"Suffocating Family Love"
Zhao Shufen is an ordinary retired female worker who worked hard to raise her son Lin Bo. She thought she would enjoy family happiness in her later years, but she didn't expect her son's marriage to become the beginning of her nightmare. Daughter-in-law Xu Jing comes from a wealthy family, has a high degree of education, and has a strong personality. She has been full of contempt for her mother-in-law since they first met. After marriage, Zhao Shufen moved into her son's house to help, but she became a "free nanny" and faced difficulties from her daughter-in-law at every turn - the food she cooked was rejected, her living habits were picked on, and even her breathing was wrong. Lin Bo, the son, has a cowardly character. Faced with his wife's domineering wife and his mother's grievances, he would just stay silent and escape.
After the granddaughter was born, the conflict completely broke out. Xu Jing forbade her mother-in-law from getting close to her children, often insulted her, and even smashed her wife's belongings. Zhao Shufen swallowed her anger, hoping that her son would be strong-willed, but what was waiting for her was Xu Jing's plan to force her to sell her retirement home. When repressed family affection turns into shackles, this family has long existed in name only...
A realistic work that tears apart the pseudo-harmony of Chinese families and explores the suffocation and struggle bound by family ties.
Reader comments
This is a series of problems caused by improper marriages. It is true, objective and down-to-earth.
What happened to Zhao Shufen burst the bubble of Chinese-style family affection. When maternal love becomes the reason for being exploited, when silence turns into connivance, this home has long been a gentle execution ground.
Lin Bo represents a typical type of Chinese man. He pretends to be good in front of his wife and pretends to be difficult in front of his mother. What is the saddest thing? It is a mother like Zhao Shufen who tells outsiders that my son is very filial even though her heart is bleeding.
Mother-in-law is not an enemy, but she is the most familiar stranger. Under the same roof, one uses force to cover up her uneasiness, and the other uses patience to maintain dignity. The so-called war is nothing more than a trapped beast's fight between two lonely women.
Zhao Shufen's story is so real that she is a replica of my aunt. Nowadays, young people always say that their mother-in-law is difficult to get along with, but how many daughter-in-laws like Xu Jing treat their mother-in-law as a free nanny and are picky. The most annoying thing is that sons like Lin Bo pretend to be deaf and dumb. It is really chilling.
My mother said that's why I don't go to live with my son. After telling this story to my mother, she sighed and said, "How many old people are like this now? It's ironic to think about it. Raising children to prevent old age has turned into raising children to suffer. How many Zhao Shufen endured silently. This book should be read by all young people preparing to get married."
People like Xu Jing are so scary. With a high degree of education and a good family background, can they trample on the dignity of others at will? I was so angry when I saw the part about smashing the relics. This is not a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is simply mental abuse. The author's writing is so sharp that it completely exposes the dark side of the Chinese family.
Why don't you go back to your own home?
I feel very heavy and depressed, it's so difficult
I like reading it, the story of marriage is written thoroughly
So far it looks pretty good. I am also a mother-in-law. Although not like the mother-in-law in the book, it can still resonate with some people. Just seeing this, there are two flaws that shouldn't be there: One is about selling the house in the county town to collect the gift. I didn't say it was not sold before. At that time, I thought that the house was so cheap, worth only about 100,000 yuan. Later, it was said that the house in the county town was not sold. So how did you get the money for the bride price in the first place? Second, the wife's maternity leave is over, she and her son have gone to work, the confinement nanny has left early, and the new nanny is not allowed to touch the child, so who takes care of the child during the day?
It's really a very good book! I finished reading it in one sitting yesterday. At first I thought it was another story about my mother-in-law and mother-in-law, but it turned out to be more and more interesting. In life, in fact, the so-called glory and wealth are just fleeting clouds. The most important thing is that the family is together, united and working together. Xu Qing is too obsessed with fame and fortune, thinking that having both fame and fortune means success, so she turns a blind eye to her family, bullies her mother-in-law, and ignores her husband. She thought she was a high-ranking queen, but in the end she plummeted and was imprisoned. She didn't even see her parents for the last time, and she missed her daughter's growth period. After experiencing setbacks such as divorce, his ex-wife's imprisonment, the death of his ex-parents, and raising his daughter alone, Lin Bo grew from a cowardly little boy to an upright man, and finally gained his own true happiness. Many people pursue happiness all their lives. It seems that happiness can only be achieved by driving a luxury car or living in a mansion. In fact, happiness is hidden in the present. The meals you have eaten with your family, the roads you have walked, and the love in your heart are happiness.
Close to life, rich in content, clear in logic, highly recommended
I have never seen such a beautiful novel on Tomato
It's a very good description of a person's character, and it's quite realistic.
