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It is well written. If you are close to you, you will be close to pain. If you are far away from you, you will be far away from happiness. A wide gate can tolerate all living beings, but a narrow gate cannot tolerate you and me walking together. They enshrine each other on spiritual altars, worshiping an imaginary ghost. I would rather die as a martyr than fall into mortal love.

"The Narrow Gate" is a book with great staying power. I already got goosebumps after reading it. "Because with the expectation of meeting you again, in my eyes the most dangerous thing The trails are always the best too. " Teacher Yu Hua said, "After reading Gide's The Narrow Gate, I was so excited that I was shaking all over. I wish I could write such a book." Really, this book is really powerful, sadistic and refreshing. Andre is really good at writing it. It deserves to be a Nobel Prize classic. This is a novel about love, and a love letter that spans life and death. Love is ready to come out in the text, but the final regret is also hard to let go. Alyssa and Jerome are childhood sweethearts. From falling in love to separation, I think no one can question their love for each other except themselves. The love becomes deeper and deeper, and the pursuit of purity reaches the extreme. Because of this, she was afraid of being unconventional and afraid of the shackles of reality. She closed herself in endless pain and pushed away from her lover. She said: "My love for you has not diminished at all. Not only that, when you come close, I feel panicked. I have never felt so strongly as now: I love you so deeply, but so hopelessly. I must admit that you have also seen it: when I am farther away from you, the deeper I love you." "Through you, I see everything in the world." Without you, everything in the world has no meaning. So, before she felt lonely, she longed to leave the world.

To be honest, maybe I didn't understand the cultural background and religious beliefs at that time, or maybe my cultural level was not enough and I couldn't understand much. But I seem to be able to vaguely feel what kind of love the two of them are chasing. It is too difficult for me to describe it with my poor language, so let's use some less appropriate descriptions: Happiness seems to be only felt when chasing happiness; I love you deeply, and I am willing to reach the highest level for you. Virtue, but when I am willing to change for you, I also lose this virtue; I make myself better in order to be close to you, but when I become like that, I cannot become beautiful; only when I don't trust you, I need a commitment, and only when I question your love, I will ask for the guarantee of love. Perfect love, because love is too pure, and the virtue of love leads us deeper and deeper, entering a narrow door that others cannot understand and cannot pass through. This kind of love transcends all the mediocrity in the world, because it transcends the world, it also transcends reality. When you try your best to maintain the sincerity and purity of love, and are afraid that it will become vulgar degeneration and addiction, love is no longer love. It becomes a tool for you to perfect your virtues and a responsibility for your pursuit of improvement. Holding on to a love without an object is not out of loyalty, but out of stubbornness. I have always believed that falling in love with an abstract person is a very simple and easy thing. I can embellish him with all the beautiful virtues I yearn for. He is a tool for me to improve myself and a solution to my loneliness. This kind of love is so simple that I don't need to pay anything. A completely pure love is born. I will never ask for a promise from him. I am convinced that he loves me, deeper than I love him. How difficult it is to fall in love with a specific person. It requires me to be more noble than I am now. I must have the courage to not be afraid of losing and possessing at the same time. I must have the mind to examine myself and tolerate the imperfections of others. I must always restrain my despicable teasing and sensitive and suspicious speculation. When I believe that he loves me, I will never guess. But how can I carry this great and firm trust to the end when I fall in love with a specific person? People are so despicable and yet so noble, and the noble and the despicable are often separated by a single thought. How could I risk my courage? Falling in love with abstract people often does not require reason, while falling in love with concrete people often requires wisdom. An idealist will struggle painfully between abstraction and concreteness all his life. Don't walk into the narrow door. I say, don't walk into the narrow door. Ideal love is actually falling in love with a perfect self. I can't fall in love with a specific person because my heart is despicable and noble. Because I don't have the cowardice and courage to fall in love with my ideal self. This has consumed a lot of my energy. Finished reading: 2024.5.10

"The book recommended by Teacher Yu Hua, because it is very controversial, I only read the electronic version. It tells the love story of a pair of cousins. In fact, I didn't feel the pain of "Love in a City" that was so painful that I cried in the online reviews. What I felt more was the twisting and struggling, and the strong religious overtones. The book is full of letters and diaries of the heroine. What she pursues is the ultimate and perfect love. "The farther I am from you, the more I love you." I even feel that death is the only way to survive. It's a way to get closer. So throughout the whole story, they are constantly separated. As an ordinary person without religious belief, I feel that religion has become her shackles or a prison. Maybe "You have to work hard to enter the narrow door, because the wide door and the broad road lead to destruction." But sometimes how can we be sure that what I love is not my senses? There is no solution to the proposition. Although it writes about love, it also writes about religion, which may be the secret of the master.

