Mom, If You Have Something to Say, Please Say It

We all know that behaviors such as losing tempers and hitting and scolding children are not conducive to the purpose of education. But I can't always control it and can't change it. In fact, the fundamental problem is that beating and scolding is the simplest, early and most effective form of discipline. On the other hand, many times our own needs as parents are not met, and negative emotions cannot be effectively relieved. How can you take care of your children when you don't have the ability to take care of yourself? This is true for food, clothing, housing and transportation, and even more so for psychological companionship. To improve the ability of family education, it is not to tell parents how many truths, nor to give them the tools and methods of parenting, but to allow every parent who loses control because of their children to first see their own needs, explore the source of their own fears, and to make their own body and mind transparent and smooth is the prerequisite for raising children. Otherwise, when external anxiety is transmitted to oneself, the more skills parents learn about parenting, the easier it is for parents to lose control and feel guilty. This situation will create a vicious cycle that is difficult to change. Therefore, the challenges on the road to parenting are more often about healing yourself first and then parenting. The first half of this book focuses on the self-growth of parents, allowing adults to first understand, accept and heal themselves, and provide instrumental guidance in many aspects such as emotional management and interpersonal conflicts. The second half helps parents sort out how to cultivate the ability to adapt to school education and meet the dual goals of cultivating children's happiness in the current parenting environment. This book is "guided by the purpose of parenting and guided by methods and tools" so that parents have the ideas, methods, and ability to lead their children to become a better version of themselves.