The film and television drama "Family" is the original work of the novel of the same name. The heroine Brocade is supposed to have a beautiful life of her own, but the reality is that it only looks tender and tender on the surface. Her boyfriend who had been in love for many years still chose to give up on her at the most critical moment. She had no choice but to marry He Chunsheng in accordance with her father's idea of repaying his kindness to the He family. An urban white-collar worker and a common man, two people with different family cultures, form a marriage, and a war begins with the mutual penetration of family culture as the background. When one person thinks that he can change another person's attitude towards life, it is a mistake to have blind confidence. Zhijin and He Chunsheng made this mistake at the same time, and both suffered losses. Love, under the "family status" is like a white lie. When they realize this, their chances of recovery are extremely slim...
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All love should be fulfilled.
In the first half of the book, I have always felt sorry for He Chunsheng's character. I felt sorry for him not getting the love of the brocade, for his miserable life, and for his miserable family. But later on, I became increasingly disgusted with this person, who was sensitive, selfish and irresponsible. In the beginning of the book, Zhijin's brother is actually quite sober. He knew that his sister would be unhappy if she married He Chunsheng, so he was very opposed to it from the beginning. However, Zhijin finally aggrieved himself and fulfilled his father's last wish. Brocade's repeated setbacks in a relationship only resulted in He Chunsheng doing whatever he wanted. He Chunsheng's villain thoughts are very serious, because the family environment and acquired education have not kept up, which is in sharp contrast with the brocade's three views, so this also directly reflects the disagreement between their three views.
In fact, the love and hatred of one generation should not be grafted onto the next generation. It is difficult for people to achieve true empathy. If emotions are directly grafted on, the seemingly happy life will actually be riddled with holes. Brother Zhijin's marriage, Ma Xiaolong's marriage, and Zhijin's marriage are all typical examples. The title of the book is "Family Status". The characters' marriages are based on their family status, and their failure is still based on their family status.
I finished reading it in one breath. Family status is not the distance between people, but the insurmountable cognition and ability, conservative concepts and personality. Marriage still needs to be more realistic and relaxed.
I feel that the novel is more exciting than the TV series, and at the same time, it is closer to life than some modern so-called "cool articles". In the novel, the male protagonist is not as gentle, accommodating and loyal as we expected. Instead, he has obvious shortcomings such as sensitivity and low self-esteem. In fact, it is the same in life. There is a gap between ideal and reality after all. It is good to have a harmonious family and happy lovers, but real life is often a mess. At the same time, in a relationship, the two people should be equal in "three views". If they look at issues in opposite directions, they are bound to be painful. I think this should be the "disciple" that the author wants to emphasize, not just the differences in money, knowledge and other issues.
The TV series already gave me a very realistic feeling, but I didn't expect the original work to look more delicate.
Different origins, different upbringings, different values, different lifestyles, we are indeed not from the same place! Even if they reluctantly get together, they torture each other and feel aggrieved.
It is a very delicately written and very real book. I felt sick to my stomach when I read this book. It is very successful. The characters in it are well portrayed.
Lian Jian writes in the preface that if He Chunsheng is written as a truly honest person, then we will look down on him. I think it is true, but after reading it, I still feel that I despise him. This contempt and disgust coexist. He Chunsheng is poor, but poverty is not a shield for his character flaws. No matter who he is with, he cannot hide his inner cowardice, selfishness and vanity. If something happens, he will only vent his anger on the weak and bow to the strong. He doesn't think about improving himself and just blames others. This is a kind of self-protection. This kind of self-esteem is ridiculous. I really want to call him a "macho", but in my mind, the definition of a man is someone who can resist things, but you just have to obey him. He Chunsheng is not worthy, he can't do anything, and he still wants you to be obedient. He is a typical image of an old fritter. No matter how much you say, he is just a piece of shit, he won't listen, he just gets by.
I think He Chunsheng and Ding Xiaoman are a perfect match. A couple is a dog-eat-dog couple, both of whom are cheating on each other. Ding Xiaoman intended to seduce, but He Chunsheng had evil intentions. And the inner world of the two people is the same.
The book says that family status is the biggest obstacle to marriage. I think family background is just a cover, and the real obstacle is two people's outlook on life. A solid family background gives people innate self-confidence, luxury cars and fine clothes add luster to people, and money and power bring broadened horizons. Poverty makes people care about everything. These are all differences in people's minds. If you are poor, but you are motivated, you are still attractive. Being poor does not mean that you cannot live your life seriously.
