Be an Adult with a Stable Core

In this process, you don't need to focus on making money or so-called achievements. You only need to focus on the "cause" of improving your own abilities, and you will surely reap the fruits that belong to you.

It's okay, the beginning is very attractive to me, and it also inspired me. When it comes to love, forceful buying and selling is not a good thing. If it's good for you, you don't have to accept it all. You can't dictate your life just because the other person is in your best interest. You also have to be brave enough to fight. I am always anxious, but for me, his method cannot make me a calm person.

This is a very high quality book, short and concise.

This book is written very pragmatically and is basically examples from life. For example, people need to have concentration. We can choose either Confucianism or Taoism. Switching back and forth is not conducive to ourselves and may even make us doubt life. This is the so-called concentration. There are many examples in life that are worth reading. There should be Wu Zhihong's psychology in it that is consistent with it. The last chapter tells us that theory requires a lot of time and some deliberate practice of thinking. There are also some of them. Reading does not mean experience. Only personal practice. Okay, that's all for the running account. I feel uncomfortable if I don't write. Reading what I write makes me feel uncomfortable every day. Read it, read it.

Thank you to the author for writing this book! Stop overthinking, stabilize my emotions, and teach me to set the direction of my position! Thanks for making me wake up [KISS]

This book made me realize that I am my own navigation and my own salvation. The cognitive level has changed, but the behavioral level is affected by various influences and may not necessarily change, and may return to the original point again.

This book really solved my psychological problems and is a very good quality book. This book first explains the causes of these problems and then proposes some solutions. The two suggestions to stop attacking yourself and overthinking really touched me. I understand that when we encounter setbacks, we should not avoid it, but face it and work hard to solve it. All in all, I think this book answered my confusion. But there are a hundred Hamlets for a hundred readers. I hope you can find a book that is really suitable for you to solve your confusion.

This book is very comprehensive and deeply analyzes the reasons why a person's inner core is weak and unstable, and also proposes solutions. The book's views are clear and sharp, concise and clear, without unnecessary nonsense. It is simply a good medicine for people with a weak inner core. I am grateful to read this book and will read it several times. I hope to become a person with a strong inner core.

