Girls' Underground War: Uncovering Hidden Aggression in Relationships

Every word in the book is heart-breaking. Compared with boys, girls tend to bear more social demands. As girls grow up to adults, there are varying degrees of harsh voices. Girls should be gentle, beautiful, sensible, considerate, and being liked is more important than expressing their true thoughts. The author of the book uses plain language and an academic way to present the hidden aggression in women's interpersonal relationships. Like an elder, she shares with us her research on girls' hidden aggression and the methods she found in detail. It is suitable for every woman to empathize with and is more suitable as a teaching material for educating daughters.

This is a work of sociology and psychology. If I had a daughter, I would definitely read it with her and tell her slowly. The target of the work is a white middle-class girl. The context is different from ours, but many of the issues are common. It is also a useful reference book for educators, so teachers should read it. The author has long studied bullying and girls' psychology, works with schools around the world to reduce bullying, and is a frequent guest on Oprah's show. In the book, the author interviews girls who have been the targets and bullies of bullies. Their experiences can easily evoke similar experiences and experiences in us. There are special topics on girls socializing in online environments. Breaking out of the gender context is also a problem shared by all teenagers.

Sometimes a girl who is bullied does nothing wrong. She just finds someone she thinks is relatively weak because the other person is selfish and narrow-minded, or to pretend to be powerful. So girls should not endure it alone. Sometimes if you tolerate it too much, you will get more serious bullying. Each of us is a precious and unique person, learn to protect yourself, love yourself, and resist school bullying! We always think that we are the only ones who have experienced it, but when we grow up and talk about it with our friends, we find that similar experiences abound. So there is nothing to be embarrassed about. If you encounter it, just find a solution immediately.

There are very few books on the market that comprehensively describe bullying. Most of them analyze this phenomenon from a psychological level, but do not tell everyone what to do from a daily level. After reading this book, I think it provides a relatively comprehensive analysis of the ins and outs of bullying, and tells children, parents, and teachers how to deal with such incidents and reduce the occurrence of tragedies as much as possible. The angle of this book is quite special, it tells a story about "bullying" between girls. Examples include: unreasonable exclusion on campus, wanton ridicule in class, and malicious rumors on social media. These seemingly trivial things can actually bring a deep psychological shadow to the parties concerned. Perhaps only children who have actually been "bullied" can understand. In this book, the author interviews girls who have been targets of bullying and bullies, and confronts the abnormal social culture that has caused trouble and even trauma to countless women. Compared with boys, girls often carry more social requirements: being liked is more important than expressing true thoughts. Before becoming a "perfect girl", they must first have an independent personality. Otherwise, once faced with conflict and anger, they will avoid it and adopt an "alternative attack" method to deal with disputes, which will frequently cause them to fall into the quagmire of interpersonal wars. In life, we often encounter various bullying incidents, so how to face it is a lesson for us as we grow up. Life is not easy anymore. I hope every girl can be treated well and treat others well.

This book resonated with me because it sheds light on the issue of covert aggression among girls, which is often overlooked. I think of my friends who sometimes encounter situations like this. This book not only provides the platform and terminology to better understand and respond to these issues. It shines a light on issues that are hidden in the darkness, allowing us to work toward healthy relationships for girls. I am also deeply inspired by the author's efforts and stories, and I look forward to seeing more works like this!

The author of the book points out the girls' war, where girls engage in bullying in various ways in secret places. I think that maybe only girls with good popularity will be immune to this kind of bullying. Some people, even if they are friends, can immediately become hostile and bully to each other after a conflict. This situation cannot be avoided at all. Only by strengthening yourself and the other party does not think you are weak, or the other party thinks that you have many friends, then it is possible that even if the other party is narrow-minded, they will not treat you too much. Girls must learn to protect themselves, and if they encounter unresolved conflicts or incidents, they must seek timely help from their parents and teachers.

A surreal book. The hidden bullying among girls is often easily ignored or unaware of.

Nice, real and secret politics of friendship

The biggest feeling after reading this book is that I am lucky that I am not a teacher or a mother!

It's true and has certain reference value. This behavior seems to be more widespread now.

This is a book I've been looking for

I heard it recommended by a blogger, it's pretty good.