But I Still Care: 8 Ways to Get Rid of Excessive Self-Consciousness

The book's concept of "self-awareness excess" is instructive. We often care too much about other people's opinions and ignore our own inner feelings. In fact, most people are busy with their own things and don't have that much time to pay attention to us. After reading this book, I understand that I need to pay more attention to myself and not be swayed by other people's opinions, so that I can live a more calm and happy life. 🤗

Not bad, there are a lot of things you can learn from. Avoid excessive self-awareness. Others don't pay that much attention to you. Always remember this and have less unreasonable worries and fears!

My takeaways: It is better to accept mistakes than to be afraid of them. Only by speaking out your needs can you understand each other. It is not that you can have a perfect life just by getting into a good university. Don't beautify the road you have not traveled. Show off what you lack. You don't need to pursue perfection but set a passing score for yourself. Don't think that you can succeed after trying it once.

Get rid of excessive self-consciousness and regain inner peace. Excessive self-awareness often causes us to pay too much attention to what others think of us, causing us to fall into anxiety and uneasiness. The author deeply analyzes this common problem and proposes eight methods to get rid of excessive self-awareness, which is highly practical. By focusing on current tasks, we can reduce overthinking of ourselves; Learning to face up to our own shortcomings and shortcomings can help us face the evaluation of others more calmly. Caring too much about other people's opinions will only constrain our own development. Only by letting go of the burden of excessive self-awareness can we truly express ourselves freely and bravely pursue our dreams. [Three core questions] 1. How does excessive self-awareness arise? : Originating from excessive concern about other people's evaluations, one's own lack of self-confidence and excessive self-expectations. (Take class as a student as an example. When students answer questions in class, they will worry that they will be laughed at by their classmates if they make a mistake. This excessive concern about other people's opinions is excessive self-awareness) 2. What negative impact will excessive self-awareness have on one's career development? : Being too sensitive in teamwork affects the team atmosphere; it may lead to being too cautious, not daring to try new things, and missing development opportunities. (At work, sometimes I care too much about my own performance and other people's evaluations of myself, and overreact to other people's opinions, which affects team harmony and personal development) 3. How to continue to get rid of excessive self-awareness in daily life? : The 8 methods mentioned in the book have different effects on different people, depending on personality and specific environmental conditions. They require constant self-reminder and practice to cultivate new thinking habits and behavior patterns. (It is very effective for some people to get rid of excessive self-awareness by focusing on their own interests and hobbies. They are immersed in their own interests and forget to care about the evaluation of others; while some people are more effective through positive self-suggestion. They give themselves positive psychological suggestions in the mirror after getting up every morning, and deliberately practice not caring so much about other people's eyes in their daily interactions with others.) Content Sharing 1. If you want to overcome excessive self-awareness, you must learn to distinguish between facts and imagination. People tend to mistake their imaginations for facts, resulting in excessive self-consciousness. 2. People with excessive self-awareness tend to care too much about other people's evaluations and ignore their own true feelings. 3. Learning to accept your own imperfections is an important step in getting rid of excessive self-awareness. 4. Don't always put yourself in the center, and consider more the feelings and needs of others. 5. By cultivating interests and hobbies, you can shift attention from yourself to the external world, thereby reducing the problem of excessive self-awareness.

It's a good book, I recommend reading it. Don't be too self-aware, and your life will be more exciting.

After reading it, it was somewhat helpful to me, but this is the first time I know the term "excessive self-awareness." In the past, I have always heard that "excessive concern about other people's opinions is a sign of lack of self." However, the author of this book said that this is "excessive self-awareness." I don't understand this concept very well.

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It's okay, but everyone's environment is different, and some contents are not suitable for rigid application. Generally speaking, some contents are very inspiring to me and provide new ideas.

Very useful. As long as you realize that you are in a state of "excessive self-awareness", you can make great improvements.

After reading this book, I found that I am a person with low self-awareness, a person who pursues perfection, and has strict control over time, so that I often consume myself internally, lead a miserable life, and my heart beats faster every day. You can take the test within seven consecutive days of studying subject three of your driver's license, because there is no problem on the technical level. The main reason is that your mentality is unstable, your self-awareness is too low, and you are worried about failing the test. Doubling the time you spend practicing driving. This book has taught me a lot. I am slowly adjusting myself, hoping to improve myself and start a new work and life steadily and powerfully. Come on

Very good. I finished reading it before I knew it.

Others don't care about you that much. We are just passers-by and don't pay that much attention to you. It's really difficult to get along with people you don't know well. It's enough to put yourself in someone else's shoes and don't do things that will hurt other people's self-esteem, such as saying bad things behind their backs. A good writer is not afraid of controversy and being disliked. Don't be afraid to have clear personal opinions, and don't be vague in order to avoid conflict and controversy. Accept that you will be disliked by others. It is difficult and almost impossible to make everyone satisfied with you. Keep your focus on the end goal and don't get too carried away. "Morita therapy" acknowledges the facts and only changes what can be changed. Live life as nature takes its course, and don't go against human nature, otherwise it will be difficult to persist for a long time. Figure out what can and cannot be changed. Learn to show weakness appropriately, and don't give the impression that you can do everything by yourself or that you want to do everything by yourself. This is not conducive to career development and will make you very hard. Learn to ask for help, learn to cooperate with other people in the team, and try to believe in the abilities and goodwill of others. Don't dwell on the glory of the past. Instead of constantly looking back on past excellence to alleviate current embarrassment, it's better to carefully reflect on and summarize the reasons for a past success, apply the experience to the present, and then act and change, so that things will get better now. There is no use in constantly ruminating. A hero is not brave in his past. The past is in the past. Except for the summary of experiences and lessons, don't think about anything else!