More Than Physical Attraction

What a textbook on the disenchantment of male-female relations! Girls who have never been in love, please read it thoroughly and deeply understand the meaning. Don't just help others make up for other people's behavior. But these key points need to be noted: Instant response with enthusiasm = interest. Occasionally reply = hanging. Causing you to get sick = chaos in your private life. Keeping you from getting to know your life circle and family = hesitation and having other options. What else? I will continue to summarize after I finish reading.

This book is so well written, how come so few people have read it? The content is extremely real and fully fits real life. Love has lost its romantic shell and is all about trade-offs. When people get along with each other, there are trade-offs everywhere. In the relationship, everyone is secretly weighing the gains and losses and measuring each other's value. It fully exposes the selfishness, reality, cowardice and desire in the depths of human nature. It is so real that it is almost cruel. It is much better than those brainless CEO articles. I really like it. Come on, keep reading.

It's very real, but it's also painful to watch. When you are young, you will always do incredible things. Maybe this is youth. If you are not in love, you can just watch more and don't learn. If you give me another chance, I will choose to study hard and make money.

The writing is very realistic and the characters are well-drawn, not black and white. I just want to say that no one is perfect. If you really enter a marriage, you will have to endure more and more hardships. The book sharply exposes the common problem of fast love: a relationship that only relies on physical support is destined to not go far. Physiological love has a shelf life. The novelty fades away, the filter is broken, and the other party's shortcomings, fragility, and embarrassment are all exposed. When the good-looking skin no longer brings stimulation, and only trivialities, contradictions and fatigue remain, the good feeling maintained only by hormones will collapse in an instant. The root cause of many people's short-lived relationships and frequent breakups is that they never love a complete person, but only that part of the other person that is bright and perfect and can satisfy their own emotional and physical needs. An ideal relationship is one where there is instinctive attraction when you first meet, and soul resonance when you get along for a long time. Desire only wants to possess your shining points, but true preference is willing to accept all your unbearableness, mediocrity and fragility. If you can't always tell the difference between crush and true love, are prone to indulge in short-term ambiguity, repeatedly suffer internal friction in failed relationships, or always mistake physical impulses for deep love, this book will help you get out of your love mind, look at intimate relationships objectively and soberly, and stop wasting your sincerity on fleeting hormones. The ending of meeting An in the book may not be dreamy enough in the eyes of many readers who pursue the ultimate and vigorous love, but in my opinion, it is the most down-to-earth and complete HE. There is no soul mate that is 100% compatible in marriage. The personality and habits formed in the first 20 years have long been finalized. Forcibly changing the other person will only hurt both sides. A truly long-lasting relationship is never about transforming each other, but about blending and balancing. Yu An has set a bottom line that cannot be compromised: having a responsible conscience, being kind and honest by nature, being willing to communicate without violence in times of conflict, and having the same goals in life. In addition, trivial differences such as tastes, hobbies, introversion or extroversion are all trivial matters that can be negotiated and tolerated. There is a passage in the book that struck a chord with me: Relationships are not afraid of arguments, but of silence and cold war. If you quarrel, you can at least see the crux of each other's hearts. If you keep silent and avoid it for a long time, the estrangement will only accumulate layer by layer, and finally drift away. Yu An finally chooses Qi Lichi because she confirms that the other party adheres to all core principles, is willing to face all differences with her honestly, and lets go of unrealistic ideals of perfection. This is the best romantic destination for adults.

I give full marks. This book is educational and made me think a little more. Marriage is too difficult to manage. You must think about what you want and find the right one. Don't make mistakes in the general direction and be tolerant of small problems. Otherwise, life will really be unbearable. I don't dare to think that if I keep living with a magnifying glass, every penny will have to be compared, and sooner or later the family will break up. The author, your writing is super good, daily and real, the plot is smooth, and the characters in it are all rich. I really like the branch plots of each couple written by the author. PS: I will update more. I like the author's writing ~ I also want to hear more stories ~

When I first started writing it, I didn't intend to show it to anyone. I thought maybe it would just be like this, lying quietly on the computer. After writing tens of thousands of words, I decided to read it to all the confused and entangled men and women in ambiguous relationships. Seeing clearly the nature of love and marriage is never about rejection or avoidance, but rather not to have too big illusions and not to be carried away by hormones, which in the end will cause a strong psychological gap. Love and marriage are never just flowers and moonlight, nor are they just daily necessities, nor are they just about weighing the pros and cons and calculating the gains and losses. After the calculation, if you are still willing to stay; after the calculation, the person you choose in the end is the other person. I hope that each of you and I will see it clearly before falling in love.

Every pair is very interesting, and they have shadows of real people but are not cliché 😄 😄 The author's writing skills are great 👍 👍 👍

After reading the whole book, I didn't pay a dime🎁I always feel like I'm having sex for free. Let's write a book review seriously: It's a realistic romance novel with a plot that you're willing to read, a correct perspective on the world, and some words of outstanding literary talent. It's my favorite type. If you don't like reading the same stereotypes about bosses, princes, time travel, and time travel, you can really try this one. (Ps: I really feel that all plots of this type are the same. Although each has its own entry point, two books are enough, and the plot is dragging and has no ending.) Although I feel that this one ends in a hurry, it may be because I haven't watched enough, so I feel that the ending is too fast. But compared to some books that go on and on without endings just to make up the word count, I think this one is much better! After reading "Let's Love", I've been looking for something of the same genre. I think this one is of the same genre. I look forward to the author's next book, and I also hope that the author and book friends can recommend it if they have similar books. All in all: high praise👍👍👍

I highly recommend this novel. The characters are delicately and vividly created, and the text is full of thought-provoking thoughts. Observe the various forms of living things in the book, appreciate the warmth and warmth of human beings in the world, use other people's stories to reflect on yourself, walk steadily in the present moment, and manage your own life seriously.

I just read this book yesterday and actually finished it all at once. I'm going to follow the series. It's so good and I think it's very real, especially Yu An's kind, who is easily influenced by others and feels like me, but Yu An is super charming and the male protagonist feels real to me. I didn't know there was such a thing until I really met him. The avoidant type avoids even just friends. It's so difficult. I really like reading it. The author is also great. I often think that it's really amazing to be able to write books!!