The girl's growth experience, a mother who pursues perfection, and a father who works outside the home for many years, what kind of childhood did she experience? Did the mother shape the child, or did the child change the mother? The mother and daughter changed and grew up in each other's collisions. The mother wanted to change her child, but in the end she changed because of her child. The mother let go of her inherent ideas and restored her original intention - hoping that her daughter would be safe, healthy and happy throughout her life, leaving her the space to grow freely. The article focuses on teaching by words and deeds, integrating knowledge and action.