For example, Luo Zhijin loves to be clean, but He Chunsheng thinks she is spoiled and has a bad habit. After being advised, he still throws clothes around to show his resistance. Many of He Chunsheng's ideas make me feel ridiculous and sad. Maupassant loved to write about people like He Chunsheng.
In this relationship, Luo Zhijin seemed to be the one in charge, but in fact she gave in step by step. She always paid attention to He Chunsheng. For example, Luo Jincheng asked his connections to sell cakes in the supermarket. He Chunsheng was unwilling and felt that he was being left out. Brocade kept looking for compensation. After all, He Chunsheng has never regarded himself as a member of this family. He has always been benefited, and he obviously wants to be grateful, but he refuses to accept it. He feels that he cannot do this. Instead, he has no gratitude at all, as if someone else owes him. He didn't really love Luo Zhijin. His love in the past was just to love Luo Zhijin as an unobtainable treasure to satisfy his vanity. If he truly loved her, he would not book a single room just to save money, nor would he only care about his children and his wife.
Speaking of Luo Zhijin, because he wrote early, many of his concepts are different. For example, after Luo Zhijin was betrayed, she was not sad, but she fell into self-denial. If it were changed to now, an executive who has crossed over from a company and a person from a good family would not doubt himself because of a couple. What is true love? It's really ridiculous.
I really like the author's way of expression, it's unforgettable! Secondly, before you understand the marriage, you have already fallen into it, and it is too late to regret it. With children, the cost of divorce is too high for you to bear! Finally, I recommend young people aged 20-30 to read it. After reading it, you will have a new understanding of marriage and family, which can help you avoid detours. This is what determines your lifelong happiness!
It's a very real feeling. My husband and I are from different walks of life. It didn't show when we first got married, but it shows vividly in educating our children in our married life. This person is really not perfect.
People's growing environment, cultural background, personality differences, and different outlooks are the biggest obstacles to marriage and family. On the surface, the distance between people is caused by appearance, family background, disciples, and wealth. At the deepest level, it is the distance between hearts caused by different cognitive abilities and differences in outlook. There is no boat that can cross the world, but people can cross it by themselves.
It took me a while to read it, but after reading it, two people who were incompatible with each other finally helped each other. I feel sorry for the tapestry, and those who look down upon it will always look down upon them. Going round and round, the one who gets hurt in the end is himself. Fortunately, I hope that Brocade will be able to meet a partner who likes her and has the same views in the long years.
The author describes the psychological activities of the little people at the bottom of society well. My only regret is that the author should arrange a side story for such a good brocade woman so that she can have a good ending. The TV series has a happy ending. [Like][Like][Like]
It's a book worth reading. Family status in marriage doesn't just mean being a good match, but it also includes three views. Young people must not blindly walk into the besieged city when they are not ready. They will spend a lifetime of happiness to pay for today's impulse. Life is not easy, so don't create pain.
Real life is like this. Some people can walk past the trivial things, while others lose themselves. Meeting the right person at the right time is perfection.
The inferiority complex distorts a once-loving soul, tearing it apart bit by bit, until in the end only a fleshless skeleton is left. If they are of the same family and are equal, they may be able to maintain their marriages under almost equal conditions. The book is well written, short and concise, the plot is delicate, and the fireworks of life are very strong. It is worth reading.
We are a good match, not only materially, but also spiritually. Spiritual wealth and ideological dimension are the superposition of material and love. And a person's fate will be turned upside down due to sudden accidents. Fate is destiny, and so is luck.
I like this book very much, and I have also watched the TV series. The heroine in it is called Luo Xiaobei.
Regarding the love story, the author criticizes the harm caused by the third party to the marriage, and also reveals the pain this "love" brings to their relatives. Each of us should cherish love, marriage, and care for our families!
In fact, the portal level is only part of the excuse. How can people who have had love not have some setbacks? Brocade has been in a love crisis since she was born/The adaptation of the TV series and the original work is very different, but no matter what, each has its own advantages/Can't get what you want, resentment will be there, and it's hard to let go...
It would be great if Brocade could be with Ma Xiaolong in the end
I watched the TV series of the same name many years ago and felt that the ending was very happy. Now that I have read the original work, I feel that the family background in the novel version is more delicate and real. Family status is not just about being in the same household, it should be about the equivalence from thought to cognition between two people who are well-matched. I think this is the original intention of "family status" that the author wants to express. This novel is very exciting and very sad. I just sigh that Brocade is a good girl who accidentally became a victim of marriage. This may be fate, what a pity!
