Where to Go at 20: 9 Sorrows of Youth

[Standing on the threshold of 20 years old, the world suddenly unfolded, but I didn't know where to stop. This book records the true thoughts of an ordinary girl at the fork in the road at the age of 20. The ritual sense of adulthood at eighteen fades away, and it is only at the age of twenty that I truly feel the pressure of growth and the weight of confusion: A blank check for the future: What I once thought was a bright future is now like a huge check that is hard to cash. Studies, jobs, housing prices, wages... The shadow of reality hangs over the ivory tower, making people feel that "living is really difficult" before they even step out of school. Anxiety is everywhere: My peers are taking exams, postgraduate entrance exams, and running around, but I am lingering in place. We obviously have nothing, but we have begun to fear that we will "achieve nothing." What love looks like: When you are ignorant, you firmly believe that true love is invincible. When you grow up, you realize that "suitability" is the world's yardstick. Long distance, family differences, daily necessities... Love crashed to the ground, shattering into the cold consideration of "whether it's suitable or not". We long for love, but we also begin to wonder if it is just a fairy tale. Loneliness is the background: amidst the hustle and bustle of the crowd, the overwhelming feeling of loneliness is felt by no one. We are gregarious for the sake of being gregarious, but our hearts are even more desolate. It turns out that loneliness is the normal state of life. Only by accepting it can you hear the echo of your own soul. This is not a book of answers, but of resonance. It candidly reveals the chaos of war, worry about gains and losses, and sleepless nights at the age of 20. The author uses delicate writing to write down the confusion, anxiety and unwillingness that we want to say but cannot express. She told us: Confusion is the inevitable path of youth, and there is no need to be ashamed. Anxiety comes from comparison. Only by letting go of your obsession can you let yourself go. Being ordinary is not a shame. Living according to your own heart is brave. Even if life goes against your imagination, look for glimmers of light in the trivialities. Dedicated to all of you who are standing at the intersection of 20 years old, feeling confused, anxious, and lonely, but still eager to see the direction clearly and work hard to move forward. Here, you may be able to find the shadow of your peers, gain a bit of comfort, and finally understand that confusion itself is the beginning of searching.