Don't Please Anyone

This book says very well that you don't have to judge yourself and restrain yourself with the mentality of a saint. People will have selfish motives and shortcomings. There is no need to condemn yourself if you fail to achieve your goals. You must learn to love yourself and face your emotions.

This book is really transparent, and every point can touch on the key points. It gave me a feeling of "this is indeed the case, it's so understandable. The author only concluded this after seeing many patients." Of course, the book also introduces various practical methods, which are very clear and can be practiced. In short, there are many contents in this book that I have never thought of before. The author's writing is very simple but very comprehensive, which is very helpful to me. Thank you for this book and this author.

It really solved a lot of my psychological problems, and the writing is easy to understand. Anyone who has experienced some of the things people please people do will definitely be deeply touched. After reading this, I will slowly get rid of this pleaser personality, use the methods learned in the book to bravely practice, become a person who loves myself, and truly gain independence and freedom. At the same time, the book says that the world is not just black and white, and people are not just good or bad. It's really useful, thank you very much to the author. These are the underlying logical cognitions that I have been affected by. Slowly breaking through this layer, and after rising, it will definitely be better. The main thing is to make yourself live a happier life! Regardless of whether we are men or women, we must love ourselves! Don't be PUA! Brave!

Thank you, author. I can't find anyone to talk to in my life. I don't even have my own private space in school. There is no place to vent my emotions. From junior high school to graduation from college, every chapter you write makes me re-understand myself. I once thought that no one could explain my inner feelings clearly. Even I don't know how to name my emotions. There is no one like me. I suffer from all kinds of inner conflicts. Thank you. It's very warm. It's like chatting with my inner self. Thank you very much. I like it very much.

Although I haven't finished reading it yet, it's almost done. I really want to cry now. There has never been a book that can really benefit me like this. It takes great luck to know this book. I will read this book often until I can completely heal myself. Thank you, author, you saved another lost person.

If I had not been lucky enough to read this book, maybe I would never have thought of the source of my pain all my life. I am really grateful to the author for giving me an opportunity to awaken, know myself, understand myself, and accept myself. I am really grateful that I came across such a good book. It will definitely help me a lot. Every chapter is almost a portrayal of my heart. I will read it over and over again to make myself happier and happier, and no longer have to suffer from the pain of trying to please my personality!

This book is very good. It talks about some good examples in my heart in many places, and also some problems we all encounter in work and life. I recommend everyone to read it. It seems that his personality has caused us a lot of trouble. I hope everyone can do their best and not try to please others, and then recommend them happily.

I have gained a lot. I cannot say that this book is very good, but it is tailor-made for me. I can see clearly that I have low self-esteem, sensitive and suspicious personality, and persecutory delusion. What causes this is a lack of security. It is after being suppressed and having to do something else. In fact, the biggest pain is the lack of love. I am not incapable of solving this problem. I have grown up and am no longer the weak self. I can change this state. What will happen if I refuse? I can accept the worst result. Don't long for anything. Your own emotions are very important in life. Make choices, choose your own life reasonably, don't pay for other people's emotions, learn to express emotions, learn to reject others, learn to make demands, and don't restrain yourself by morals and rules. You ask me what is good, what is bad, self-centered or what? Keep your inner determination, and give me more ability to fight against the world. When you don't care about everything, you will be closer to yourself. Why am I in pain? Because some people brainwash you in your world, which is different from your true self, causing personality pain. It is not what you really are. In order to cater to and please yourself, the recognition you get is beneficial to the needs of others, otherwise everything you do is meaningless. It doesn't matter how you define the past. Live well in the present and be happy. The future is far away. Remember to be happy today.

This book is very well written. I used to be a people-pleaser, but it was only when I grew up that I slowly changed from a people-pleasing personality to a crusader-type personality, so the experiences written are very real and empathetic. I am very grateful to have encountered this book and the author. The author is very good and detailed, and the methods in it are also very practical. At first, I felt that I had become a crusader-type personality. Why should I still read this book about a people-pleaser personality? As a result, I read this book with this heart in mind, and I found that I didn't seem to have become particularly pleasing, so there was still a lot of room for improvement. Just like rejecting others, I reject others now. Although I said I would reject it, I still feel that I owe others.

I am such a good person and deserve more joy and success and all the beauty in the world! If whether you can feel safe depends entirely on whether others are in a good mood and can show you some kindness, then you will never have a sense of security.

I really like this book. I feel like I have seen my old self. I always wanted to please others. I could not refuse anything others said. I felt like I would lose this relationship. What if no one goes to the toilet with me? What if no one eats with me? I also hope that you who are reading the book can also change. [Top post][Top post][Top post][Top post][Top post]

The savior of the pleaser personality! As a person who used to be a pleaser but has now come out of it, I still learned a lot from reading this book. I highly recommend it 👍🏻

I just realized that I was trying to please, so I wanted to find some books to read. What the author mentioned in the book is simply talking about me. I often fight against myself without accepting it. I hope that after I have this awareness, I can practice it well and continue to accept myself.

I hope that in the years to come, I can love myself more. The journey may be a bit long, but I hope that I can see more of my own emotions, see my occasional confusion and anxiety, and generally want to be happy, happy, and peaceful. Maybe I am really tired of the world? I'm getting married on the 19th... Anyway, the thought of becoming a monk and liberating has come up more than once... Ugh...

I have a please-please personality. Every time they ignore me, I will try my best to find the reason in myself.

I particularly enjoyed the section in the book about saying no to others and speaking your mind, which was very helpful to me. Moreover, the change methods in the book are also very practical, which gave me the courage to change myself. I think everyone should read this book and learn to be kind to yourself and stop trying to please anyone else.

It's written in great detail. It's about slowly getting to know yourself, accepting yourself, and loving yourself. It's a book I love so much. The only drawback is that I can't listen to it and can't spare the time to read it.

Really good, really good

Very practical. Pleasing others will not bring respect from others, so you must learn to be yourself bravely, see your own emotions, and accept them. When there is no fear in your heart, you are strong.

Love yourself and self-acceptance and expression. Don't please others, please yourself more. It is not selfish, but to discover your own goodness and constantly make yourself better. Life is your own after all, and only you can save yourself.

It feels really helpful, because before I was trying to please everyone, family and friends, but I didn't have a real friend. Focus on your own feelings and be your true self. What you will get are friends of the same frequency. If you are a false self, then you will never be able to gain true feelings and gain their respect.

The description of the people-pleasing personality in the book really touches the soul without any doubts, and the methods given are also very practical. I have a much clearer understanding of myself. I hope that more people who are troubled by the people-pleasing personality can read this book and have a thorough psychological healing!

This book is really well written. It made me understand that it is because of these reasons that I try to please others. It also taught me many methods. I will definitely recommend it to many people.

"Learn to give yourself security instead of relying on the kindness of others." Learn to say to yourself: "I can handle this." If you want to have the attitude of being angry when others are angry, it doesn't matter what happens to me.

My unworthiness should be converted into my worthiness! ! !

This book taught me a lot, how to reject others, and understand where I need to correct myself to make myself better.

Many contents in this book can make you feel that this is you. It will make you understand what kind of person you are and what kind of person you are in your heart. And give you a way to solve the problem of people-pleasing personality. There are no meanderings in the book, it is easy to understand and brings you closer to the author. Finally, this book had a great impact on me and is worth reading.

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It's helpful, it clarified my doubts, and it's worth watching! "Pleasing Personality" is very worth reading. It is also one of the works that I want to read again. I am grateful for meeting it, thank the author, and thank me for never giving up on myself.

Very helpful for my shortcomings