Please Stay Away from People Who Consume You

Reading a good book is like chatting with a noble person. While reading this book, I felt very cordial, because Uncle Shanglong is like a very good and kind friend. He will listen patiently and answer your doubts. The problems encountered by readers of Mei Feng's letters are actually the same problems we often encounter, so when I read a certain story, I always feel very empathetic. The suggestions inside are all worth learning from. In general, it is to continue to learn, to contribute, to work hard, to build yourself, love yourself first, and only with small love can you have great love. Facing the world with a rational attitude does not mean simply dividing the world into good and evil. A sentence that impressed me deeply is that everything in the world comes with the purpose of benefit, and all the turmoil in the world has the purpose of benefit. The reason why we feel that the people around us are good or evil to us actually depends on your own value. When your own value is great, you will find that the world is kind. When you are not qualified enough to support other people's love, you will find that the world is full of malice towards you. So sometimes being bullied by others is not intentional by others, but you ask for it yourself. As long as you are hurt all over, you will not be hurt, and you will not be hurt by others. What's ridiculous is that you don't even have the ability to protect yourself, but you always pretend to be pitiful from the perspective of the victim.

This book is like a caring friend, giving me a lot of practical advice. Teacher Shang Long said in the book, "The wrong people can only consume each other's lives; only by embracing the right people can they nourish each other." This sentence really makes sense! It made me understand that in love, you have to stay away from people who consume you in order to find the right person. This book not only has theories, but also methods, which are very helpful for our mental health and allow us to become better versions of ourselves. I think every girl who is in love can read it, and she will definitely gain something! 🥰

The question-and-answer writing style seems to be the first time I have encountered it, but many of the problems are also problems we all encounter. The author uses examples from himself or friends around him to make readers feel more convincing. After reading the whole book, what is left in the mind is the last thing: keep learning, stay optimistic, keep exercising, pay attention to health and improve yourself. Perhaps the summary is that if you bloom butterflies, how to bloom is a topic of cultivation. If you are physically and mentally healthy, you can bloom with an environment, nutrition and light [learned][learned][learned]

"Stay away from people who consume you" What is the underlying logic of emotion? 1. Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. Don't force anyone to change, the only one you can change is yourself. 2. Love yourself and others will love you. How to get along with competitors? 1. Win-win cooperation to maximize benefits. 2. Pay more attention to yourself and develop resources. When you reach middle age, can you still have good friends? 1. Don't be like Xianglin's wife, who talks about your bad things everywhere. What he got in return was not sympathy, but after-dinner conversation and ridicule. Want to gain respect from others. Only by making some achievements can you be respected. 2. A true friend is someone who provides help in times of need. 3. Only equal exchange can lead to equal social interaction. 4. Don't talk about your achievements everywhere, no one wants you to live better than him, keep a low profile. Should I make more friends in college? Humans are social animals and should make more friends. Take the initiative to make friends. Introduce friends to friends and form your own hyperlinks. What should I do if I am harassed? Try not to be alone with two people. Set clear boundaries. Inform parents. What should I do if my partner doesn't respect me? If you are spiritually rich and financially independent, the other person will definitely respect you. If you act like you can't live without the other person, why should the other person think highly of you? What if the pleaser personality changes? 1. Dare to say "no". 2. Use procrastination. How do introverts handle relationships? 1. The more prepared you are, the less likely you will be nervous. 2. Show what you have done. 3. Push. Get out of your comfort zone. Change appropriately. Learn to separate tasks and figure out whose life task it is, "It's none of my business, it's none of your business." Solve many problems. How to study efficiently? 1. Stay focused. 2. Exercise appropriately. A learning method I have used before is to walk while walking. 3. Work hard with a result-oriented approach. 4. Provide timely feedback. Review learning method. What should I do if I can't speak? 1. When you can't speak, stay silent. There is a saying that silence is golden. 2. Think carefully before speaking. 3. By asking each other questions, you can add more topics. 4. How to improve concentration 1. When you have an important exam or interview, calm down, don't take it too seriously, and let your hormones return to normal levels. Find your own attention zone and make good use of it. 2. Stay away from sources of interference. 3. Attention outsourcing. In fact, you can make a daily itinerary or write a diary every day. 4. Strategic distraction can improve efficiency and make you more focused. What should I do if I feel like I am not interested in anything? The important thing is to do it rather than think about it. All changes only make sense when you make changes. I know it is difficult to take the first step, but when you take the first step, there will be a second step. Go ahead and try. It doesn't matter even if you fail. At least you tried hard and have no regrets. How to take notes on reading? 1. Instead of underlining, excerpt. 2. It may be better to use a mind map to do it. 2. Read it a second time in two days. What should I do if I have no passion for work? 1. Riding a donkey to find a horse, starting a business. 2. Develop side businesses. 3. Increase the sense of ritual. 4. Improve the ability of this position. 5. Adjust work rhythm and learn skills. What should I do if I have no confidence in the future? 1. Accumulate but gain little, 2. Record every day. 3. Keep communicating with people 4. Increase revenue and reduce expenditure. 5. Keep communicating with people. 5. Increase revenue and reduce expenditure. This book is a book of answers. I saw many answers in this book and it cured my anxiety.

