Each of us longs to get out of loneliness and fall in love with others. The more important a person is, the more we will
Treat him the way you know how. But many times, the subtext behind this desire is: Because I love you, everything I do is for your own good, so you have to listen to me, respond and do things according to my expectations. The so-called "good for you" often means imposing one's will on others.
Under this logic, falling in love becomes imposition and a war to control each other. Although we all long for love and have loved before, the terrible loneliness haunts us from time to time, making intimacy close to us.
Popular and well-known psychologist Wu Zhihong has insight into the deep psychological mechanism behind loneliness. From a psychological perspective, combined with a large number of real cases, he can help you see the true appearance of relationships, break the narcissistic wall between people, end the game of power and control, let true love and freedom return to family members and lovers, and turn narcissism into self-love.
Reader comments
The author analyzes why the more we fall in love with each other, the farther and farther apart we are. What we love is not the lover but the projection of my imaginary lover on him. You have never seen the real him. People who love each other cannot see each other. We are all keen on playing the ABC game and forcing our own ideas on each other. But the more we do this, the farther away we become.
This book is very enlightening. It made me understand why we feel lonely in love. In fact, many times it is because we impose our will on each other. As the book says: "The so-called 'for your own good' often means imposing one's will on others." We should learn to understand and respect each other in order to truly have a healthy intimate relationship. The cases in this book are also very real and worth reading.
After finishing reading, I have read a lot of books on psychology, but I can't understand many of them and can't stand them anymore. Teacher Wu's book is basically readable, and I probably agree more with his way of expression. Every time I read Teacher Wu's book, I feel calm inside!
Some of the scenes and stories described in the book made it easy for me, who has no psychology background, to penetrate and understand some subconscious content, and also discover my own inner behavioral patterns. Worth a look.
The front looks pretty good.
Inspiring, very good👍
Reading Teacher Wu's books can change your outlook on life, and when applied to life, you can understand many things that you can't figure out.
The author analyzes why the more we fall in love with each other, the farther and farther apart we are. What we love is not the lover but the projection of my imaginary lover on him. You have never seen the real him. People who love each other cannot see each other. We are all keen on playing the ABC game and forcing our own ideas on each other. But the more we do this, the farther away we become.
This book is very enlightening. It made me understand why we feel lonely in love. In fact, many times it is because we impose our will on each other. As the book says: "The so-called 'for your own good' often means imposing one's will on others." We should learn to understand and respect each other in order to truly have a healthy intimate relationship. The cases in this book are also very real and worth reading.
After finishing reading, I have read a lot of books on psychology, but I can't understand many of them and can't stand them anymore. Teacher Wu's book is basically readable, and I probably agree more with his way of expression. Every time I read Teacher Wu's book, I feel calm inside!
Some of the scenes and stories described in the book made it easy for me, who has no psychology background, to penetrate and understand some subconscious content, and also discover my own inner behavioral patterns. Worth a look.
The front looks pretty good.
Inspiring, very good👍
Reading Teacher Wu's books can change your outlook on life, and when applied to life, you can understand many things that you can't figure out.