I read this book twice in a row from yesterday to today and benefited a lot. For example, the concepts inside: / Expecting to control everything in life is a false illusion. Thinking about it, I have been insisting that everything is under my control recently. Maybe it is because I spent a lot of time in panic in the past, so I want to find a sense of security for myself, but unconsciously I chose a way that makes us more tired. Now when I think about life, all you can do is to do what you should do well. Thinking of this, I feel as if I am relieved. Do your best and obey fate. This is the truth. Most of us are ordinary people, and we always feel that our fault tolerance rate is very low, but maybe the road of life is wider than we imagine (listen to your heart). I don't have any deep feelings yet, but there are people around me who make me feel that everything in the world is an experience, and we only need to be bold within a certain moral range. /Everything should be viewed with ease and moderation As analyzed in the article, I take my work too seriously, so I am extremely tired. In fact, it is more of a mental fatigue. My recognition of stress has begun to blur. I do whatever my superiors ask me to do. It is not because I really love this job, but to protect my job. I take it too seriously and regard it as indispensable, but in fact it is so. Even if it has a relatively important status, its position must be readjusted. Original text: /Weakness is weakness, and weakness is not kindness. / When looking at an issue, you must grasp the essence. Judging "right or wrong" is often meaningless. Many issues may appear to be about right or wrong, but in essence they are a collision between two fundamentally incompatible values. /The fundamental problem is that you don't know that you can actually say no. "No rejection" and "no self" are cause and effect to each other. Because you do not refuse many requests from the outside world, you are always busy doing many things you don't want to do; because you are always consumed by things you don't want to do, you don't have time and enough attention to invest in yourself and develop yourself, and you don't have clear preferences. As a tool of long-term service to others, you will be trained to a great deal of tolerance: the things you hate become tolerable with constant repetition, and the things you like become blurred by infrequent exposure. Since you don't have a clear self and preferences, you don't know if something is something you hate or are unwilling to accept. You often accept it all based on habit. If a person without self wants to change himself, he must first stop all the things that 80% of the external pressure in his life forces him to do. Secondly, in every day life, he must learn to say no to anything and anyone. When you learn to say no, your sense of self can be enforced. You no longer allow yourself to be forced to move forward by the pressure of the outside world and others, so you gain time and space to relax, and finally feel yourself in such time and space, and feel that you are the protagonist in your own life. /Nowadays, many young people feel that life is getting more and more exhausting. The first reason is that life is really stressful, and the second and deeper reason is: you know that most of your efforts are not really for yourself, but to prove yourself to others. Regarding individual happiness, a person who has not formed a "self-centered" is actually very sad, because his life is spent for others. For the same thing, people's subjective feelings vary greatly. Because of this, a person who has never been treated as a "protagonist" and has never lived with his own interests as the center will find it very difficult for him to imagine how he can change. The first obstacle before him was a deep-rooted "limiting belief": I am responsible for other people's feelings. A child who grows up in a "supporting role" always has to bear a lot of responsibilities. Especially when the relationship between parents deteriorates, parents in conflict will unconsciously transfer part of the responsibility for "repairing the relationship" to their children. In addition, if the child's parents are good at "emotional kidnapping", then the child's self-destruction will be even more incomplete. "Emotional kidnapping" has a huge and deep-rooted impact on a child's psychology, and can even distort their psychology. For example, parents say to their children: "Don't be disobedient, because if you are disobedient, my mother will be so angry that she can't eat and will fall ill these days." "You have to study hard and live up to your expectations, otherwise dad will not be able to hold his head high in front of others." The result of this is that the child will become very sensitive to other people's feelings. He will think: "I am responsible for other people's bad moods. This is my fault. I must do something to make him feel better." However, most children who grow up in a "supporting role" do not realize that the logic explained above is wrong, and they even think it is very reasonable: "My parents are very good to me, they just have a bad temper." "They gave birth to me and raised me. They fed me and clothed me since I was a child. I should repay them." The most fundamental mistake of this logic is that it turns "emotion" into an irresistible "debt relationship" - if someone gives you something, then this is what you must repay. However, the most critical link is missing in this logic, and it is also missing by all people in the "supporting role", that is, "people's active choice." When a person treats you well and pays for you, it is his own choice, not what you ask for. In essence, you have no obligation to "repay". Just like when you pursue the person you like, you may try your best to be nice to the person, spend money and time for the person, but in the end you are rejected. You then develop hatred out of love, thinking that you have paid so much for the other person, but the other person does not accept you, which is too heartless. But the problem is that the other party has no obligation to become a lover with anyone who is good to you. The time and money you spend are your own active choices, not the other party's active requirements, so the other party does not owe you anything. (We can be filial and loving, but life is our own home court. We should listen to our parents' opinions appropriately and follow our own "path" for the rest.)

I originally thought it was Chicken Soup for the Soul, but it turns out that it contains practical information and will teach you how to do it. Although I don't agree with some of the views in it, I agree with most of them and will read it a second time and make a summary [OK]

The entire book is short and concise! This book was recommended to me by the interface after I read "The Courage to Be Disliked". When I first saw the title of the book, I wondered if I was a person with a stable core? With this question in mind, I want to read it with the mentality of a 19-year-old adult. I can only say that it has been very beneficial. I feel that I can use the examples mentioned in it based on my previous experiences. [Shocked] But some of the words are a bit profound and I can't quite understand them. Maybe when I open this book when I am 20, 21, or 22 years old, I will have new insights or a deeper understanding.

The book has the same feeling as the author. I feel that this is another me in the world. I always ask questions but do not solve them. I should face the reality, but when I look at the reality, I feel cowardly and want to fantasize. If there is a cause, there will be a result. In the days to come, I will accumulate my own cause and effect. Thank you to the author. This book has given me a lot of inspiration, allowing me to really use reality, think, and face problems in the right way.

