The Art of Love (Fromm Works Series)

This is a very good book. As a person who has just worked for a few years, he has no worries about food and clothing. From this book, I learned that my lack of love does not mean that no one loves me, but that I cannot love others. This is probably the reason why I am still unhappy even though I have no worries about food and clothing. The future development direction should be towards learning to love. This book helped me find my current goal in life. Grateful. Thanks for being there for me at this stage.

I feel sorry for not being able to read this book. "The Art of Loving" was first published in 1956, but it resonated strongly with me when I first read it in 2024. It is true that this book has some reading difficulties. Some long paragraphs are easy to read on mobile phones, and I can understand those who can't finish reading it for half an hour. There is actually nothing wrong with this translation, but it's hard to get used to it if you don't read enough classic books. But it's quite sad to see some people say it's better to watch short videos. If you can devote some concentration to reading this book, I believe you can broaden your horizons. The following lengthy article is my one-sided and partial personal experience sharing. This is undoubtedly a good book that can help people sort out the theories about love. I am very touched by this: Chapter 2 talks about love, but it is not just about love. The discussion of the love of father, mother and God made me very inspired - it turns out that Western society and East Asian cultural society have something in common, and love is a common subject, or a common cause, for all mankind. So it's a great reference. Chapter 3 wonderfully discusses the reasons behind the emergence of a social ideology, the reasons of those times, and the impact on the concept of love... There are many things that I have realized before but were vaguely unsystematic, and this book helped me express them. Many of the social phenomena mentioned in the book are actually what we are still experiencing today. I took a lot of notes, and the theories in the book also eliminated the hostility I encountered online. Nowadays, all kinds of antagonism between men and women and trauma in the original family on the Internet are talking about pitiful oneself and hateful others. There are people who lack love everywhere. A lot of love in this era is business: some boys don't know how to love, and they suddenly confess their love without any emotional basis. Of course, the confession fails, and then they go around saying that they are licking dogs, obviously they have not given anything, this is forced buying. Forcibly sold love; some parents treat their children as retirement investments, with no love or money, only financial management. They want to control, but also want their children to give returns beyond their capabilities. This is a love that only wants to make a huge profit and not lose money... It's all pathological. This book's discussion of God also answered many things I didn't understand when I was reading the Bible in my childhood. It turns out that God's moodiness is not an illusion of mine. It turns out that God and humans are almost not illusions! When I was a child, I felt that God was as dependable as my mother at one moment, and at the next I was afraid that I would find out the reason for His anger. Religious classics always say that humans are created by gods in their own image, but the truth is that gods are shaped by humans in their own image. The God you love may be your missing self, and the sooner you disenchant it, the better. Almost every Christian home has a big poster full of love written on it, from the Bible: Love is patient and kind, love does not envy... The last sentence is "Love never ends." I am very moved every time I read it. But when I recall that God sent a great flood to flood the world because he didn't like human beings; when I saw that God asked Abraham to kill his children just to prove his loyalty; when I saw that God had clear preferences and dislikes for the offerings offered by Abel and Cain… I was afraid, because God's love is not tolerant. The church said that burning incense in Buddhist halls every day is bad for health, and that Buddhist statues are scary to people. But I was also scared when I looked at the Bible. The last part of the Book of Revelation was the scariest thing I had ever read in my childhood. It is extremely contradictory to want to show God's love for people, but also to abuse God's power to punish people. Perhaps fear is also a means of stabilizing faith. In addition, I quite agree with the analysis of Freud's related theories in the book, "Freud's view of love is a description of the superior male experience in the capitalist way of the nineteenth century." Freud viewed women as castrated men, which is outrageous. All people in the world are born of women. Can castrated men give birth to complete children? It is common sense for a complete person to give birth to a defective one - those who engage in phallic worship are all trying to cover up their own inability to create life. The scope of Freud's theory "contamination" is too wide, not only psychology, literature, physiology, but also Western Xuan. Dongxuan is full of male superiority and female inferiority, and Western Xuan also occasionally has the shadow of Freud floating around. Not only the theory of love, but also the theory of metaphysics needs to keep pace with the times and remove the dross. It has been nearly seventy years since this book was published. Due to the need to teach certain theories, Freud sometimes has to be quoted in college classes. I remember that my classmates were generally surprised and disgusted when they heard Freud's theories. Those theories hinder people's understanding of the nature of love, but I also believe that most people can clearly distinguish it. … There are still many things I want to share, but I'm afraid there won't be enough to write about once I start. I have been deeply impressed by the author's keen insight. I hope that one day we can create a human society full of vitality and vitality.

