Self Boundaries

So why don't I feel lonely if I don't socialize? It's probably because my parents haven't given me private space since I was a child. Naturally, I don't have this concept. Maybe I have thought about having private space, and my parents will use it. What qualifications do you have as a consumer to block me? , The scariest thing is that this sentence is omnipotent. No matter whether my idea is right or wrong, the person who reaches out is the lowest status. Well, I vaguely remember that consumers are the bottom of society. It has been too long and I have forgotten the details. What was her tone at that time, a condescending contempt?

The concept of "self-boundaries" mentioned in this book is very enlightening. It tells us to clarify the scope of responsibilities and rights of ourselves and others. Just like the book says: "Let your affairs be yours, and my affairs be mine." In this way, we can better protect ourselves in life and avoid unnecessary pressure and conflicts. The author, George Dade, uses simple and easy-to-understand language and combines it with actual cases to make it easier for us to understand and apply this knowledge. I think this book is very helpful for people who are about to get married. It can help us maintain ourselves in marriage. It is really a practical psychology book!

It feels like the author has experienced extreme emotions, especially when discussing the little man in the brain. Confirm boundaries, not be overly responsible, but also gain control over yourself, so as to lay the foundation for facing the battle between emotions and reason, and manage your emotions, using methods such as letting emotions pass through your brain, as background music or working in the background of the computer; do not avoid emotions, but you can push back the thoughts that trigger emotions; and more practical methods: perform physical labor to consume the accumulated adrenaline and cortisol, and use emotions as energy; use abdominal breathing to remind yourself to stay calm and relaxed. There are also many novel ideas that have never been thought of before. The author of this book not only advocates rationality, but also does not believe in the power of reason. From the perspectives of biology, psychology, and medical psychiatry, he provides a lot of suggestions for us to understand ourselves, be responsible for ourselves, and become our own helmsman.

Very practical book

Drawing clear "boundaries" can really solve many things. We think that we are surrounded by many things and bear too many responsibilities. After drawing "boundaries", everything becomes clear, and even 50 or 60% of things have nothing to do with you.

Great, learning my boundaries and clarifying my relationships with others. The author uses many cases in the book to illustrate how to protect one's boundaries, which is very useful.

It's really good [send heart] [send heart], I highly recommend this book