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This book is very realistic, so realistic that I could feel a deep sense of powerlessness from it. Marriage is a besieged city, those on the outside want to get in, and those on the inside want to get out. It is really not that easy to get divorced after you have children. It is a real problem. Perhaps the author can give this story an ending and a follow-up, but this seems to be a portrayal of what many people face in their lives, and most people can find the shadow of their own marriages in it. Maybe we can give it an ending ourselves, either perfect or imperfect. Either get a divorce, or have no choice but to keep going. Being an adult is really difficult. Others cannot judge and there is no need to refer to other people's opinions. I used to really want to get married, thinking that if I got married, I would have a family and settle down. Now after reading this story, if I had gotten married at that time, maybe I would have been one of them, and my life would not have been as good as Fang Yuan's. After all, Fang Yuan still had a mother, a house, a good job, and a way out. It's really suffocating to see these deep quarrels. One sentence in this story is right: Current education makes girls think that marriage is a harbor, a retreat, and a last resort. Little do they know that this is a huge lie. Another sentence: People can only rely on themselves, regardless of gender. Girls who have given birth to children really have their own weaknesses. This society requires mothers to pay more, and they also feel that they cannot concentrate on work after having children. The older I get, the more powerless I feel. Look at those women who were in the precarious situation during the Republic of China. Those women who were trapped by the times worked hard, fought and spoke bravely for their own rights. Now, I seem to be trapped in a siege, and I also believe that women should get married. But what can marriage bring me? If it was a marriage like Fang Yuan's, it would be better not to have one at all. Maybe I haven't met the person who makes me want to get married, but I hope that starting from today, I will work hard to live for myself. After so many years of schooling and more than 20 years of hard work, it is not just to become a mother of a child. First of all, I am myself, and secondly, I am someone else's daughter and have other identities. I have worked hard for so many years to study and live for myself. I hope that in reality, we can all find our own direction. If we are in a bad marriage, we may have more helplessness, but I hope we can find ourselves first and comfort the child in our hearts. If you don't let yourself live this life, you will regret it when you look back. Let's encourage you together. I hope we can recognize the essence of life and still love it.

As Xia Wenli said, "Everyone is a mirror," and so are the characters in the book. We watch their lives from God's perspective, but we also live each of our own characters as worldly people. Their experiences of frustration also remind us of how we should behave in the world. The biggest lesson I gained from the book is that no matter how urgent the pressure from the outside world pushes you, you must slowly see your own situation clearly and see who the person standing opposite is.

The writing is thought-provoking. No matter what, you still have to leave a way out for yourself in marriage, and you must be self-reliant and self-reliant.

After reading this book, the heroine has low self-esteem and is introspective. The traditional kindness of the heroine's mother has become a handle and a sharp weapon for the male protagonist, just to maintain the male chauvinist status in the marriage. Therefore, for a good marriage, you must first meet a good person, be able to adjust your mentality from yourself, and borrow Ang Lee's words to "get the approval of your wife and children through your own efforts" instead of relying on traditional male power.

This book is written in a more realistic way. Women are weak in marriage. Regardless of whether they have financial ability or not, because women have a natural weakness of having children, it can only be said that women should protect themselves before marriage, keep their eyes open when they plan to enter marriage, and do not get married for any reason other than love. For example, when you reach your age, you are lonely alone, but the other person's conditions are not bad. You must enter a marriage because of love. Even if there is no good result in the end, at least in retrospect, there is still a beautiful love.

Really down to earth. Unmarried female friends can take a look.

Don't get married for the sake of getting married. You shouldn't marry him after buying a house before marriage. When you are in love, you should also keep a clear head and treat things rationally. Don't be carried away by love

It's very realistic and a bit depressing to watch. It made me think deeply. It was very difficult during the years when I had children. I didn't dare to let my daughter get married. Even if I got married, I would never have children. Nowadays, it is difficult to get married in first-tier cities and fertility rates are low. You must also know the hardships of having children.)

How many people make do in their marriages, but at some point they completely collapse and come to an end?

The writing is very real, and through the stories of three women, it reveals the ins and outs of marriage. Girls, the most important thing is the person you are looking for, right?

I woke up in the middle of the night and started listening to it through hypnosis. As a result, I became more and more addicted until dawn. The description of the relationship between men and women was so real and appropriate that I even wanted to take a screenshot and send it to my relatives who kept urging me to get married.

Close to life, it can bring women sober and third-vision thinking 🤔 I like this type of article!

So real that it's suffocating

My vocabulary is limited, and I can't express my feelings in words. Unmarried ladies or newlywed ladies are advised to read more books like this

In fact, as long as you are cruel enough, children are a man's weakness.

This book truly depicts the various details and conflicts in married life. I particularly like the character Fang Yuan. Her line "If he doesn't pay this little money, don't get married" is really very personal. However, I kind of hate Helanzhi, she is too stubborn sometimes. Overall, this is a book worth reading and will give you a deeper understanding of marriage.

A very real marriage life is full of helplessness and dull atmosphere, which makes people unable to complain. The consequences of meeting unkind people are such a troubled life. As a woman, she is really weak. Even if she has a strong career, she cannot change it, which makes her sad...

This is the most life-like marriage story I've ever heard. It's very realistic in terms of homely details and chicken feathers everywhere [Like]

It's fluent, but after reading it, I felt very depressed, depressed but unable to vent it. Therefore, the author really wrote about the hearts of women all over the world, so there was such resonance. After reading the whole book, I felt that I should look for something lighter like a talk show to relax, otherwise, I really feel the same.

This book allowed me to accompany Fang Yuan through marriage. Everything is written with the lightest words to give the heaviest blow to the heart. It is so true. So well written.

After all, women are still weak

Describe true details

Beautiful, very realistic writing

A useless life

Very very beautiful

I see, the hero also has regrets

Everything is fate and cannot be controlled by anyone

Many people will understand only if they have experienced it

A novel that resonates with readers must be very good. This novel is a very good novel!

It is well written and allows women to see the essence of marriage clearly.