Three Skills of Eloquence: the Ability to Praise, the Ability to Be Humorous, and the Ability to Reject

Humor requires not only grasping the time and occasion, but also paying attention to differences in gender, personality, country, nation, era, aesthetic psychology, and historical and cultural traditions. You need to distinguish the target of humor. It is often harmless to make a few jokes about the people around you or those who are relatively close to you. However, if the other person is older or has a higher status than you, such as an elder, superior or expert, then you must carefully consider humorous words and methods, otherwise it will be extremely impolite behavior. "No" is a necessary refusal. When the other party is in a difficult situation, it is best not to refuse the other party's urgent request. Saying "no" is a sign of being assertive. There are three reasons why we dare not say "no": the love of face; the trauma of being rejected; and the desire to please and please others.

People who can praise know how to discover the strengths and achievements of others, and express appreciation and affirmation through appropriate words to make the other person feel valued and recognized. Being able to say no can not only safeguard your own rights and boundaries, but also establish good communication and cooperation with others. People who are good at humor know how to use humor at the right time to relieve tension, add lightness and joy, and arouse resonance and laughter in others. Learning these eloquence methods from books can help us better cultivate interpersonal relationships.

"Within limited time and space, even if it is a first meeting or a dinner, humor can allow you to show your talent and leave a deep impression on others." I deeply understand this sentence and admire this kind of people. There was a problem in the hotel during the company's annual meeting, and it almost caused a serious incident. A waiter (probably, he is the manager now anyway) used only a few words to humorously resolve the current crisis, and he was able to make both parties shake hands and make peace. It was really amazing. After that, all our company's events were held at this hotel, and we went there just for this person. Maybe humor is just a small advantage of this person, but it was really shining and charming in my eyes at that moment. Therefore, knowing humor can really add a lot of points to your life.

A person with good eloquence is more likely to be liked by friends around him. Especially when you learn to praise others and communicate with humor, your popularity with people around you will rise to a great level. This book provides practical tips, examples, and exercises to help readers learn how to appropriately use compliments, humor, and rejection. Through learning and practice, readers can improve their eloquence skills and respond to various communication scenarios more confidently and flexibly. Having good communication skills can help us get twice the result with half the effort.

The title of this book already points out the three most important points of eloquence. The content covers making your compliments worth millions, making every sentence powerful, making your compliments unique, nothing makes people happier than saying this, humorous eloquence in social interactions, eighteen humorous methods that will open your eyes, details in life that make humor ubiquitous, seven occasions when you should resolutely refuse, etc. It is very practical and can be said to be suitable for various occasions in modern life.

Many times in life, I force myself to do things I don't want to do out of fear of hurting others. I have never thought that if others are happy and you are unhappy, then it will not be worth it no matter how you calculate it. In fact, rejecting others is not as terrible as we take it for granted. We must learn to reject correctly. When communicating with others, you can often use a gentler tone to refuse, making the other party feel respected and expressing your inconvenient attitude. For example: you can first affirm the other party, and then use the word "we" skillfully to bring the relationship closer to each other so that the other party will not feel uncomfortable.

Everyone knows the importance of eloquence. This book tells us that praise, humor and rejection are the three most rare art of speaking. For this reason, this book is divided into three parts based on this type of eloquence. It teaches people how to please others through praise and take into account the mood of all parties, show personal charm with humor, and reject others in a decent way. For me personally, I often add a lot of trouble to myself because I don't know how to say no. These eloquence skills help us gain points in social interactions and lead a more comfortable life.

Praise is a gift that can make people feel happy and enhance their relationship. The last thing you should not be stingy with in your daily life is words of praise. Of course, this does not mean that we should exaggerate, but we should find the shining light in the other person and sincerely praise the people around us. "Everyone likes praise from others. A word of praise can make a successful person take another step forward, or it can make a pessimistic and disappointed person suddenly wake up and catch up."

This book is very practical! It taught me how to compliment others and also taught me some humorous skills, making me more comfortable in social interactions. I especially like the story about the Vienna dinner in the book. The host's approach not only takes care of the face of the middle-aged and elderly people, but also satisfies the young people's love for beauty. It's wonderful! Moreover, this book also taught me how to say no to others, which is very important to me. All in all, I think this is a book worth reading.

Not bad, I like it

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