Feng Jinxiu thinks the luckiest thing that ever happened to her was meeting a fussy young master who trained her to be equally at home receiving guests, working in the kitchen, and even taking the battlefield, where she could burn the enemy's grain stores.
Bai Shifei thinks the thing that makes him grind his teeth the most is meeting Feng Jinxiu. She'll go into the kitchen for him, run a business for him, and even join him on the battlefield, but the one thing she refuses to do is marry him.
Feng Jinxiu laughs. “You think I've lost my memory? That I've forgotten everything that happened before?”
That's what they call enjoying the moment when you tease your wife, then paying for it when you try to marry her.