On love: Shen Yi and Ji Fan once liked each other. But beyond that first rush of attraction, as they gradually got to know each other better, he kept doing things she neither understood nor agreed with. Instead of facing the problem and working it out, she chose to run away. They were too young, and their love was doomed from the start.
Later, when she realized she could fall for someone else, she began to wonder if people really were like keys and locks, each person made for just one other. Could someone like several people at once? She seemed to understand, a little, why men in ancient times had multiple wives and concubines. That distant, fleeting sort of attraction made her think differently about love.
On friendship: She met many people, and many of them taught her a great deal. But in the end, they still went their separate ways. Sometimes others made the decision, sometimes she did. There was plenty of wavering and hesitation, but in the end, every parting was decisive.
No one is exactly like you, and you don't need someone who is. You have to learn from others and find warmth in them, and give warmth in return.
But one day, if you can no longer do those things for each other, then it's time to part ways.
On growing up: Children respect their teachers, but teachers don't necessarily respect their students. Children don't necessarily respect their teachers, either. Young children aren't always kind; their thoughts can be frightening.
Don't blindly worship those who are strong in any respect, or unfamiliar fields you haven't yet set foot in.
See through the mystique of academic credentials, professors, universities, work, and money.
Seeing through their mystique doesn't mean they no longer appeal to you. It means you can look at them more rationally and make your own choices.
Finally, see through the mystique of love, family, and friendship, too.
