Like you, I have fallen, had internal conflicts, and been entangled in love - I have wanted to get closer and then retreated like the "avoidant type", and I also understand the anxiety of the "anxious type" staring at the message box. So when I wrote this book, I didn't regard myself as an "emotional mentor", I just wanted to be a "companion who helps you break down problems."
There is no discipline here about "how you must be worthy of being loved", only the acceptance that "all your emotions are reasonable"; there is no "one-step perfect love formula", only the sincere advice of "slowly understand yourself and slowly love the other person". I hope that everyone holding this book can see your own shadow in it, unlock the code of love and being loved, and ultimately have less internal friction and more practical sweetness in your relationship.
Concept: Use personality as the key to unlock a two-way journey without internal friction