Teacher Li Chongjian, who has been in contact with Satir education for 20 years, and Teacher Cao Jingwei, chairman of the China Satir International Conference, use their personal experiences and consulting cases to guide readers to use the Satir iceberg model to cross the surface of complex problems, see through the needs of human beings at different levels of desire, and thereby establish a connection between the hearts. With continuous practice, this communication model will transform into your deep communication ability, and you will thus master the code of happiness and success.
Reader comments
After reading this book, I have many feelings and still have many unfinished thoughts.
I read this book very slowly. I read 1311 pages in three days, especially the last sharing part. I was slowly feeling it and thinking about myself while reading it.
It's strange, why do people always start to reflect on themselves after something happens? Many times we can only change ourselves, but we always want to change others.
My children always make me angry, and every time I loudly ask them why they can't control themselves from doing the things that make me angry? Are you happy to see me angry? After reading this book, I suddenly felt that I had a big problem, but I never delved into why I was so angry, and why I took it out on my children when I was angry... How scared they must be!
I suddenly remembered that one time, Xiaobao and Dabao were playing on the bed and accidentally fell under the bed. I happened to see it and rushed over immediately. At that time, I first picked up the crying Xiaobao, and then looked at Dabao. I saw that his face turned pale and he stood blankly on the bed. I remember I was very angry, and you can imagine the scary look in my eyes. Dabao must have been so scared at that time that his face turned pale with fright. Thinking about it now, he feels full of guilt.
Although I don't fully understand the iceberg theory, I still benefit from the curious conversations mentioned in the book. In addition, you need to connect with your own desires. Only in this way can you connect with others and let love flow in the conversation. The experience sharing of the students at the end of the article touched me a lot, as well as the author Teacher Cai's case sharing and his own practice experience, which gave me a lot of inspiration. Reading this book is very interesting. I have heard about Satir many times, and I am also a little curious. After reading it, I have gained a little more understanding. I think I will continue to study Satir healing and improve my ability to do cases in the future.
[Sending Hearts][Sending Hearts][Every time I think of the lines in "Hymn" by Canadian poet and singer Leona Cohen
♥ "Everything has cracks, that's where the light comes in", you will think of Chongjian.
As the book says: "Everyone's heart is like an iceberg. Only by peeling off the surface can you see the deep desires." This sentence deeply inspired me. By reading this book, I believe we can all master communication skills, establish heart-to-heart connections, and find the password to happiness and success. Highly recommended!
I just read Chapter 3 of this book, and I feel that this book is very good and very practical. It can help us find our deep desires and explore the client's desire levels and self-levels from all aspects. I recommend this book to my family and more friends.
The content is detailed, it provides feasible methods and cases, and there are rules to follow. It is a great educational guide. I love it. [Love] [Love] [Love] Many chapters are deeply touching and let me know how to do it. I will read it several times to understand the author's guidance and practice. I am very touched. 🌺🌺🌺
As a parent, Duo Duo has benefited greatly from books like this.
I was very touched when I saw the chapter about the connection between Chongjian and his stepmother. Chongjian is a learned, intelligent and charming man. Keep reading, what a great book!
A very practical book
Feeling gained and moved
Very professional and down to earth.
Very useful, I like tomatoes
Let me understand the iceberg is to do deep subconscious
It's very practical, and the child is lying flat. I don't know how long it will take for him to come out. Can the author get in touch?
Finally, the cases in Chapter 8 serve as practical guidance, and there is a heart-to-heart dialogue between two communicators.
This is a good book for deep communication with yourself
There are many ways to deal with parent-child relationships in real society and the relationship between parents and children, which can be solved using the iceberg theory. This book is very good👍
There are cases to help readers understand the iceberg model, but some professional study is still required, otherwise some theoretical content will still be difficult to understand and apply. Application requires readers to be aware
The examples are very close to life, and the explanations are also very detailed, which is very helpful.
This is a book about self-growth. I am very grateful to have encountered it. I hope that one day I can connect myself and my children through this book.
I like these cases so much, they are simple, clear, inspiring and actionable! The desire to connect instantly makes people feel warm🌸🌸🌸
It's a very good and informative book that can help many parents give guidance and reflect on themselves.
