Upward Socialization

This book is more of a guide to language expression and logical thinking. For example, passive-aggressive personality ◎ Ways to deal with them: don't give them what they want, don't be angry with them, express understanding that they feel they have been wronged, give them a clear motivation for action, and increase the price of disobedience. For example, be brave enough to say no. For example, let the scarecrow come up with evidence. All in all, it's a bit mind-numbing, and for a sociable person like me, it's just burning my brain cells. I couldn't sit still and watch, so I could only listen to it. Fortunately, after absorbing a few arguments, this book is not in vain, haha.

A very good book, highly recommended to everyone. Social skills can be improved through practice. Take an interest in others. Reading aloud is a good way to do this. Prepare some short stories.

Hehe, after reading it, I feel like knowledge is passing through my head, haha! I haven't met anyone in my life who needs me to do this, to go to the upward social stage, but it's definitely right to get to know them first [cool]! And if anyone complains about me being fat in the future, I will reply to him: "I am so cute!" [Shy][shy][shy][shy]

Thoughts after reading "Social Upward" When it comes to upward socializing, many people think it means deliberately trying to please. After reading "Upward Socializing: How to Let Excellent People Get Near You", I changed my inherent prejudice. This book points out the core of social networking: high-quality connections are not sought, but attracted by their own value. The book combines 34 practical methods and 52 real cases to dismantle the complete method of interacting with outstanding people, from preparing for conversations and getting closer to resolving embarrassment and building trust. The techniques are simple to implement. The author emphasizes that upward socialization does not mean forcing oneself into high-level circles, but first turning oneself into a person worth interacting with. In the past, I was always eager to get to know my seniors and blindly asked for advice, ignoring that the essence of communication is value exchange. Excellent people have precious time and will not maintain a one-way relationship. Your unique insights, reliable character, and ability to empathize are all values ​​that attract others. A relationship that only knows how to take will not last long. Two-way growth is the way to a long-lasting social relationship. The communication skills in the book also solved my social embarrassment. There is no need to flatter your seniors deliberately, listen carefully and think from their perspective. Equal and sincere communication is far more moving than polite compliments. Excessive ineffective socializing will only consume oneself. Real upward socializing is to get close to the strong and urge self-improvement at the same time. Instead of working hard to cater to others, it's better to refine yourself. When you have a shining point, you don't have to chase after it; outstanding people will naturally come to you.

It's helpful to my life. I'm going to start using it two or three times until I learn how to use it [laughs]

Upward socializing is not bottomless pandering, but interpersonal communication based on sincerity and mutual benefit. People have common misunderstandings and fears about upward social interaction: Many people think that people who are close to outstanding people will be fawning and trying to please them, or they feel that they are too far behind them to integrate. Upward socializing is not about flattery or clinging to the powerful, but an equal exchange of value. The real key to social networking is not how many people you know, but how many people get to know you. What matters is the depth and quality of your connections. Confidence We must face up to our own strengths and achievements and do not belittle ourselves. Establish self-confidence, believe in your own value, correctly evaluate your relationships with others, and overcome nervousness and fear when socializing upwards. Only when you are firm in your heart and have a clear understanding of your own value can you show your true and charming side when interacting with outstanding people. At the same time, maintain a correct mentality, don't worry about small details, accept other people's opinions, make yourself happier and improve the quality of interpersonal relationships. Tips Learn to listen actively and do not rush to express yourself. Dedicate yourself to communicating with the other person and make the other person feel respected. Look for common interests, work experience, educational background, values ​​and other similarities with the outstanding person, so that the other person can quickly open their heart. Improve your expression skills and explain your thoughts and opinions clearly and logically. Especially when expressing compliments, you must be sincere and specific, and be able to accurately point out the admirable aspects of the other person. At the same time, you must also learn to say "no" to protect your time and territory, and handle emotional issues and situational issues separately when conflicts arise.

I resonated with many of the chapters I read, and they are indeed some of the situations I encounter in life. As a person who only cries when angry and cannot respond effectively, I really need to read it repeatedly to understand and memorize it. I think I will make a special note about this book later and read it carefully. It is convenient to truly apply the knowledge points inside.

I have read a lot of books, and this book ranks among the best for its practicality and effectiveness. It is worth recommending. If you can use deliberate practice, you will gain a lot and truly effectively improve your personal abilities.

I like it so much. The title of this book almost made me miss it. I read a lot of communication-related entries but couldn't find any books or ideas that I found useful. But I opened this book accidentally and it's very pertinent and very useful! Make me suddenly enlightened

This book is very practical, especially for someone like me who is not very social. The suggestions in the book about preparing a "conversation resume" and "backup stories" are very good and have made me more confident when communicating with others. I also learned that looking for similarities with great people can help us get closer. However, I hate self-righteous people the most, and I hope this book can help me deal with them better. All in all, this is a book worth reading.

It can be regarded as a systematic introduction to the methods of social interaction, from preparation before the conversation to leaving the scene gracefully. I also added that the various difficult and complicated diseases in the communication process are not very in-depth, but relatively comprehensive.

Very good book! It involves a lot of daily social situations. I took notes for each chapter. I haven't finished reading it yet, but I couldn't help but write a review for it in advance [laughing] It has helped me solve a lot of problems I have encountered. After trying to use these contents recently, I feel that my social circle has become much larger, and I have become more confident and cheerful! Very cool! This book has been included in my list of favorite books [Blow a kiss]

You can listen to this book several times and use it in your life. Very practical. Worth watching again and again.

Very good book

Communication is an art. The book gives many communication skills. Of course, some of the examples may not be suitable for our social habits, but generally they are of reference significance.

Practical and can really solve many problems encountered in life!

Very practical, much better than those boastful running accounts.

Increase people's wisdom

Full of useful information for the second time

Very good books

It's like I want to change my book [make a face][make a face]

Some views are easy to apply to life, and overall they are very practical.

The social approach of this book worked really well for me.

Some places are a little difficult to understand, but some examples are also given, but these examples generally belong to a category that is quite difficult to understand on the whole.

After reading this, I will come back again when I am rich in the spiritual world.

This book tells and summarizes how to communicate correctly from a personal perspective.

Logical, clear, and very helpful in communication

It's very practical. Although I haven't tried it yet [laughs], it provides a lot of new ideas.

This book helps people stay calm in many specific social situations and handle some situations with ease, which has benefited people a lot [laughs]

Many communication skills, simple and clear, easy to understand, full of useful information, very practical!