselves and reconcile with the past.