Limit

The cases in the book are very real, just like happening around us. I like the ideas mentioned in the book, such as "Not interfering with others is the true cultivation and maturity." Moreover, the book also provides practical methods for setting and enforcing boundaries. I think everyone should read this book, it will help us deal with relationships better and live a freer life.

On the surface, boundaries are derogatory because they convey a sense of separation or even isolation. But on the other hand, setting boundaries means you have a space that is purely your own, allowing outsiders to stay outside the house and not come in to vent like robbers. You set boundaries because you want to protect yourself. From this perspective, you will also understand and respect other people's boundaries more. But simply setting boundaries is not boundaries. As people become more courageous and confident, they can also take the initiative to break boundaries. This borders on the comfort zone theory.

As a child of a family with many children and many relatives, I can relate to the troubles caused by unclear boundaries in the book. As a child, I was taught to be sensible and humble; When I grow up, I am asked to let go of my boundaries and take on more responsibilities in the workplace; Being required or even expected to give more in the family; ... After reading this book, you will be able to better understand how to respond to the needs of others without wronging yourself. Boundary Boundaries are the clear division between my responsibilities and your responsibilities in interpersonal relationships. They are the boundaries between protecting your own needs and respecting others. A colleague asked you to help write a work report for him, but you were embarrassed to refuse, so you stayed up late to help him finish it, but your own work was not finished; This is not selfless, but rather blurs each other's work responsibilities. A more appropriate boundary is to honestly say, I can't help you, the work at hand is due today, but I can share my previous report template. In this way, you neither wrong yourself nor deny the needs of the other person. Our childhood education makes us unable to refuse many things, and also makes us feel that setting boundaries seems to mean becoming cold and heartless. But in fact, this does not mean that we are hard-hearted, but that we gently and firmly protect our own needs and proactively maintain our own healthy relationships. [Boundaries in the family] It's time to find a partner; It's time to get married; It's time to have a baby; The decoration style of the house; How to raise children; ... Boundary issues at home are more complex than at work. Issues between the original family and the nuclear family, elders and younger generations, and partners are often caught between years of influence and emotional fluctuations at the time, making it difficult to distinguish the boundaries of the matter. Combining the concepts in the book, my experience: The core principles are to distinguish between big and small families, identify but be gentle, and respect yourself. To distinguish between large and small families, we need to pay attention to the small family with husband and wife as the core, and always serve as a complete and independent decision-making subject. For elders, first acknowledge your concern and then draw clear boundaries; You can listen to what you say, but whether you implement it or not depends on your own and your partner's wishes. Don't over-control your partner, and don't compromise without a bottom line; On the premise of respecting each other, leave your own space.

Yes, I have only briefly understood the sense of boundaries before. This book explains in great detail what you need to pay attention to and how to grasp boundaries in all aspects of work, life, relationships, friends, and the Internet and mobile phones. The methods listed are simple and feasible.

Very useful, it helps me a lot! The cases cited in this book are realistic and convincing! Analyzes boundary issues in life and related issues. I haven't finished reading yet! But the end-of-chapter exercises and required behaviors in the book are valuable! This is a great context for me to understand my own boundaries and get corresponding help! I believe this book will be useful to everyone! There is enough information for reference in the future and present

The cognitive boundaries are not yet understood. The boundaries of the six boundaries often appear mixed at the same time. Unless one is particularly prominent, it is difficult to distinguish them as clearly as the author. Some boundaries are not well understood, so it is difficult to realize their existence, let alone think of how to deal with them. "Boundary setting", to understand it simply, is actually "personal territorial awareness, division and maintenance of territory."

After reading this book, I deeply realized the importance of healthy boundaries. Thank you.

Very interesting book (｡ò ∀ ó｡) The words are easy to understand and thought-provoking

Very good books

Change yourself, have a better life

This book is very useful, but I already have a strong sense of boundaries, and it just helps me verify my sobriety.

Just take care of yourself. Don't get involved in other people's affairs. Learn to separate topics. This is the limit. Don't say what you shouldn't say, don't do what you shouldn't do, don't think about what you shouldn't think, just take care of yourself!

It allows readers to intuitively understand the existing problems, have solutions, and is not empty.

It's very good, quite practical, and the translation is amazing. I forgot that this was a translated book as I looked at it.