Pursue pure love beyond reality, soul compatibility and similar interests. No matter how beautiful love is, it will be wiped out after facing worldly trivial matters for a long time. There is actually a contrast in the article. When Alyssa wore dark clothes and mended old clothes and socks, the male protagonist was actually a little disgusted. He felt that Alyssa's clothes did not match his imagination of her. He wanted to remind her to change them, and he felt that she was old at the time. But they were only two years apart. Before, he thought Alyssa was incredibly beautiful and did not dare to talk for a long time. He only dared to express his feelings for her through her sister. Contrast irony and reality Perhaps Alyssa has long seen through the nature of love. Only the compatibility and imagination of the soul can sustain the original appearance of love. Death has kept her image fresh in the male protagonist's memory as the most beautiful one, becoming a real white moonlight cinnabar mole, indelible and irreplaceable.

You have to keep your head clear while watching it, and always want to figure out the logic of the love between the two of them, whether they are in love or not, whether they think they are in love or not. Thinking about it carefully, it seems like this in reality. I want to get close but I am afraid of getting close, so I always imagine that I am in a beautiful relationship. I feel like I didn't understand it. I'll revisit it if I have a chance in the future.

After reading this book, I felt it was a bit obscure and abstract. My understanding is that the love between two different idealists can only end in tragedy. At first I thought Jerome loved Alyssa more, but Alyssa thought more and more rationally because she was older, so her love was not as passionate as Jerome's. But after reading it, I felt that it was Alyssa who fell in love with Jerome first. She loved him so she integrated him into her life, reading the books he loved to read and listening to the poems he loved to read, and then Jerome fell in love with him. Jerome's love is very pure. He believes that the two of them are in love and are made for each other, but it actually comes from Alyssa's efforts. Alyssa loves very passionately but is forbearing, while Jerome's love is like fire, very fierce and urgent, but sometimes dim due to some weakness. I think Alyssa should love him and his upward flame, but Jerome loves Alyssa and stays for her, which makes Alyssa think It was herself that hindered Jerome's progress, so she began to escape. She wanted to separate Jerome from her life and her heart, but failed. She read the Bible, but without Jerome's existence, he did not believe in God. She still loves him deeply. Jerome's love for Alyssa was very pure. He loved Alyssa, who he had read poetry with when he was young, and had always been deeply in love. Later, when Alyssa said that she had stopped reading the books she had read with him before, and when she began to do housework, and when she began to separate things related to him from her life, he was heartbroken, but he could hold back his feelings for Alyssa. I think he was not in love with Alyssa, but with Alyssa. Alyssa who loved Jerome. Ah, I said a lot of nonsense without realizing it. This book made me feel very strange and strange. It is difficult to describe in words, but the tragedy of this idealistic love fascinates me. I'll take a look at it again after I have more experience.

After thinking about it, I gave it five stars. It has been a long time since I read a book. It is a very delicate book. At the beginning, I didn't understand why the heroine was so stubborn. The more I read, the more I understood. She is very harsh on herself when pursuing perfection. She is the inferior in this relationship. It is understandable that she avoids the male protagonist's likes time and time again. She wants to pursue ideal love, but is afraid of gradually getting closer. The contradictions and gaps between the two people lead to the deterioration of love and the shattering of ideals. It is better to keep distance. The most beautiful thing is not having it. . I kind of saw my own shadow. I'll read it again when I have time.

The translation is quite good, the story is average, but the inner descriptions of the two people are so delicate and touching, and all the changes in their thoughts are written out. The heroine has an eccentric and paranoid personality and walks towards the "narrow door" of her thoughts, which unfortunately is not the door to happiness.

