Many people lack sufficient security in their romantic relationships. They are obsessed with building intimacy, but often doubt whether their partners can reciprocate the same love. They have strong possessiveness, desire more emotional intimacy but are afraid of being hurt. Their emotional journeys are ups and downs, and they are more susceptible to emotional fluctuations. In the field of attachment relationship research, in order to seek and maintain a relationship, people with anxious attachment personality will be more likely to be jealous, pay too much attention to their partner's behavior, and become more emotionally dependent on the other person, which is also a manifestation of lack of security.
This book comes from psychotherapist and marriage counselor Jessica Baum. She will lead readers to understand the core of various attachment personalities, strengthen their own inner strength and self-love instinct, and help these people who are struggling to "survive" in love.
The contents of the book include: how to establish appropriate boundaries in a romantic relationship to protect the sense of self-sovereignty; learn to communicate effectively with your partner to let the other person know your needs in love; establish recognition of self-worth and learn emotional stability; this book provides practical and comprehensive suggestions to help people with anxious attachment personality overcome various problems and regain a happy and fulfilling love.
Reader comments
I was recommended this book because I wanted to repair the relationship, but I didn't expect that after I actually finished reading it, the relationship was over. After reading it, it was more of a kind of self-healing. I understood that the fear and abandonment behind my anxiety were due to the reappearance of the feelings I had when I was a child. Although I can't remember a few things, I did have them. After I entered the relationship, I felt that the other party gave too little and had no love for me. I couldn't bear it, and finally chose to separate. Thinking about it carefully, I have tried it before, but the other party didn't seem to care about the relationship. Even when I expressed my thoughts, he still acted according to his own thoughts and style, which was very similar to an avoidant personality. There is also mentioned in the book that you should find an inner supporter for your little child to provide unconditional support and care for her, gradually understand the trauma of the past, and slowly recover, thereby establishing a safer attachment model and getting along better with others.
All in all, it was a fruitful experience, thank you to the author and translator!
The book's practical advice, such as establishing appropriate boundaries and communicating effectively, is sure to be helpful to her. And I particularly hate people who are very controlling in relationships, and this book also talks about how to deal with such people. I think this book is not only suitable for people with anxious attachment personality, but also for anyone who wants to have a healthy relationship.
Especially suitable for people with high anxiety
After reading this, I really feel that it will help me a little. I am currently in a relationship. I hope that after healing, I can continue to invest in this relationship and establish the intimate relationship that I really want.
This book is definitely the most detailed and wonderful book I have ever read that describes attachment types. At first, I didn't understand why the octopus was told to learn to calm down. But with further understanding, it turned out that the meaning of the octopus is an analogy to an anxious attachment personality that stretches out eight tentacles in all directions. While watching, I nodded frequently, continued to explore myself, became aware of past defense patterns, and took a lot of notes. This book explains attachment types from a scientific perspective. It not only gives concepts but also solutions [like it]. I will read it again and again and recommend it to friends who have the same problem. I hope that while realizing self-care, I can improve my own patterns, build a sense of self-security, and live a happier life! !
I have read it three times. It is a book that needs to be savored carefully. It is very good.
Every sentence speaks to my heart. I finally understand why I have so many rotten peach blossoms. It's really worth reading.
It's very helpful. I opened it and read it when I was very emotional recently. I haven't finished reading it yet. My condition has improved but it's still erratic. I hope that together with everyone who reads this book, we can complete self-enrichment and self-healing, and everyone will be fine.
Good books good books good books
From this book, I have a better understanding of myself and of intimate relationships. The establishment of an intimate relationship requires both parties to be individuals with subjectivity and grow together without preventing the other party from growing. Only in this way can a better intimate relationship be built.
Those with anxiety and dependence can take a look
Now I feel lucky to have read this book
Heal the soul, and you will earn money after reading it!
A very good book to help you make progress
Very good, the description of this book is quite accurate for anxious attachment, and meditating for a certain amount of time every day can really help you better manage your emotions.
I was recommended this book because I wanted to repair the relationship, but I didn't expect that after I actually finished reading it, the relationship was over. After reading it, it was more of a kind of self-healing. I understood that the fear and abandonment behind my anxiety were due to the reappearance of the feelings I had when I was a child. Although I can't remember a few things, I did have them. After I entered the relationship, I felt that the other party gave too little and had no love for me. I couldn't bear it, and finally chose to separate. Thinking about it carefully, I have tried it before, but the other party didn't seem to care about the relationship. Even when I expressed my thoughts, he still acted according to his own thoughts and style, which was very similar to an avoidant personality. There is also mentioned in the book that you should find an inner supporter for your little child to provide unconditional support and care for her, gradually understand the trauma of the past, and slowly recover, thereby establishing a safer attachment model and getting along better with others. All in all, it was a fruitful experience, thank you to the author and translator!
The book's practical advice, such as establishing appropriate boundaries and communicating effectively, is sure to be helpful to her. And I particularly hate people who are very controlling in relationships, and this book also talks about how to deal with such people. I think this book is not only suitable for people with anxious attachment personality, but also for anyone who wants to have a healthy relationship.
Especially suitable for people with high anxiety
After reading this, I really feel that it will help me a little. I am currently in a relationship. I hope that after healing, I can continue to invest in this relationship and establish the intimate relationship that I really want.
This book is definitely the most detailed and wonderful book I have ever read that describes attachment types. At first, I didn't understand why the octopus was told to learn to calm down. But with further understanding, it turned out that the meaning of the octopus is an analogy to an anxious attachment personality that stretches out eight tentacles in all directions. While watching, I nodded frequently, continued to explore myself, became aware of past defense patterns, and took a lot of notes. This book explains attachment types from a scientific perspective. It not only gives concepts but also solutions [like it]. I will read it again and again and recommend it to friends who have the same problem. I hope that while realizing self-care, I can improve my own patterns, build a sense of self-security, and live a happier life! ! I have read it three times. It is a book that needs to be savored carefully. It is very good.
Every sentence speaks to my heart. I finally understand why I have so many rotten peach blossoms. It's really worth reading.
It's very helpful. I opened it and read it when I was very emotional recently. I haven't finished reading it yet. My condition has improved but it's still erratic. I hope that together with everyone who reads this book, we can complete self-enrichment and self-healing, and everyone will be fine.
Good books good books good books
From this book, I have a better understanding of myself and of intimate relationships. The establishment of an intimate relationship requires both parties to be individuals with subjectivity and grow together without preventing the other party from growing. Only in this way can a better intimate relationship be built.
Those with anxiety and dependence can take a look
Now I feel lucky to have read this book
Heal the soul, and you will earn money after reading it!
A very good book to help you make progress
Very good, the description of this book is quite accurate for anxious attachment, and meditating for a certain amount of time every day can really help you better manage your emotions.
Are there any boys reading this book?