[The 2025 new edition has been personally revised by the author. It brings resonance and courage to thousands of women, and is dedicated to you, me and her who are not seen in marriage.
"My Fragrance" is Yang Benfen's novel focusing on marriage stories.
Following "Autumn Garden" and "Driftwood", Yang Benfen tells the story of sixty years of marriage, and writes about the pain and confusion that no one knows.
This is a book of pain. Marriage requires luck. It may not lead to happiness, but heartbreaking. It is also a book of courage. "The world cannot see me, but I see me."
How many "good old man" husbands are there in Chinese-style marriages? How many invisible women are there? It brings resonance and courage to thousands of women, and is dedicated to you, me and her who are not seen.
Reader comments
Very fresh and touching writing style. Huicai is smart and strong, and Lu is stubborn and cold. They are unworthy in every possible way, but they continue to live a lifetime thanks to Huicai's soft-hearted kindness and hard work. People like Lu are poison in marriages. He himself cannot understand it and tortures himself. He also tortured the people closest to him. It was also fate that he met Huicai's salvation, but his later love for his children was also touching. No matter what era, it is so difficult to live a good life. Only tenacity and wisdom can help one overcome the sufferings of life ~
Lu is probably a good man in the "traditional sense". Externally, he is generous, tolerant, and understands the difficulties of poor people; but internally, he is cold and suspicious, and will not take the initiative to help Huicai. Huicai always believes that Lu will get better, but at the same time he is hurt by him.
After reading it for the first time, I felt that everyone must find a responsible person, so that the two of them can support each other until they grow old, and don't lose yourself because of having children. You only come to this world once, and I hope you can love yourself well. And you must read more, reading can really change your destiny!
It's a very shocking story. Chen Shu was with the wrong person at that time, but he had no choice but to do it. But the ending of the story is still very good. I highly recommend everyone to read it. It's just my personal opinion. If you don't like it, don't criticize it.
It seemed like I was watching my parents' love. When I saw the back, I realized that Lu was also cute. Before I knew it, I became Huicai.
This book tells the story of an ordinary woman's marriage, with a real and touching plot. I like the character Hui Cai very much. Although she encounters many difficulties, she still works hard to live. The characters in the book are vivid, which made me feel the characteristics and atmosphere of that era. This is a book worth reading, it will make you think more about life.
In fact, Lu represents the image of many Chinese men. They love face, are kind and enthusiastic to outsiders, but are not particular about their family members.
It feels like this book is not finished.
Huicai's life is miserable, but fortunately he still has some luck, his children will all have a bright future, and the suffering in this life is over.
Huicai was originally a passionate girl, looking forward to studying, being loved, and a warm marriage. She entered this relationship with expectations, but over the long years, she was slowly worn away by silence, alienation, and unseen loneliness. Her husband was not a bad person, but he could not give her the tenderness and response she wanted. The marriage was stable and decent in the eyes of outsiders, but it was a spiritual desert on the inside.
The authentic writing style covers all the dull pain in marriage. Their marriage is like a microcosm of the times. My father supported a family outside the home, but could not support a gentle word at home. The mother spends her whole life compromising, and the child spends her whole life escaping. The most powerless thing is not the quarrel itself, but that they are trapped in the marriage, and we are trapped in the shadow they left, and no one can get out.
Huicai is very tough, as for Lu, haha.
I feel that married life is not easy. If a woman does not have a good partner, it is really hard for a woman. I think of the miserable female teacher in "One Piece of Marriage" who married a lazy and sick man. Fortunately, the ending of Huicai in "My Ben Fenfen" is still very good.
It feels a little worse than "Autumn Garden", maybe because "Autumn Garden" was written in memory of my mother, so it was written in a warm, touching and positive way. This book is written about myself, so it is full of darkness. I once read a saying that although many people are eager to get rid of the shadow of their parents, they will unconsciously look for their parents when looking for a partner. I feel that Huicai is like this. Her father and husband are similar in many ways.
Huicai missed the opportunity to study because she was not tactful, so she chose to marry Lu early. But the marriage was not as beautiful as she imagined. Her relationship with Lu became much worse than before marriage. Lu was always warm and generous to outsiders, but stingy and harsh to family members.
Very well written about the forbearance of the older generation of women and their insensitive wooden husbands.
I finished reading this book on Valentine's Day, and I was filled with emotion when I read the words at the end.
Marriage is not the goal, happiness is
The real married life may be a portrayal of most people. Some men are not as rich as the male protagonist.
In some places, I seem to see myself
man without conscience
When I was reading, I felt like a kind and elegant grandma was slowly telling me his rich life story. I read it without realizing it, with laughter and tears.
"Are you still willing to be with me in the next life?"
Lu still shook his head.
"It doesn't matter if you shake your head. You tell me yourself."
"I don't want to." The three words were said very clearly.
Very nice and simple writing,
Simple yet permeating the hearts of the people
The ending was quite regrettable. I asked myself in my heart if I was willing, and the answer was no. We obviously started living with the intention of being happy, but we brought pain to each other, and then we realized that there is no right or wrong, only suitability.
Interesting stories to watch
It's not easy to be a beneficiary. It takes half a lifetime of hard work. Fortunately, I have good children.
Marriage is not easy. Don't choose marriage easily...
I cried to death, is this marriage?