This is the second time I have read this book by Teacher Chongjian, and I am very inspired. I really want to have a conversation with Teacher Chongjian, and I also want to know what the teacher's daily life is like.
The explanation is in place, the details are well handled, and the emotions are rich.
Based on my own personal experience, the description is detailed and clear, and very realistic.
After reading this book, I have many feelings and still have many unfinished thoughts. I read this book very slowly. I read 1311 pages in three days, especially the last sharing part. I was slowly feeling it and thinking about myself while reading it. It's strange, why do people always start to reflect on themselves after something happens? Many times we can only change ourselves, but we always want to change others. My children always make me angry, and every time I loudly ask them why they can't control themselves from doing the things that make me angry? Are you happy to see me angry? After reading this book, I suddenly felt that I had a big problem, but I never delved into why I was so angry, and why I took it out on my children when I was angry... How scared they must be! I suddenly remembered that one time, Xiaobao and Dabao were playing on the bed and accidentally fell under the bed. I happened to see it and rushed over immediately. At that time, I first picked up the crying Xiaobao, and then looked at Dabao. I saw that his face turned pale and he stood blankly on the bed. I remember I was very angry, and you can imagine the scary look in my eyes. Dabao must have been so scared at that time that his face turned pale with fright. Thinking about it now, he feels full of guilt.
Although I don't fully understand the iceberg theory, I still benefit from the curious conversations mentioned in the book. In addition, you need to connect with your own desires. Only in this way can you connect with others and let love flow in the conversation. The experience sharing of the students at the end of the article touched me a lot, as well as the author Teacher Cai's case sharing and his own practice experience, which gave me a lot of inspiration. Reading this book is very interesting. I have heard about Satir many times, and I am also a little curious. After reading it, I have gained a little more understanding. I think I will continue to study Satir healing and improve my ability to do cases in the future.
[Sending Hearts][Sending Hearts][Every time I think of the lines in "Hymn" by Canadian poet and singer Leona Cohen ♥ "Everything has cracks, that's where the light comes in", you will think of Chongjian.
As the book says: "Everyone's heart is like an iceberg. Only by peeling off the surface can you see the deep desires." This sentence deeply inspired me. By reading this book, I believe we can all master communication skills, establish heart-to-heart connections, and find the password to happiness and success. Highly recommended!
I just read Chapter 3 of this book, and I feel that this book is very good and very practical. It can help us find our deep desires and explore the client's desire levels and self-levels from all aspects. I recommend this book to my family and more friends.
The content is detailed, it provides feasible methods and cases, and there are rules to follow. It is a great educational guide. I love it. [Love] [Love] [Love] Many chapters are deeply touching and let me know how to do it. I will read it several times to understand the author's guidance and practice. I am very touched. 🌺🌺🌺
As a parent, Duo Duo has benefited greatly from books like this.
I was very touched when I saw the chapter about the connection between Chongjian and his stepmother. Chongjian is a learned, intelligent and charming man. Keep reading, what a great book!
A very practical book
Feeling gained and moved
Very professional and down to earth.
Very useful, I like tomatoes
Let me understand the iceberg is to do deep subconscious
It's very practical, and the child is lying flat. I don't know how long it will take for him to come out. Can the author get in touch?
Finally, the cases in Chapter 8 serve as practical guidance, and there is a heart-to-heart dialogue between two communicators.
This is a good book for deep communication with yourself
There are many ways to deal with parent-child relationships in real society and the relationship between parents and children, which can be solved using the iceberg theory. This book is very good👍
There are cases to help readers understand the iceberg model, but some professional study is still required, otherwise some theoretical content will still be difficult to understand and apply. Application requires readers to be aware
The examples are very close to life, and the explanations are also very detailed, which is very helpful.
This is a book about self-growth. I am very grateful to have encountered it. I hope that one day I can connect myself and my children through this book.
I like these cases so much, they are simple, clear, inspiring and actionable! The desire to connect instantly makes people feel warm🌸🌸🌸
It's a very good and informative book that can help many parents give guidance and reflect on themselves.
This is the second time I have read this book by Teacher Chongjian, and I am very inspired. I really want to have a conversation with Teacher Chongjian, and I also want to know what the teacher's daily life is like.
The explanation is in place, the details are well handled, and the emotions are rich.
Based on my own personal experience, the description is detailed and clear, and very realistic.