Stop Pleasing: Become a Really Good Person

Don't worry about it, please yourself more...

This book is very suitable for people who are highly sensitive, kind and sincere, considerate of others, and are at a low point. The very warm words are also very close to the real situation. It is like a friend talking about it, materializing the inner feelings, and pulling the negative me up to stand upright.

It's worth reading. Looking back, the beginning of any please behavior came from the collapse of inner security. It may be that you lost something you were proud of, so you lost your affirmation and acceptance of me and turned to working hard to gain acceptance from others. However, other people's opinions and acceptance are constantly changing, and it is undoubtedly difficult to obtain this unstable sense of security. Therefore, many people pursue inner stability. Only with inner stability can they perform better and form a virtuous circle, and external things will follow. So how to get it, there is no good way, practice on the matter, when you complete one thing time and time again based on your own value, you gain confidence and control. Value does not mean being logical and pleasing others, but the true side of your heart. For example, revolutionary bloodshed is a thing that is detrimental to one's own safety according to logical judgment, but according to the conscience deep in the heart, it must be done, so the heart is stable and there is no fear of the outside world.

The author talks about how to become a healthy people pleaser in the second half of the book. This has always been my goal, not to please others in order to gain their approval, but out of my own inner will. As for how to do this, the author mentioned some methods that need to be tried.

We are afraid of conflict, and we think that being gentle can solve the problem and get closer to them. In fact, the situation will only get worse. We only relieve the current emotions, but we do not really solve the problem.

A very good book, worth reading. 2024.2.4 Read in 1 hour and 54 minutes

This book taught me not to wrong myself in order to please others. Of course, the biggest harm to myself is when others hurt us, but we still smile and say it doesn't matter, it's okay. This is the greatest damage to ourselves.

Please deeply realize your uniqueness and consider yourself an important person. No need to please others, you can live a better life

I found this book by accident and loved it.

A truly useful book that's not just junk food

You don't have to have too many friends in life. Maintaining relationships with many people is tiring. Stay curious about life and look for the freshness of life. The "comfort zone" is our home, making us feel safe, but we still have an identity as an adventurer, waiting for us to complete it.

I really like the idea mentioned in the book that we should focus on our own needs instead of blindly catering to others. The experience of author Dr. Mike Bechtel is also enlightening and his advice is practical. I think this book is not only suitable for people-pleasers, but also for everyone who wants to understand themselves better.

Very helpful for people who like to please

By reading this book, I discovered that I am on the road to becoming a people-pleaser. I am working hard to change myself and it really feels too real. I often choose to avoid emotional issues as mentioned in the book. This book mainly uses our please-pleaser personality to be a healthy pleaser and work hard in this aspect. At least it made me see myself clearly. When I do something now, I often remind myself that life is slowly getting better.

Maybe my problem is that this book talks about a point that I am very interested in and confused about. It may be a bit flattering that you can still take care of others when you focus on yourself. But if you can't take care of others in life, we will really have no friends. In the process, we will be very lonely. The solution here is not suitable for me. Is there anything else that can make me enlightened?

I like it very much. I used to help others a lot, but every time I felt that I had a purpose, so I couldn't feel happiness and peace. This book made me realize it, and it also explained very clearly how to change. I like it.

A classic, combined with reality, it has brought guidance to many people. If you don't live in the evaluation of others, you should be yourself. A pleaser personality will bring a lifetime of harm. Live yourself and show yourself. Just like loving someone, you must love so much that you don't lose yourself.

A very practical book. When I realize that I am a pleaser, I hate it and want to change it, but I don't know how to change it. This book is very meaningful to me and it is not very long. It is a very practical book.

This book is unpretentious, sincere, easy to understand, not complicated or profound. It is like a beacon and very helpful for people who are used to pleasing others.

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I sincerely recommend it to every friend who is troubled by interpersonal relationships, is exploring himself, and needs psychological healing. I admire the delicate perception of the author of this book, and suddenly understand that sensitive emotions can also shine in another field. When I read this book, I seemed to see myself. It's amazing to heal yourself while watching it.

I came across this accidentally. I think it's quite helpful for a people-pleaser like me.

I haven't finished it yet, but it feels good.

In real life, I am a person with a very rich inner world. I am afraid of rejecting others and always care too much about other people's opinions. After reading this book, I feel quite touched and gained.

Very good, let me understand why life is so tiring.

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Very good book, really readable

Very nice book, great

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Very good, this book is very good