The story has twists and turns until the family is happy and fulfilled at the end. This story is worth reading.
The depiction in my heart is very delicate
Very good, close to reality
I like it very much, very beautiful.
Real and objective today's society [Like]
Down-to-earth and in line with actual conditions
Unspeakable heartache
Close to life, vivid image
This book is well written and true.
Realistic portrayal [like]
Interesting! Super nice
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to deal with, it is inherently contradictory!
This is how we, those born in the 60s and 70s, feel. It's very real.
The content is enriched and written to truly present the family in today's society.
Real and objective, simple writing style, multi-dimensional description
This is a series of problems caused by improper marriages. It is true, objective and down-to-earth.
What happened to Zhao Shufen burst the bubble of Chinese-style family affection. When maternal love becomes the reason for being exploited, when silence turns into connivance, this home has long been a gentle execution ground.
Lin Bo represents a typical type of Chinese man. He pretends to be good in front of his wife and pretends to be difficult in front of his mother. What is the saddest thing? It is a mother like Zhao Shufen who tells outsiders that my son is very filial even though her heart is bleeding.
Mother-in-law is not an enemy, but she is the most familiar stranger. Under the same roof, one uses force to cover up her uneasiness, and the other uses patience to maintain dignity. The so-called war is nothing more than a trapped beast's fight between two lonely women.
Zhao Shufen's story is so real that she is a replica of my aunt. Nowadays, young people always say that their mother-in-law is difficult to get along with, but how many daughter-in-laws like Xu Jing treat their mother-in-law as a free nanny and are picky. The most annoying thing is that sons like Lin Bo pretend to be deaf and dumb. It is really chilling.
My mother said that's why I don't go to live with my son. After telling this story to my mother, she sighed and said, "How many old people are like this now? It's ironic to think about it. Raising children to prevent old age has turned into raising children to suffer. How many Zhao Shufen endured silently. This book should be read by all young people preparing to get married."
People like Xu Jing are so scary. With a high degree of education and a good family background, can they trample on the dignity of others at will? I was so angry when I saw the part about smashing the relics. This is not a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is simply mental abuse. The author's writing is so sharp that it completely exposes the dark side of the Chinese family.
Why don't you go back to your own home?
I feel very heavy and depressed, it's so difficult
I like reading it, the story of marriage is written thoroughly
So far it looks pretty good. I am also a mother-in-law. Although not like the mother-in-law in the book, it can still resonate with some people. Just seeing this, there are two flaws that shouldn't be there: One is about selling the house in the county town to collect the gift. I didn't say it was not sold before. At that time, I thought that the house was so cheap, worth only about 100,000 yuan. Later, it was said that the house in the county town was not sold. So how did you get the money for the bride price in the first place? Second, the wife's maternity leave is over, she and her son have gone to work, the confinement nanny has left early, and the new nanny is not allowed to touch the child, so who takes care of the child during the day?
It's really a very good book! I finished reading it in one sitting yesterday. At first I thought it was another story about my mother-in-law and mother-in-law, but it turned out to be more and more interesting. In life, in fact, the so-called glory and wealth are just fleeting clouds. The most important thing is that the family is together, united and working together. Xu Qing is too obsessed with fame and fortune, thinking that having both fame and fortune means success, so she turns a blind eye to her family, bullies her mother-in-law, and ignores her husband. She thought she was a high-ranking queen, but in the end she plummeted and was imprisoned. She didn't even see her parents for the last time, and she missed her daughter's growth period. After experiencing setbacks such as divorce, his ex-wife's imprisonment, the death of his ex-parents, and raising his daughter alone, Lin Bo grew from a cowardly little boy to an upright man, and finally gained his own true happiness. Many people pursue happiness all their lives. It seems that happiness can only be achieved by driving a luxury car or living in a mansion. In fact, happiness is hidden in the present. The meals you have eaten with your family, the roads you have walked, and the love in your heart are happiness.
Close to life, rich in content, clear in logic, highly recommended
I have never seen such a beautiful novel on Tomato
It's a very good description of a person's character, and it's quite realistic.
The story has twists and turns until the family is happy and fulfilled at the end. This story is worth reading.
The depiction in my heart is very delicate
Very good, close to reality
I like it very much, very beautiful.
Real and objective today's society [Like]
Down-to-earth and in line with actual conditions
Unspeakable heartache
Close to life, vivid image
This book is well written and true.
Realistic portrayal [like]
Interesting! Super nice
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to deal with, it is inherently contradictory!
This is how we, those born in the 60s and 70s, feel. It's very real.
The content is enriched and written to truly present the family in today's society.
Real and objective, simple writing style, multi-dimensional description