Quit the Love Brain: Overcome Emotional Dependence and Find Your Independent Self

Speaking of addiction, in addition to addiction to alcohol and the Internet, there is also a psychological addiction - dependence addiction, that is, people are addicted to being loved and recognized. The main manifestations of this over-dependent psychological state are submissive behavior and fear of separation. Whether in a romantic relationship or in a simple relationship with family or friends, addicted people will show these characteristics, such as difficulty expressing opinions that are different from others, and lack of confidence in themselves, their own judgments, or their own abilities because of the fear of losing the approval of others and being abandoned. They also "feel very uncomfortable" and "powerless" when alone. Sometimes, in order to be liked, they eagerly seek the next relationship after the previous relationship ends. Emotional dependence locks people into unhealthy or even dangerous relationships, causing people to blindly start the next relationship, falling into a vicious cycle, or causing people to become addicted to alcohol, fall into depression, and desperately obey and please each other in the relationship. Emotional dependence makes dependents who have lacked love since childhood more vulnerable to secondary harm. Some of their own personality traits can also easily make people around them feel tired and suffocated, thereby destroying a relationship. The author of this book systematically explains how to overcome emotional dependence, aiming to teach readers how to love themselves and establish a healthy intimate relationship.