The Story of Growing up a Vulgar Girl

The book "The Development of a Common Girl" actually breaks many "rules" that seem to be glamorous but are a mess inside. What impressed me the most was the author's definition of "obedient". She said that being obedient is actually a matter of convenience, so that you don't have to take responsibility for your own decisions, don't have to work hard to think about your future, and make it easier to hold the person who made the decision accountable when life goes wrong in the future. Isn't this a good feeling? Seeing this, I suddenly had an enlightenment and my thoughts suddenly opened up. It turns out that for so many years, I have been relying on others. It turns out that I am a person who is irresponsible to myself! ! I started to face myself, think about what suits me, and go my own way. Although I have worries, anxiety, and uneasiness in my heart, on the other hand, I have begun to take responsibility for myself and have taken a step for myself. (Just a small personal reflection, I may have shortcomings, please don't criticize [I learned it])

Seeing the big from the small, and using a child's perspective to write down many of the truths that the author has realized. I am really grateful to the author for his sensitive insight and his passion and courage to realize the agenda of life all the time. I've also watched the TV series of the same name as The Raising of a Common Girl, and there are some changes. But it does correspond to the structure of the TV series: the author's childhood life did give the author a framework thereafter, and her life trajectory thereafter was to break through this framework, or continue along this framework.

It is not easy to be a girl named Cha from Fujian and Taiwan. Structural, top-down patriarchal preference for sons over daughters, as well as feudal and trivial parental filial piety, together formed our childhood. Fortunately, I still have my grandpa who gives me change, my grandma who can cook the most delicious food in the world, my aunt and uncle who can't speak Mandarin well... And of course, I have a group of the cutest sisters to accompany me. Thank you. This book has answered the many confusions and angers I have experienced over the past twenty years from a more peaceful and intimate perspective. What the author has touched upon in just a few strokes is often the things that I could not figure out over and over again in the middle of the night. Oh, Anna!

The Hokkien narrative is cuter than Carina Chan and warmer than the TV series The problem is, she didn't expect that, and I didn't expect that, when she grows up, this granddaughter will become depressed after hearing too many people's words. Regarding the cross-cultural issues at the corner of her eyebrows, she has to hold her thighs and think about her salary to force her patience to put on a gentle mask... This kind of traditional daughter-in-law's destiny cycle makes me feel that growing up is very scary. If you don't just look at yourself through other people's eyes, you will have options That cloud and fog that has evaporated a whole life's resentment, even the people in it can't tell what it is. Looking up at the generations before my parents, the only thing worth trading for health is money; but looking down at the generations after me, nothing is worth trading for health. Only when you don't feel poor can you have plenty of life. Of course, this is related to the political and economic background at that time. Parents who are calm and at ease are more likely to give birth to children who are calm and at ease. People who feel poor, because they know they are lacking, often don't care about the inferiority of everything around them. They just want everything to be cheaper, and ultimately make themselves cheaper.

I watched the TV series and read the book twice. The biggest feeling is to accept yourself, support yourself, and have unnecessary standards... [So, I hereby solemnly invite you to have a limited grasp of this life, shrug your shoulders together, and support your excellent but ordinary self. Those things that require hard work will not be done secretly after a while.

It's very interesting, philosophical and easy to understand. In just 32 chapters, the author observes the world from a child's perspective and forms his own thinking. The things he experienced in that context, as well as the Minnan dialect that appeared from time to time, made me feel very familiar. I read many readers' comments and saw moments when many people felt the same way. I felt like "we are as close as we are to the world", which often made me shed tears. After reading the whole article, what impressed me the most was the author's strong psychology. She also had some unpleasant experiences in her childhood, but she did not complain about her elders in the family or her family of origin. She has a power that seems light but is actually powerful. This is what I need to learn very much at this stage.

I haven't read such relaxed and freehand writing in a long time. In addition to the Hokkien language mixed in, which is somewhat difficult to understand, the life described in the article is all from a small perspective, and many youthful pasts that have been ignored due to age come to the fore. There is no gripping story, but if you calm down, you can capture the warm moments in ordinary life and soften your utilitarian heart.

I like the sentences. It's very relaxed and delicate. It feels like the breeze blowing at dusk when I was a kid. Every household is cooking. You can smell whose rice is fried with chili pepper. [Eat melon] [Eat melon]

This book is very real and reminded me of my own upbringing. Jiang Ge's writing is simple but powerful, and her descriptions of the details of life are interesting and inspiring. I think every man should read this book to better understand women's growth and choices. This is not only a book about girls, but also a book about life and human nature. It is well worth reading.

A little girl struggled to grow up under the influence of her family environment, but she always carried the color of her family. When she wanted to change herself, she discovered that those habits and thoughts had been engraved in her bones. Children have to grow up according to adults' ideas, because they have no right to choose, their opinions are not valued and are often ignored. But her family loves her, even though everyone loves her in different ways. Those dissatisfactions and happiness complement each other and form a complete family. I am more or less affected by my family, and one day I will also affect my family.

I've watched this TV series. It's great!

Looking back on my journey of more than 30 years, many naive, ridiculous, sad, and aggrieved trivial things happened. I didn't think much of it at the time, but now that I think about it, it seems pretty good. Live for yourself, believe in yourself, be down-to-earth, have no regrets, no hesitation, no partiality, always follow your own pace and do what you think is good [shy][shy]

It is a very interesting way of thinking with a slight melancholic sense of relief. Many of the problems raised by the author in the book often occur in our lives, but few people acknowledge and point them out. I admire the author's observation skills very much.

It's so natural that I didn't notice it was in the first person. It's like reading a childhood diary. The memories and articles resonate at the same frequency, and I feel that the villain who once had so many strange ideas has evolved into a "vulgar woman".

There are so many wonderful words and sentences

There is no such thing as growing up into a perfect adult in an instant, just take your time and experience it. Develop yourself.

Because we are all born in the 1970s, all aspects of our lives and experiences in cultural activities when we were young resonate particularly well with them. The author's writing is elegant yet interesting and humorous. I like it so much💕

This book is so good that I think it can be included in Chinese textbooks for evaluation. It carries the emotions of a generation, with a touch of nostalgia that can be recalled for a long time. The writing is good but not boring, and there are many great truths.

Marvelous! Very nice!

Full of nostalgia and human touch

I really like the expression techniques of Taiwanese writers

A book that is both happy and sad.

It is good-looking and beautiful. Although the author calls herself a vulgar woman, she is very spiritual and restores the interesting growth process of a 70-year-old girl. The Taiwanese drama of the same name is also very good.

This article is a short story that is humorous, interesting and attractive, and can be easily read.

A Taiwanese girl's memories of growing up in a warm and warm Chinese medicine shop. The ordinary and ordinary family was happy and happy. Of course, there were also conflicts and difficulties in life. But more of them are warmth, diligence and kindness.

It's interesting and suitable for reading after a meal or when you feel calm.

The writing is delicate and rigorous.

A plain little story

Like it, real and simple

It's not a bad idea to become a "vulgar girl".