The Courage to Love: Adler's Philosophy of Happiness

The key to finding happiness is to just like yourself. If you think carefully about the circumstances under which you would feel loved, you will understand how to get love. Don't regard being affirmed by others as a necessity, otherwise you will not be able to recognize your own value when you are not affirmed by others. Love is a typical existential thing, so no matter how much you like a person, you cannot possess him, so you cannot bind him. The other half doesn't live to meet our expectations. When communicating, if you use indirect expression, you will become aggressive when others do not understand your intentions; you clearly do not want to express your thoughts, but you have a vengeful mentality because others do not do what you expect. These are aggressive communication methods and should be avoided. We must also learn to enjoy solitude. Only when a person enjoys solitude can he completely own his own soul. You can also stay independent and sober in your marriage. People are lonely regardless of life or death. Death is absolute loneliness. Loneliness from birth is a harbinger of death.

I once started a marriage in order to "grow old together". The process was not good, but I still persisted for the result, and in the end I was bruised and bruised. I knew that I was in the wrong place. Relationships and marriage are processes. If you feel good, it will naturally continue. Otherwise, you should stop the loss in time. Thank you for the author's guidance.

This book really resonated with me, especially the perspective on the family of origin. We are indeed affected by our family of origin, but Adler tells us that everyone is an independent individual and has the right to choose his own life. This gave me the courage to face emotional problems, and also taught me not to label others easily, but to see their true heart. The viewpoints in the book are very novel and the writing is fluent. I recommend it to friends who are looking for happiness.

I have benefited a lot. I have a deeper understanding of love and will pay more attention to the moment with my lover.

I really like various books on Adlerian psychology

Death is lonely, love is the eternity against loneliness.

I gained a profound understanding and hope to make my own changes based on what happened to me.

Know yourself clearly and see others clearly!

Needless to say, Adlerian psychology is worth reading repeatedly.