Why repeat such relationships?
Why do you prefer such people?
Why are you afraid of such a scenario?
When we grow up, we will inevitably experience some trauma, which causes us to repeat painful patterns at a certain stage in our adulthood... Only by self-love, self-reflection, understanding of trauma, and continuous self-adjustment can we possibly fully heal ourselves.
Self-love: Only by truly loving ourselves and feeling "I am good enough" and "I am great" will we not feel that introspection is criticizing and denying ourselves, and will we have the courage and strength to stare at invisible wounds.
Self-reflection: Only by seeing all of ourselves, including those areas where we have been hurt, can we restrain situational conditioning, have the ability to love ourselves, make new choices, and not repeat invisible trauma.
Immature coping mechanisms caused by invisible trauma are like walls in the heart that separate people from true intimacy. Only with self-examination and self-love can we gradually tear down our inner walls and build truly deep relationships.
The establishment of any intimate relationship must go through a process of shattering and reconstruction, just like porcelain repaired with gold, beautiful and strong.
Through typical universal cases, this book selects seven common types of trauma—domestic violence, parenting defects, loss and death, illness, emotional deprivation in relationships, blocked differentiation, and collective and authority adjustment disorders—for main discussion. I hope everyone can slowly understand that trauma can be re-examined. Life is not a well-rehearsed play, but a process of constantly re-understanding yourself. As long as you keep making new choices, you can get out of the plot centered on self-trauma experience and live a free and powerful self.
Reader comments
As the book says: "Only by self-love, self-reflection, understanding of trauma, and constant self-adjustment, can we completely heal ourselves." I think the author Wang Jiayue is very powerful. Her case analysis and explanations are very vivid and vivid, which gave me a deeper understanding of myself and the people around me. I recommend you also read this book, you will definitely gain something!
Whenever you fall into self-doubt, self-denial, or self-criticism, please give yourself a positive psychological hint: I am good, I deserve respect and be loved, then face yourself sincerely, continue to explore yourself, and finally learn the two crucial life topics of self-examination and self-love.
A good book worth reading
Clear point of view, simple and easy to understand
As the book says: "Only by self-love, self-reflection, understanding of trauma, and constant self-adjustment, can we completely heal ourselves." I think the author Wang Jiayue is very powerful. Her case analysis and explanations are very vivid and vivid, which gave me a deeper understanding of myself and the people around me. I recommend you also read this book, you will definitely gain something!
Whenever you fall into self-doubt, self-denial, or self-criticism, please give yourself a positive psychological hint: I am good, I deserve respect and be loved, then face yourself sincerely, continue to explore yourself, and finally learn the two crucial life topics of self-examination and self-love.
A good book worth reading
Clear point of view, simple and easy to understand