Thoughts after reading Telling one of the most tragic love stories in the world, perhaps not being able to fall in love is the saddest and heartbreaking story among them. The author's writing style is very clever, retaining the innocence and chastity of love while retaining the ignorant and heart-pounding heartbeat of youth. In the end, we grow old and look back at dusk. "Ten years of life and death are boundless. If you don't think about it, you will never forget it." Lovesickness is such a sad story that makes people shed tears when they hear it. Two people who love each other are separated, but they are still deeply connected. Love is inherently sad, "it's only on the brow, but it's on the heart." The story quickly came to an end, and I saw a person disappearing all his life in the cracks of words or in our eyes. However, more resonant stories will surely be unearthed in the future. The author uses excellent writing to pour out all the joys and sorrows of the two people, and even shed some tears when they empathize.

I read the paper book and then the e-book at the end. I read it while walking and eating. After reading it, I sighed. "The pursuit of holiness but falling into the abyss, the longing for love but killing it, the longing for freedom but self-imprisonment" are probably the portrayal of the characters in this book.

Two people love each other imaginatively, loving each other painfully, without leaving any room. They come to each other with all the beautiful things first, but they bury the wet, painful love in their hearts, waiting for it to become moldy. The entanglement will be carried out throughout the whole love, from the tender touch to the scrawled separation of life and death. One puts the other person on a high platform and keeps it in his imagination; the other buries the other person in his memory and recalls it bitterly.

A great short story, the translated writing is very fresh and pure, and both the male and female protagonists have very pure and beautiful characters. There was a section in the middle where I thought I was going to fall into the cliche of a sister giving up her feelings to her sister, but the author used letters to bring the story back to the main line, making this article's interpretation of love more in-depth and moving. After reading it, I don't quite understand the meaning of "The Narrow Gate" in the article. The Bible says that choosing the narrow door means that the road in life is more difficult and more exciting. When the author tells the story of love, does it mean that the "narrow gate" in love also has the same meaning? Does it mean that by persisting in your love, even if you know that you cannot enter happiness, you can still make yourself fuller? Or if we only base all the meaning of life on one thing, we are narrowing the road? After reading this book, the word "love cannot be obtained" has changed from vague to clear.

They think they love each other deeply, but forget to love themselves, and look for their own needs in others, which will never be satisfied. People who love literature and art are always open-minded and vaguely sad.

This book contains a lot of dialogues, letters and inner dramas, especially the inner entanglements, hesitations, confusions, and the love between children. It made me, now an old aunt, think back to the passing love time. While feeling sad for Alyssa, I would like to advise future children not to avoid problems or self-sacrifice when faced with them. Whatever you want, as long as it doesn't break the law, say it boldly and in a timely manner, be brave and don't be immoral. No one is perfect, and neither is life. It is a virtue to be able to take things up and put them down. Only by being more open-minded can we live longer. Life is not only about love, there are thousands of wonderful things waiting for us.

It tells the sad love story of two INFJs, a classic

I think it's suitable for adolescents to watch. Don't be too blind to pursue what you think is love [full]

This book was recommended to me by my ex. She told me, "If you are close to me, you will be close to pain, and if you are far away from me, you will be far away from happiness." She has an avoidant attachment style, and some of her thoughts or actions are very similar to those of the heroine, but not as extreme. Maybe it's because the back part of this book always reminds me of the past, and I want to cry when I see some of the plots in the back. When I fell in love with her, I didn't understand her. I always felt that she pushed me away because she didn't love me. This may not be the case. She has her pain. Our growth experience has shaped our ideals of "loving" and "being loved". It is actually not good for us to love others in the way we think, and may even hurt the other person. We should judge whether we are loved by "whether our own needs are truly met," and love each other by "meeting the other person's needs." Self-righteous love is not love to the other person, but a disguised form of harm, a sharp knife hidden under the rose.

This book is very good. Almost all the characters in the book have spiritual communication, and they are all loved in their own way, whether it is the cousin or Alyssa. But I don't understand this book. My 20-year-old age doesn't support my understanding. The good of it is vague, to me. But that doesn't stop it from being a good book!

It is a wonderful love, and it is worthy of being praised even by Teacher Yu Hua!