2025.9.1 Listen and read
I read this book ten years ago, but I couldn't remember the name of the protagonist or the plot at all. I didn't remember that I had actually read it until I read the last paragraph of the book [laughing and crying]
The experience of re-reading this book is different. In the book, the lives of Luo Zhijin and the three families of He Chunsheng, Luo Jincheng and He Shunsheng are bumpy and bumpy, but the endings are different. Just as the author said, a high-quality marriage is when two people compromise with each other's family culture and finally reach a level of tolerance that allows them to appreciate each other. A middle-class marriage is when one person compromises first and no one is willing to compromise. It is a low-quality marriage that will eventually be damaged. It can be seen from this that family status is quite important. It will be very painful for people from the two circles to achieve a high-class marriage. Even if they want to achieve a middle-class marriage, it is difficult. Just as the protagonist Luo Zhijin has been patient and compromised, but He Chunsheng has not been able to cross the hurdle of family status. Everyone should have a clear understanding and positioning of themselves. If they want to cross the circle, they must know whether their dignity allows it. How should we evaluate Xiaolong Ma? On the surface he is a great man who gave up his love for his mother, but in fact he trapped himself in love, tortured himself and made his mother regretful.
If the family is not in the right place, people from two worlds will not be happy even if they are forced to be together.
Alas, I feel sorry for the brocade. He Chunsheng is really not worthy.
I feel sorry for Brocade's married life, especially the period of raising children. Even if a man is too unreliable, even if he doesn't love her, he should still have some fatherly love and take on the responsibility of raising children. The ending is tight, a little sad and relieving. The writing is quite good and the psychological description is vivid. After reading it, I felt very calm. Do we need to close the gap between people? It shouldn't be necessary. Real intimacy may not need to be too deliberate to be relaxed and long-term.
It feels very real, gathering every bit of life, deliberately real and touching, and the characters are vivid and delicate.
That's good. It makes sense that marriage should be about well-matched couples. That's how real life is.
Someone who is not at the same level of consumption as you can never fall in love or even become a family member with him. The living habits you have developed will make them extremely sensitive anytime and anywhere, and they will even hurt you with thorns all over your body. The inferiority complex in your bones cannot be eliminated. Do not imagine that it will change, it will only get worse. Equality in the spiritual world must be based on material equality.
The characterization is very rich and delicate
The storyline of this book is real and thought-provoking. It reveals the impact of differences in family status on marriage and allows us to understand that conflicts in marriage often stem from differences in life attitudes. The characters in the book are vivid and the plot is full of ups and downs, making it very enjoyable to read. At the same time, it also makes us think about how to understand and tolerate each other in marriage so that we can have a beautiful marriage.
Too cruel but true
A mismatched marriage, where two people with different views forcefully get together, is destined to be a tragedy, both caused by their parents.
All love should be fulfilled. In the first half of the book, I have always felt sorry for He Chunsheng's character. I felt sorry for him not getting the love of the brocade, for his miserable life, and for his miserable family. But later on, I became increasingly disgusted with this person, who was sensitive, selfish and irresponsible. In the beginning of the book, Zhijin's brother is actually quite sober. He knew that his sister would be unhappy if she married He Chunsheng, so he was very opposed to it from the beginning. However, Zhijin finally aggrieved himself and fulfilled his father's last wish. Brocade's repeated setbacks in a relationship only resulted in He Chunsheng doing whatever he wanted. He Chunsheng's villain thoughts are very serious, because the family environment and acquired education have not kept up, which is in sharp contrast with the brocade's three views, so this also directly reflects the disagreement between their three views. In fact, the love and hatred of one generation should not be grafted onto the next generation. It is difficult for people to achieve true empathy. If emotions are directly grafted on, the seemingly happy life will actually be riddled with holes. Brother Zhijin's marriage, Ma Xiaolong's marriage, and Zhijin's marriage are all typical examples. The title of the book is "Family Status". The characters' marriages are based on their family status, and their failure is still based on their family status.
I finished reading it in one breath. Family status is not the distance between people, but the insurmountable cognition and ability, conservative concepts and personality. Marriage still needs to be more realistic and relaxed.
I feel that the novel is more exciting than the TV series, and at the same time, it is closer to life than some modern so-called "cool articles". In the novel, the male protagonist is not as gentle, accommodating and loyal as we expected. Instead, he has obvious shortcomings such as sensitivity and low self-esteem. In fact, it is the same in life. There is a gap between ideal and reality after all. It is good to have a harmonious family and happy lovers, but real life is often a mess. At the same time, in a relationship, the two people should be equal in "three views". If they look at issues in opposite directions, they are bound to be painful. I think this should be the "disciple" that the author wants to emphasize, not just the differences in money, knowledge and other issues.
