Nowadays, when parents face upbringing problems, they all try their best and use some "good methods" passed down by word of mouth, but they only treat the symptoms and not the root cause.
The author of this book, Alfie Cohen, is a well-known American parenting writer and education scholar. He believes that this is because we are too focused on the superficial behavior itself. We only see whether the child meets our expectations. If the child does, we will reward him, and if he does not, he will punish him. This is all conditional love.
In this book, the author firmly proposes that parents should raise children unconditionally and must give up this kind of emotional blackmail parenting method that is actually controlled in the name of love. It is recommended that parents replace reward and punishment education with a positive and balanced approach, so as to cultivate children who are self-disciplined, empathetic, and physically and mentally healthy.
Reader comments
This book has benefited me a lot! It made me understand that what children need is unconditional love, not conditional rewards or punishments. I especially like the book's talk about giving up control and educating children in a positive and balanced way. However, I also kind of hated some of the overly theoretical parts of the book. Overall, this is a parenting book worth reading.
Refresh my knowledge
Very nice, although a little difficult to read in the early stages
This book has benefited me a lot! It made me understand that what children need is unconditional love, not conditional rewards or punishments. I especially like the book's talk about giving up control and educating children in a positive and balanced way. However, I also kind of hated some of the overly theoretical parts of the book. Overall, this is a parenting book worth reading.
Refresh my knowledge
Very nice, although a little difficult to read in the early stages