What a hearty love and "growth"! Starting from the ignorant longing when they were young, the relationship between the two was mixed with many fantasies. All the beautiful things were projected into the shadow of their love, and the teenagers grew up under the reflection of the beautiful shadow. The understanding of the world, life, self and many things will change with growth and time. Alyssa begins to doubt whether love is real, whether faith is pure, whether self is noble, and begins to explore a new path to find answers. This path tortured her soul, because she compared herself to the obstacles and barriers to the sublimation of her lover's soul, respecting faith, suppressing love, and sacrificing herself. After a long time, I finally got to know and accept myself again, and let my true self return to my lover in the form of words. All changes in the relationship between the two are inseparable from the persistence, idealization and growing desire deep in their souls. Similar qualities attract them to each other, but they cannot let them walk together. Because personal growth, especially soul maturity, is ultimately a journey alone. Looking inside one's own heart should be to love oneself better. Alyssa did not travel alone until the end of her life, enjoying time and regretting her painful and childish self-sacrifice.

The love in the hearts of the male and female protagonists cannot be denied But after reading this book, I kept thinking about what is love? I can't find the answer But the love I understand should be very, very beautiful. It can bravely climb mountains, cross valleys, cross rivers, and arrive in front of your lover like a breeze blowing on your face. You are very good, I admire you, but I am not bad at self-confidence either. Pushing to the limit, testing each other, and excessive anxiety should not be part of love. People who love you will make you feel that the world is beautiful and you will be happy right now! May we all be brave and happy while living in this world.

I finished reading this book in the car on May 4, 2025. The shock it brought me was advancing bit by bit, with every letter, every meeting, every diary entry, and finally the reincarnation of Alyssa. My initial incomprehension was because I looked at this "love" from a shallow, worldly perspective. But slowly, the admiration in their letters and the silence when we met slowly prompted me to change my gaze, becoming nobler and deeper. This love may not be a tragedy, nor a happy ending, but both have achieved happiness. It is a sense of happiness starting from one's own spiritual world, and the most essential pursuit of a perfect partner. The symbol of the narrow gate can be the transcendent pursuit of faith, the restraint of happiness, or the dedication to others. It can be the small amethyst cross hanging around her neck in the future. Their love for each other has already crossed the narrow gate and transcended life and death.

Before reading Alyssa's Diary, it was an unreasonable love work. After reading it, I felt very depressed. I went to read Gide's Life, and suddenly I understood why this story is like this.

Alyssa's love can only be seen from a distance, not close contact. Once in close contact, the person she loves changes from ideal to concrete, from perfect to imperfect, which breaks Alyssa's fantasy of this love. Alyssa will want to avoid and escape. This is also because of her family. She does not allow imperfections and cracks to appear in love, so she is afraid of getting close to this person, and is afraid of feeling that the problems caused by daily necessities in real life have obliterated the noble love in her fantasy. Jerome's love has elevated Alyssa's image from the beginning. He has constantly fantasized and beautified Alyssa's image in his heart. He pursues this kind of Alyssa as his faith and constantly strives to reach the same height as the fantasized and beautified Alyssa. He never reveals his efforts for Alyssa, thinking that such love is noble and worthy. He was undecided about love, so he always looked to Abel for guidance. Later, Jerome blamed Alyssa for her change because the books she liked to read and the thoughts she expressed were not in line with his past "impression" of her. In the end, he discovered that he loved a shadow, not a specific person. Later he escaped. When the two of them were far apart, they both showed deep longing for each other and kept looking forward to their reunion. When they reunited, they found that even though they had a thousand things to say, they had nothing to say, and they showed embarrassment and even resistance to avoidance. This is undoubtedly the discovery that the environment, people, time, place, weather, etc. In real life are not consistent with the perfect plot in fantasy. It's true that once you find out, you have to run away, and once you run away, you miss it again. Is it love itself or love for a specific person?

It's very cruel. It's so cruel that I'm injured internally, but I'm so trembling that I can't cry.