The TV series already gave me a very realistic feeling, but I didn't expect the original work to look more delicate.
Different origins, different upbringings, different values, different lifestyles, we are indeed not from the same place! Even if they reluctantly get together, they torture each other and feel aggrieved.
It is a very delicately written and very real book. I felt sick to my stomach when I read this book. It is very successful. The characters in it are well portrayed. Lian Jian writes in the preface that if He Chunsheng is written as a truly honest person, then we will look down on him. I think it is true, but after reading it, I still feel that I despise him. This contempt and disgust coexist. He Chunsheng is poor, but poverty is not a shield for his character flaws. No matter who he is with, he cannot hide his inner cowardice, selfishness and vanity. If something happens, he will only vent his anger on the weak and bow to the strong. He doesn't think about improving himself and just blames others. This is a kind of self-protection. This kind of self-esteem is ridiculous. I really want to call him a "macho", but in my mind, the definition of a man is someone who can resist things, but you just have to obey him. He Chunsheng is not worthy, he can't do anything, and he still wants you to be obedient. He is a typical image of an old fritter. No matter how much you say, he is just a piece of shit, he won't listen, he just gets by. I think He Chunsheng and Ding Xiaoman are a perfect match. A couple is a dog-eat-dog couple, both of whom are cheating on each other. Ding Xiaoman intended to seduce, but He Chunsheng had evil intentions. And the inner world of the two people is the same. The book says that family status is the biggest obstacle to marriage. I think family background is just a cover, and the real obstacle is two people's outlook on life. A solid family background gives people innate self-confidence, luxury cars and fine clothes add luster to people, and money and power bring broadened horizons. Poverty makes people care about everything. These are all differences in people's minds. If you are poor, but you are motivated, you are still attractive. Being poor does not mean that you cannot live your life seriously. For example, Luo Zhijin loves to be clean, but He Chunsheng thinks she is spoiled and has a bad habit. After being advised, he still throws clothes around to show his resistance. Many of He Chunsheng's ideas make me feel ridiculous and sad. Maupassant loved to write about people like He Chunsheng. In this relationship, Luo Zhijin seemed to be the one in charge, but in fact she gave in step by step. She always paid attention to He Chunsheng. For example, Luo Jincheng asked his connections to sell cakes in the supermarket. He Chunsheng was unwilling and felt that he was being left out. Brocade kept looking for compensation. After all, He Chunsheng has never regarded himself as a member of this family. He has always been benefited, and he obviously wants to be grateful, but he refuses to accept it. He feels that he cannot do this. Instead, he has no gratitude at all, as if someone else owes him. He didn't really love Luo Zhijin. His love in the past was just to love Luo Zhijin as an unobtainable treasure to satisfy his vanity. If he truly loved her, he would not book a single room just to save money, nor would he only care about his children and his wife. Speaking of Luo Zhijin, because he wrote early, many of his concepts are different. For example, after Luo Zhijin was betrayed, she was not sad, but she fell into self-denial. If it were changed to now, an executive who has crossed over from a company and a person from a good family would not doubt himself because of a couple. What is true love? It's really ridiculous.
I really like the author's way of expression, it's unforgettable! Secondly, before you understand the marriage, you have already fallen into it, and it is too late to regret it. With children, the cost of divorce is too high for you to bear! Finally, I recommend young people aged 20-30 to read it. After reading it, you will have a new understanding of marriage and family, which can help you avoid detours. This is what determines your lifelong happiness!
It's a very real feeling. My husband and I are from different walks of life. It didn't show when we first got married, but it shows vividly in educating our children in our married life. This person is really not perfect.
People's growing environment, cultural background, personality differences, and different outlooks are the biggest obstacles to marriage and family. On the surface, the distance between people is caused by appearance, family background, disciples, and wealth. At the deepest level, it is the distance between hearts caused by different cognitive abilities and differences in outlook. There is no boat that can cross the world, but people can cross it by themselves.
It took me a while to read it, but after reading it, two people who were incompatible with each other finally helped each other. I feel sorry for the tapestry, and those who look down upon it will always look down upon them. Going round and round, the one who gets hurt in the end is himself. Fortunately, I hope that Brocade will be able to meet a partner who likes her and has the same views in the long years.
The author describes the psychological activities of the little people at the bottom of society well. My only regret is that the author should arrange a side story for such a good brocade woman so that she can have a good ending. The TV series has a happy ending. [Like][Like][Like]
It's a book worth reading. Family status in marriage doesn't just mean being a good match, but it also includes three views. Young people must not blindly walk into the besieged city when they are not ready. They will spend a lifetime of happiness to pay for today's impulse. Life is not easy, so don't create pain.