96 Letters, 96 answers, very realistic questions, and very sincere answers. The author has really read a lot of books, and the suggestions are more specific and detailed. After reading them, I got a lot of inspiration! Read a book! Sports! ₍₍ᕕ(´･ᴗ･)ᕗ⁾⁾

This book is the answer to a hundred questions, and the author patiently answers them like a close sister. The article mentioned a lot about my friend Balabala, and I wondered if he was using my friend to hide himself, or if there really are so many people who care about others.

Finished reading on June 20, 2024. The principle of life is very simple. All we can do is to do one of the simple things to live a better life. As long as we do one of the things well, solidify it and do the next thing again, then good habits in life will be developed, and we will live better than before. Simplicity is also an attitude towards life. Don't be impetuous, don't be in a hurry, and walk slowly. The road may be curved, but we are always on the best path in life.

For the first time, I took it seriously and insisted on reading a letter every day to finish reading a book. After reading this book, I really benefited a lot, and it also made me deeply feel the importance of reading. Every letter of the author answers the questions very seriously, and it is impressive. Thanks to the author for sharing so many good ideas and suggestions.

The author responded to various questions from netizens in the society in the form of letters, including those related to study, family, work, and life. It let me know that the later I work, the higher the social cost and the fewer opportunities. In short, there are many. Love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families. Thank you to the author.

Great. Read more, your horizons and pattern will be really different

I accidentally pushed a book here, but I read it with great interest. I like the text and examples that are close to reality. This book not only points out the problems, but also puts forward specific methods to solve the problems.

I read Teacher Shang Long's book three years ago. Three years ago, it accompanied me when I was confused in college, and now it accompanies me when I am confused at work. Give me some pointers and teach me how to live a good life.

The stories described by the author are realistic and can help us with the troubles we encountered in practice. It calmed my mind and made me fall in love with reading. It's not that reading is useless, reading is a very interesting thing.

After listening to this, it was really a Pelican initiation.

Purely theoretical books cannot answer many questions This question-and-answer book solves many problems in making friends and self-criticism. The author's response is clear and easy to understand without mixing personal emotions. I wish everyone who is lucky enough to read this book will have a better and better circle of friends.

Let our many troubled lives suddenly become clearer!

Many confusions were answered one by one. It was a very good lecture.

It's very interesting, rich in content, well written, very real, practical and inspiring!

Good. Many cases, many pertinent suggestions, thank you.

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There are many things you should know about life

Very easy to understand and very useful.

Very good and clear content

A very reasonable book

It provides reference and ideas for problems that most of us encounter or may encounter in our lives.

Learned a lot from this book

A very good book. After reading this book, it may also be helpful to you who are at a low point, confused and trapped in life.

There are many classic words in it that are very resonant.

The biggest feature of this book is that it contains questions and answers. Everyone can find corresponding solutions to various problems encountered in daily life. It is a very good book that provides the right medicine.

The logic is quite clear and the text is very attractive. I was very touched by this one of the few books that is very serious. I wish I had listened to this book earlier.