My grandparents have always been incompatible with each other since I was a child. When I was a child, I was curious about why my grandma didn't divorce my grandpa. After reading this book, I understood the many things that cannot be controlled in marriage.
OK OK! It brings back memories of the past...
Alas, I feel sorry for Huicai, but there are thousands of Huicai
So you must read, this is one of the ways for poor people to change their destiny
As I was reading, it suddenly came to an end. I thought I would always write about how she writes.
Very fresh and touching writing style. Huicai is smart and strong, and Lu is stubborn and cold. They are unworthy in every possible way, but they continue to live a lifetime thanks to Huicai's soft-hearted kindness and hard work. People like Lu are poison in marriages. He himself cannot understand it and tortures himself. He also tortured the people closest to him. It was also fate that he met Huicai's salvation, but his later love for his children was also touching. No matter what era, it is so difficult to live a good life. Only tenacity and wisdom can help one overcome the sufferings of life ~
Lu is probably a good man in the "traditional sense". Externally, he is generous, tolerant, and understands the difficulties of poor people; but internally, he is cold and suspicious, and will not take the initiative to help Huicai. Huicai always believes that Lu will get better, but at the same time he is hurt by him. After reading it for the first time, I felt that everyone must find a responsible person, so that the two of them can support each other until they grow old, and don't lose yourself because of having children. You only come to this world once, and I hope you can love yourself well. And you must read more, reading can really change your destiny!
It's a very shocking story. Chen Shu was with the wrong person at that time, but he had no choice but to do it. But the ending of the story is still very good. I highly recommend everyone to read it. It's just my personal opinion. If you don't like it, don't criticize it.
It seemed like I was watching my parents' love. When I saw the back, I realized that Lu was also cute. Before I knew it, I became Huicai.
This book tells the story of an ordinary woman's marriage, with a real and touching plot. I like the character Hui Cai very much. Although she encounters many difficulties, she still works hard to live. The characters in the book are vivid, which made me feel the characteristics and atmosphere of that era. This is a book worth reading, it will make you think more about life.
In fact, Lu represents the image of many Chinese men. They love face, are kind and enthusiastic to outsiders, but are not particular about their family members. It feels like this book is not finished.
Huicai's life is miserable, but fortunately he still has some luck, his children will all have a bright future, and the suffering in this life is over.
Huicai was originally a passionate girl, looking forward to studying, being loved, and a warm marriage. She entered this relationship with expectations, but over the long years, she was slowly worn away by silence, alienation, and unseen loneliness. Her husband was not a bad person, but he could not give her the tenderness and response she wanted. The marriage was stable and decent in the eyes of outsiders, but it was a spiritual desert on the inside.
The authentic writing style covers all the dull pain in marriage. Their marriage is like a microcosm of the times. My father supported a family outside the home, but could not support a gentle word at home. The mother spends her whole life compromising, and the child spends her whole life escaping. The most powerless thing is not the quarrel itself, but that they are trapped in the marriage, and we are trapped in the shadow they left, and no one can get out.
Huicai is very tough, as for Lu, haha.
I feel that married life is not easy. If a woman does not have a good partner, it is really hard for a woman. I think of the miserable female teacher in "One Piece of Marriage" who married a lazy and sick man. Fortunately, the ending of Huicai in "My Ben Fenfen" is still very good.
It feels a little worse than "Autumn Garden", maybe because "Autumn Garden" was written in memory of my mother, so it was written in a warm, touching and positive way. This book is written about myself, so it is full of darkness. I once read a saying that although many people are eager to get rid of the shadow of their parents, they will unconsciously look for their parents when looking for a partner. I feel that Huicai is like this. Her father and husband are similar in many ways.
Huicai missed the opportunity to study because she was not tactful, so she chose to marry Lu early. But the marriage was not as beautiful as she imagined. Her relationship with Lu became much worse than before marriage. Lu was always warm and generous to outsiders, but stingy and harsh to family members.
Very well written about the forbearance of the older generation of women and their insensitive wooden husbands.
I finished reading this book on Valentine's Day, and I was filled with emotion when I read the words at the end. Marriage is not the goal, happiness is
The real married life may be a portrayal of most people. Some men are not as rich as the male protagonist.
In some places, I seem to see myself man without conscience
When I was reading, I felt like a kind and elegant grandma was slowly telling me his rich life story. I read it without realizing it, with laughter and tears.
"Are you still willing to be with me in the next life?" Lu still shook his head. "It doesn't matter if you shake your head. You tell me yourself." "I don't want to." The three words were said very clearly.
Very nice and simple writing,
Simple yet permeating the hearts of the people The ending was quite regrettable. I asked myself in my heart if I was willing, and the answer was no. We obviously started living with the intention of being happy, but we brought pain to each other, and then we realized that there is no right or wrong, only suitability.
Interesting stories to watch
It's not easy to be a beneficiary. It takes half a lifetime of hard work. Fortunately, I have good children.
Marriage is not easy. Don't choose marriage easily...
I cried to death, is this marriage?
My grandparents have always been incompatible with each other since I was a child. When I was a child, I was curious about why my grandma didn't divorce my grandpa. After reading this book, I understood the many things that cannot be controlled in marriage.
OK OK! It brings back memories of the past...
Alas, I feel sorry for Huicai, but there are thousands of Huicai
So you must read, this is one of the ways for poor people to change their destiny
As I was reading, it suddenly came to an end. I thought I would always write about how she writes.