Real life is like this. Some people can walk past the trivial things, while others lose themselves. Meeting the right person at the right time is perfection.
The inferiority complex distorts a once-loving soul, tearing it apart bit by bit, until in the end only a fleshless skeleton is left. If they are of the same family and are equal, they may be able to maintain their marriages under almost equal conditions. The book is well written, short and concise, the plot is delicate, and the fireworks of life are very strong. It is worth reading.
We are a good match, not only materially, but also spiritually. Spiritual wealth and ideological dimension are the superposition of material and love. And a person's fate will be turned upside down due to sudden accidents. Fate is destiny, and so is luck.
I like this book very much, and I have also watched the TV series. The heroine in it is called Luo Xiaobei.
Regarding the love story, the author criticizes the harm caused by the third party to the marriage, and also reveals the pain this "love" brings to their relatives. Each of us should cherish love, marriage, and care for our families!
In fact, the portal level is only part of the excuse. How can people who have had love not have some setbacks? Brocade has been in a love crisis since she was born/The adaptation of the TV series and the original work is very different, but no matter what, each has its own advantages/Can't get what you want, resentment will be there, and it's hard to let go...
It would be great if Brocade could be with Ma Xiaolong in the end
I watched the TV series of the same name many years ago and felt that the ending was very happy. Now that I have read the original work, I feel that the family background in the novel version is more delicate and real. Family status is not just about being in the same household, it should be about the equivalence from thought to cognition between two people who are well-matched. I think this is the original intention of "family status" that the author wants to express. This novel is very exciting and very sad. I just sigh that Brocade is a good girl who accidentally became a victim of marriage. This may be fate, what a pity!
2025.9.1 Listen and read I read this book ten years ago, but I couldn't remember the name of the protagonist or the plot at all. I didn't remember that I had actually read it until I read the last paragraph of the book [laughing and crying] The experience of re-reading this book is different. In the book, the lives of Luo Zhijin and the three families of He Chunsheng, Luo Jincheng and He Shunsheng are bumpy and bumpy, but the endings are different. Just as the author said, a high-quality marriage is when two people compromise with each other's family culture and finally reach a level of tolerance that allows them to appreciate each other. A middle-class marriage is when one person compromises first and no one is willing to compromise. It is a low-quality marriage that will eventually be damaged. It can be seen from this that family status is quite important. It will be very painful for people from the two circles to achieve a high-class marriage. Even if they want to achieve a middle-class marriage, it is difficult. Just as the protagonist Luo Zhijin has been patient and compromised, but He Chunsheng has not been able to cross the hurdle of family status. Everyone should have a clear understanding and positioning of themselves. If they want to cross the circle, they must know whether their dignity allows it. How should we evaluate Xiaolong Ma? On the surface he is a great man who gave up his love for his mother, but in fact he trapped himself in love, tortured himself and made his mother regretful.
If the family is not in the right place, people from two worlds will not be happy even if they are forced to be together. Alas, I feel sorry for the brocade. He Chunsheng is really not worthy.
I feel sorry for Brocade's married life, especially the period of raising children. Even if a man is too unreliable, even if he doesn't love her, he should still have some fatherly love and take on the responsibility of raising children. The ending is tight, a little sad and relieving. The writing is quite good and the psychological description is vivid. After reading it, I felt very calm. Do we need to close the gap between people? It shouldn't be necessary. Real intimacy may not need to be too deliberate to be relaxed and long-term.
It feels very real, gathering every bit of life, deliberately real and touching, and the characters are vivid and delicate.
That's good. It makes sense that marriage should be about well-matched couples. That's how real life is.
Someone who is not at the same level of consumption as you can never fall in love or even become a family member with him. The living habits you have developed will make them extremely sensitive anytime and anywhere, and they will even hurt you with thorns all over your body. The inferiority complex in your bones cannot be eliminated. Do not imagine that it will change, it will only get worse. Equality in the spiritual world must be based on material equality.
The characterization is very rich and delicate
The storyline of this book is real and thought-provoking. It reveals the impact of differences in family status on marriage and allows us to understand that conflicts in marriage often stem from differences in life attitudes. The characters in the book are vivid and the plot is full of ups and downs, making it very enjoyable to read. At the same time, it also makes us think about how to understand and tolerate each other in marriage so that we can have a beautiful marriage.
Too cruel but true
A mismatched marriage, where two people with different views forcefully get together, is destined to be a tragedy, both caused by their parents.