We think that the world is real and regard everything as real. We have spent countless time and labor in search of happiness. However, when pain comes, the emergence of impermanence, and the turbulent birth and death, we are still caught off guard and unwilling to let go. The answers obtained by looking outside are fragile and perishable. Everyone's life is a road to self. How should people survive? Most people rely on their own inertia to go to school, fall in love, get married and have children. I always doubt this fixed path. If people want to live by their own nature, they need to go against the grain and develop many precious qualities.
He is not complete himself, but he longs for the emergence of a perfect partner to save him, skips the propositions that need to be overcome, and tries to take shortcuts. It takes a lot of effort to rebuild a strong core with a shattered consciousness and solitary introspection. When the fantasy is shattered, abandoned by the other person, and refuses to face reality, this is a person's love.
Love can never be sustained for a long time by blindly giving out emotions and unadulterated true feelings. The more passionate the love, the more it needs to be maintained with reason and wisdom to last long. Love paralyzes the self, making it difficult to pay attention to what the other person needs, desires, and cares about. People are independent individuals with unique pasts, life experiences, and innate personalities. Doing what you want to others is just to satisfy your own love fantasies and has nothing to do with others. It is not easy to fall in love between two people.