I happened to see someone commenting on this book: "Close to you and close to pain, far away from you and away from happiness." They all fell in love with their own shadows. Jerome thought he was picking books that interested Alyssa, while Alyssa only read books that interested Jerome. They both want to be what the other likes, and perhaps Jerome is in a more dominant position. Their extremely deep love is largely based on "fantasy". They imagine each other as perfect, "holy" and "virtuous". Rather than loving each other, maybe they love themselves with a strong love? Alyssa, in particular, refused to get married and stayed away from him. Every step she took was to maintain the "beauty" and "happiness" in her heart. Distance produces the highest state of beauty, but that's it. Alyssa's self-sacrifice and the elimination of Jerome's love can bring him closer to God. I don't know much about religion. Maybe this is very important to them, more important than love. Alyssa looked almost lovesick in the end and said, "Beautiful things are about to begin." Maybe she loved this feeling of loving someone so much that she went crazy, and she was a bit like a love maniac. She has lived to protect her love all her life. But this story also proves that passionate love stems from fantasy. But getting too close will remove the mask of this illusion, and keeping a distance will last long. But it's also related to their small social scope.

The love between Jerome and Alyssa is too pure, too deep, and at the same time desperate, painful, and awkward. They both love each other, but they are unwilling to walk towards the wide door of love. They are unwilling to be conventional, and unwilling to have their love disappear under the passage of time. Alyssa knows very well that she has feelings for Jerome. M's love has penetrated deep into her bones, but she is unwilling to consume this love, so she is desperate and painful, calling his name over and over again in front of God. Perhaps she longs for Jerome's understanding, but is afraid of his understanding, so she avoids it again and again, and finally wraps up her desperate love and goes to death.

As of today, I have finished reading this book. Now I want to talk about my feelings. Both the male and female protagonists are pursuing ideal love and the ultimate love. They maintain the heartbeat of teenagers and have the rational thinking of adults. In this book, I seem to see a little bit of myself. I had a boyfriend before. We were in a different place, but we broke up in the end. We have known each other since junior high school, and I like him too. After graduating from junior high school, we have always been in contact, and our daily chats are also very pleasant. We share our lives, talk about books, chat about our own worries, and comfort and give each other advice. Later, we got together. After we got together, I found that the enthusiasm for our previous chats was not as strong as before. In the days when we didn't meet, I missed him every day and looked forward to meeting him soon. But every time I met him, I always felt that he was different from what I imagined. I would feel strange when we had physical contact, and I would subconsciously want to leave him as soon as possible. Sometimes I wonder, is he the person I like, or my feelings for him, or is he too similar to me? Because we are in different places, in addition to sharing each other's daily life, we often talk about future issues.

This book is well written, the language style is relatively serious but it is able to express the emotions between the male protagonist and Alyssa extremely delicately. When Alyssa stopped reading classic books or poetry, and her face was no longer radiant and poetic, Jerome became frustrated and even yelled that she shouldn't be like this. I also think, as Alyssa said, that he just fell in love with her shadow rather than her person. But after a long time of reunion, Jerome was still so cautious, wanting to see her but not daring to see her. Later, on the bench, with a haggard and pale face, Jerome still said to her, "I want to marry you." So Jerome loved her very much, and his frustration at that time was just because he didn't want to see her sink. The Narrow Gate became one of the main reasons why Alyssa and Jerome could not be together. In the letter written by Alyssa, words about religious beliefs account for a considerable part. She is a believer, so she hopes that the people she loves most will become the very few people mentioned in the religion, become saints, and enter the narrow gate. The further away she was from Jerome, and the longer they were separated, the more she missed him, and the more deeply she loved him because she felt that he was on his way to the highest glory. When Jerome returns, she drives him away. This contradictory behavior further reflects the combined influence of the Narrow Gate, human beings' own pursuit of love, and their instinctive inferiority to the person they love. She was afraid that she would prevent Jerome from entering the narrow gate, so she chose to sacrifice herself. In fact, in Alyssa's letter, there is also a way to be together, that is, Jerome can be patient when they meet and never leave no matter what she says or does. She put away the necklace, and Jerome fulfilled his promise and left without saying goodbye, but Alyssa wrote in the letter: "Yes, my brother, I still couldn't help looking for you all morning. I couldn't believe that you were gone, and I hated you for keeping your promise." And Jerome will never be able to do that. As it is said at the beginning of the book, the reason why he strives to improve himself is because of her. Without her, he can't do anything. Therefore, the narrow gate became a constraint for Alyssa alone, creating a tragedy.