The famous feminist scholar Chizuru Ueno wrote a sober book for all women! Simplified Chinese version introduced for the first time! "This debate is because we trust each other."
Focusing on issues such as intimacy, marriage, and independence that women care about, sociologist Chizuru Ueno and psychologist Sayoko Shinoda began a sharp feminist Q&A. The two "women's allies" started from sociological statistics and the state of mind of front-line women respectively, combined with their own observation and research experience, discussed and thought about the current marriage system and the reality of marriage and love faced by women from a female perspective, and talked freely about the concept of love, social gender, male observation, mother-daughter relationship and other topics that women cannot escape in daily life. They opened their hearts and spoke frankly. The two scholars use their unique perspectives and sharp language to encourage women to live their own lives and freely choose their own lives!
Reader comments
I excerpted some of my favorite passages from the book: Getting married does not restart life, and not getting married does not mean that the future will be dark. Although family members can provide a certain amount of security, they can sometimes turn into the greatest risk.
For men, marriage is just a part of life. Now for women, the meaning of marriage is also moving closer to it. This is a good thing. Marriage does not completely change your life. Sometimes a husband and children are beneficial, and sometimes they are no better, but that's all.
Marriage is not something that must be experienced. Once people have this concept, they will have more energy to think about: What is a good marriage? What makes a good family?
I think a society where marriage and divorce are both options is a better society for women.
Maybe in this era of urging marriage, we really need these thoughts. Don't let yourself enter marriage blindly and ignorantly. Others or even your parents will not pay for your life if they urge marriage. You are the only person responsible for your life. You must also have financial strength and financial independence before you can say "no" and have more choices. I hope everyone can have freedom in marriage, economy, and life.
It is a thoughtful book. Some of the proper nouns of the island countries are not well understood, but this does not affect the understanding of the content. The solution given at the end of the article is also reasonable. The economic foundation determines the upper-level construction. Only when you are financially independent can you pursue deep spiritual pursuits. Otherwise, most people can only follow the trend. The article's linking of feminism with the mother-daughter relationship is a very novel point of view for me. It makes me loose my avoidance of family relationships. The right approach is to reconcile with the family, understand the limitations of the family's thoughts, and work hard to adjust.
This book is very real. It does not blindly emphasize how women should be, but allows us to see the choices and dilemmas of different women through the dialogue between Chizuru Ueno and Sayoko Shinoda. I like a sentence in the book: "Women are not a role, but a choice." This made me start to think about my own life and want to be brave enough to make my own choices. This book was like chatting with a friend and gave me a lot of inspiration.
Recommended reading, after reading this I want to tell myself: live how you want, you are no one's accessory. Don't settle.
It's a good read, but I don't have enough experience and I still don't understand some parts.
There are many examples and the explanation is very easy to understand.
The conversation between Ueno and Shinoda is worth watching and thinking about carefully...
Worth reading and learning again and again
I feel like reading it once is not enough.
Ah, it turns out that the proposition of life is to change yourself, change yourself? Change destiny? Change personality? Change the situation? What should we change about ourselves?
I excerpted some of my favorite passages from the book: Getting married does not restart life, and not getting married does not mean that the future will be dark. Although family members can provide a certain amount of security, they can sometimes turn into the greatest risk. For men, marriage is just a part of life. Now for women, the meaning of marriage is also moving closer to it. This is a good thing. Marriage does not completely change your life. Sometimes a husband and children are beneficial, and sometimes they are no better, but that's all. Marriage is not something that must be experienced. Once people have this concept, they will have more energy to think about: What is a good marriage? What makes a good family? I think a society where marriage and divorce are both options is a better society for women. Maybe in this era of urging marriage, we really need these thoughts. Don't let yourself enter marriage blindly and ignorantly. Others or even your parents will not pay for your life if they urge marriage. You are the only person responsible for your life. You must also have financial strength and financial independence before you can say "no" and have more choices. I hope everyone can have freedom in marriage, economy, and life.
It is a thoughtful book. Some of the proper nouns of the island countries are not well understood, but this does not affect the understanding of the content. The solution given at the end of the article is also reasonable. The economic foundation determines the upper-level construction. Only when you are financially independent can you pursue deep spiritual pursuits. Otherwise, most people can only follow the trend. The article's linking of feminism with the mother-daughter relationship is a very novel point of view for me. It makes me loose my avoidance of family relationships. The right approach is to reconcile with the family, understand the limitations of the family's thoughts, and work hard to adjust.
This book is very real. It does not blindly emphasize how women should be, but allows us to see the choices and dilemmas of different women through the dialogue between Chizuru Ueno and Sayoko Shinoda. I like a sentence in the book: "Women are not a role, but a choice." This made me start to think about my own life and want to be brave enough to make my own choices. This book was like chatting with a friend and gave me a lot of inspiration.
Recommended reading, after reading this I want to tell myself: live how you want, you are no one's accessory. Don't settle.
It's a good read, but I don't have enough experience and I still don't understand some parts.
There are many examples and the explanation is very easy to understand.
The conversation between Ueno and Shinoda is worth watching and thinking about carefully...
Worth reading and learning again and again
I feel like reading it once is not enough.
Ah, it turns out that the proposition of life is to change yourself, change yourself? Change destiny? Change personality? Change the situation? What should we change about ourselves?