By reading this book, I saw my own shadow in many negative examples, such as hypocritical love. I am an avoidant attachment person, so many times I lack the ability to love, and the ability to love needs to be cultivated slowly in the future. The biggest benefit this book has given me is that it allows me to recognize my own unbearableness, and to be able to tell that behind my seemingly very, very turbulent love is just a flaw in my personality.

A very interesting book, useful to read. Everyone should check it out. The author talks about some fallacies that exist in people's minds from a very interesting perspective. It's not just for people who want to understand love and long for a healthy relationship. People of every age can learn something from this book.

Love is an art and an ability that needs to be learned and practiced.

It is difficult to change the social environment. What we can do is to face all aspects of life with vigor and without any cover-up.

After reading it, I have a lot of emotions. First of all, I have to change my living habits, clarify my goals, and work hard. I will examine myself three times a day.

In essence, this book is to strip away the contradictions and noises of human nature under objective conditions in a vacuum, and analyze the behavioral logic of love purely from a logical level. Fromm's interpretation of love covers the three dimensions of theory, practice and execution, and he pointed out that love is not limited to lovers, but the love of parents and brothers is also within this framework. He refined the four essential elements of love into eight words: care, responsibility, respect, and understanding. At the same time, he divided love into five forms: universal love, maternal love, erotic love, self-love, and divine love, and emphasized that people must find a balance between these five kinds of love. Once there is a tilt, anxiety or dependence will occur. The following are the sentences that impressed me most deeply after reading them: "Love is given actively, not passively received." The essence of love is like looking for another self. Self-love does not mean selfishness. The more you know how to love yourself, the more you will love others in the same way. In terms of reading experience, the first half of the book really hits my thighs, and the second half hits my forehead. The second half of the book gradually rises to the level of philosophy and existentialism. It was a bit mind-boggling to read, and it slipped directly from my cerebral cortex. But in the end I still remembered one sentence: "The objective thinking ability is reason, and the rational emotional attitude is humility." In the final analysis, love is the maturity of personality [currently in development]

Love is not something you are born with, it needs to be learned. I have always believed in this view. The essence of love is "I need you because I love you" rather than "I love you because I need you". Yes, it is precisely because of love that I need you. Otherwise, the object can be anyone. If it is the latter, then love will become a commodity for trading and a product of the economy. This book is the beginning of the required course of love, but it is not the end of my learning about love.

Love people, love yourself, love society, love God, and love myth. Whether sex and love are related depends on you. Love is both deep and simple, and it is related to cognition. Read more and learn more, and you will always be one step closer to the answer.

"The Art of Loving" is Erich Fromm's monograph on the art theory of love. Fromm believed that love is not something we are born with. First, love is an art that requires continuous learning and practice to master; second, if you do not strive to develop your entire personality and achieve a creative tendency, then every kind of love will fail; third, if you do not have the ability to love others, if you cannot love others truly, humbly, bravely, sincerely and disciplinedly, then people will never be satisfied in their love life; fourth, true love is not a feeling, but an action, which is attention, respect and care for others. Marx: "We now assume that people are people, and the relationship between people and the world is a human relationship. Then you can only exchange love for love, and you can only exchange trust for trust. If you want to enjoy art, then you must be an artistically cultivated person, and if you want to influence others, then you must be a person who can actually inspire and push others forward. All your relationships with people and nature must be specific manifestations of your actual personal life and consistent with the object of your will."

