Home is a harbor, but why does home hurt people?
Love means integration, but why does the more you love, the more lonely you become?
Each of us longs to get out of loneliness and fall in love with others. The more important a person is, the more we will treat him in the best way we know how.
But many times, the subtext behind this desire is: Because I love you, everything I do is for your own good, so you have to listen to me, respond and do things according to my expectations. The so-called "good way" is often to impose one's will on others.
Under this logic, falling in love becomes imposition and a war to control each other. For this reason, we all long for love, and we have all loved it. However, the terrible loneliness entangles most people in this world, and intimate relationships are just around the corner.
The popular senior psychologist Wu Zhihong has insight into the deep psychological mechanism behind loneliness, and uses meticulous writing to reveal how to break the narcissistic wall between people, truly see the existence of others, end the secret game of power and control, and let true love and freedom return to family members and lovers.
Reader comments
This book made me understand that loneliness is universal, but we often try to solve it in our own way, not knowing that this may make each other more lonely. The ideas in the book are very profound and made me think about my relationship with others. I think everyone should read this book. Maybe it can help us understand ourselves and others better and get out of the dilemma of loneliness.
It's a very good book, it won't make you feel boring, but it can help you understand your own heart. I highly recommend it.
This book made me understand that loneliness is universal, but we often try to solve it in our own way, not knowing that this may make each other more lonely. The ideas in the book are very profound and made me think about my relationship with others. I think everyone should read this book. Maybe it can help us understand ourselves and others better and get out of the dilemma of loneliness.
It's a very good book, it won't make you feel boring, but it can help you understand your own heart. I highly recommend it.