I am a person who prefers to analyze myself. I hope to understand what I am thinking, why I think so, and how to act without thinking. . . Etc. I have read many books, and this is one of the few that I agree with and feel I have benefited a lot from it. (In the past, many books seemed to make sense, but some were contrary to my thoughts and could not convince me, so I would give up the book and find it boring [laughing and crying]) I really like this book. Received a lot of goods [sending heartfelt wishes]

I feel like this book is more philosophical or psychological. The concepts and nouns are more professional. But there is one standard, that is, human emotions have many aspects. Because of your childhood family and the teachers in your studies, you formed the core of your being. Shape yourself to stand in your emotions and face your own good emotions and bad emotions. Stay away from internal friction. Anyway, at this age, I have a soft spot for this kind of adjustment books. [Laughs] Life is hard enough, but I hope we can all be free from emotional sin.

Read more and read well. Although I haven't remembered this book, I have read it at least once. I have never written a book review and I don't know where to start, but I am sure that I will read this book a second time. Many truths need to be read several times to learn something.

Only personal feelings In this book, I can recall events from childhood to adulthood. I also had the same sentiment after thinking about my own past, trying to understand myself and accept myself to let go of unrealistic fantasies. The book says to give yourself three years of trial and error and then three years of accumulation to find the meaning of your life.

I can only say that the content of this book is in the eye of the beholder and the wise. Reading a book means taking the essence and discarding the dross. I admit that there are good points, but there are also shortcomings. All in all. You can read it.

After reading this book, I was very touched. The book talks about self-awareness, problem-solving ideas, focusing on self-improvement, etc. It provides me with a way to think about it when I am confused. I recommend it to everyone.

This book is like a caring friend, telling us how to maintain inner stability in this complex world. The ideas in the book are very practical, especially the part about how to clean up negative emotions and stop overthinking, which really inspired me. I've also experienced mood swings and inner insecurity, and this book gave me great advice. I think everyone can find a method that suits them and make their life more calm and confident. Recommended to everyone!

I think this book is very good. It enlightened me about internal conflicts. I gained a deep understanding of things that I didn't understand before. I stopped being stuck in the same place and started to move outward to truly solve my problems. Every chapter is to the point and very relevant. Thanks to the author.

There is a great need for authors who speak directly like this, but there are some languages ​​​​that I really can't understand and I don't know why. But it is very inspiring to me and I usually use it in my life. And many of them are very reasonable. If you say too many good things, you will definitely feel that it is fake, but those who are sensitive and like to think wildly can really read more, which is particularly beneficial.

The meaning is not exhausted, there is no lengthy sermon, it is a straight-forward and accurate analysis of how the elephant of emotion brings us various manifestations of reality. It also provides rational and practical methods on how to manage emotions. It has great reference significance for people who are confused and anxious and is worth reading again and again.

The analysis of the problem is profound and clear. It is both understandable and inspiring. It is very rewarding.

It allowed me to clearly understand my emotions, abilities, and values; I have been blindly settling for 3 years between the ages of 20 and 30, and now I have found the direction🧭The "trial and error period" is inevitable, and it is a proven fact that time is the cost

For people like me who are prone to internal friction, I was really touched after reading this. Just like what is described in the book, I also like to help others, so sometimes it is difficult to reject others, and I feel guilty inside. I am also trying to reject others. I hope I can pay more attention to myself, and the author is really right. You must improve your own value before thinking about how much money you can make! This book is really helpful to me! At the moment, I'm just stuck on what I'm thinking about, and my execution ability is very poor! I want to move too! Thank you author [like][like][like]

I have never seen a book that shocked me so much. For the first time, I found a way that I had been exploring for a long time, confused and helpless, but unexpectedly discovered that someone had gone further, and he was even willing to share the valuable experience he had accumulated over the years without reservation. I hope there will be more authors like this in China and less success stories that poison young people.

It's easy to understand and concise. I feel that the article is talking about myself and expresses things that I couldn't express before. And I don't feel disgusted and uncomfortable when I read it. Instead, I am willing to admit and face it. It is simply enlightening.

Difficult things and difficult-to-understand books are what make you truly grow up. I am not the same person I used to be. I am not afraid of difficulties, nor reject them, nor resist them, nor be defensive. I face them easily, because they are here to help me.

Very good and comprehensive. It's very positive and empowering after reading it.

This book is good and profound - it can improve self-awareness, and most of it is easy to understand - the examples are very vivid.