In fact, love is like various skills in life. It requires solid basic skills, coupled with one's own personality and creativity, standardized learning, and through long-term persistence, concentration, focus, and giving him faith, only then can he slowly grow into a master with ingenuity. There is no end to love and no end to learning.

This chapter tells about people's concept of love, clearly marking their abilities and things they need, and then matching them with the corresponding person or things they have. That is to choose the object of love. It is a common phenomenon to love only when it is worth it. The other kind is love chosen for sex and excitement. This kind of love is destined not to last long. The author believes that love is an art and needs to be learned.

This book gave me a deeper understanding of love. It tells us that love is not just a feeling, but an art that requires learning and hard work. The views in the book are unique and profound, the writing is concise and smooth, and complex emotions are expressed through simple language. After reading it, I began to reflect on my own way of loving and being loved, and I benefited a lot. Recommended to friends who think about love and relationships.

Most people focus on improving their appearance, economic and social status, and learning to practice their emotional intelligence and conversation. Our society disciplines us on how to "be loved". Most people have never been told "how to love." This book tells us that love is a kind of ability, which is not unattainable. It needs to be learned and practiced. Love is acceptance, recognition, care, support, being seen and understood. Loving others requires us to learn the ability to love ourselves.

Thoughts on reading "The Art of Love" (2026.6.11) After reading "The Art of Loving", I learned a lot. Although some parts of the content are difficult to fully understand, I am still deeply inspired. The content of the book seems to be extensive, but in fact it is logically clear. The book points out that love is mainly about "giving" rather than "receiving". In the process of active giving, people can truly feel their own strength, enrichment and value. Love is an ability that needs to be cultivated carefully. If you want to harvest perfect love, you cannot do without sincerity, humility, courage, loyalty and self-discipline. As the book says: You will love the things you work hard for, and you will be willing to work hard for the people you love. True love contains care, respect, responsibility and understanding. It also means having the ability to love proactively. What touched me deeply was maternal love. This love does not ask for anything in return, and the process of giving itself is a kind of happiness. At the same time, the mention of rational faith in the book also made me understand that when facing love and being loved, we must have certainty and confidence. In the author's view, love is a long-term journey and challenge, not a safe haven. Two people who love each other grow up and walk hand in hand. No matter the circumstances are joyful or sorrowful, they face themselves and blend in with each other. Many times we seem to be worried about not being loved by others, but in fact we are afraid of taking the initiative to love. In addition, creative personality is mentioned repeatedly in the book. I don't fully understand this concept yet, and I need to read it slowly to understand it.

This book is not about teaching you how to love someone, but about the necessity of love and how people should get along with themselves, others, and the world. Explains what love means in a social sense and in an abstract sense. Help us better understand the world and understand our own hearts.

I didn't feel much after watching it

Great book

If we want to learn the art of loving, we must strive to be objective under all conditions and be sensitive to situations in which we are not being objective.

The explanation is simple and clear, and it clears up some of the dilemmas in reality.

I feel like the author has a lot of ideas that really impressed me. I was attracted by the first paragraph as soon as I opened the book. But I don't know if it's a problem with the translator. The sentences are hard to understand. I basically have to read everyone's book reviews to understand. Moreover, this book also has some outdated ideas. Overall, it's pretty good.

It turns out that this is the book that the trainer was reading.

Okay, I want to give it 4.5 Points for being forward-looking. Many theories are currently emerging, so they are worth reading. It can also make you think.

Stranger I love you do you love me [KISS]

Most of the ideas have been very guiding in my life.

This book logically analyzes every point of love

A book worth studying and thinking about

The teacher recommends it, so follow it and study. (But it's best to see it yourself, what you hear is not quite right) Let's read it a second time after reading the entire series.

This sacred book has a very profound understanding and analysis of love and is definitely worth reading.