Carrot Whiskers

I finally know the meaning of the song "Carrot Beard" by Brother Song. It turns out it comes from here.

I think the book "Carrot Beards" is very interesting and touching. Carrotbeard in the story is really pitiful. His family members treat him badly, but he still tries so hard to get their love. I hate his mother and brothers and sisters so much, how could they do this to him! However, Carrotwhisker finally became brave and learned to love himself, which made me very happy for him. I think this book teaches us to be kind and cherish the people around us.

Not all parents love their children. In domestic works, it is rare to directly state that biological mothers, fathers, sisters, and brothers hate abusing children. Just as it is written in the book that no one can change the blood relationship, but it does not mean that I should thank you because of the blood relationship. The test itself is human nature. It's not that you can only gain freedom when you grow up. It's not you who is wrong, but anyone who hurts you. Relationships and status are not the right reasons. When someone writes about the good side, the bad side should also be allowed, and support is conveyed through literature. It is not your fault, it is the fault of the person who hurts you. The right thing, the right idea is not just one person said, countless people say it is right, save yourself, some things have to be brave to try, some things are only known to you, you can also be your own world.

Children who lack love are always trying to please others to gain that mocking pity.

Carrotwhisker's behavior is not a big deal, it's just the ignorance of an ordinary child when he was young. Everyone makes mistakes, but this kind of mistake is the most evil thing in the eyes of people who don't love him. Due to the influence of Yuan Sheng's family, he gradually began to become submissive and even lost his original innocence and kindness.

The reason was that I had heard the song "Carrot Beards" before, and when I saw the name of this book, I found it very affectionate. As I looked at it, I realized that this song is a tribute to this book. A black fairy tale that gives a cruel pleasure when read. The little carrot whisker who was not loved never gave up expressing love, even if it had been twisted into various horrible shapes.

A depressing black fairy tale, 3.5⭐ As the youngest child in the family, Carrot Beard does not get the love of his family. His mother teases him, his father is indifferent, his brother bullies him, and his sister teases him. He can only gain attention and recognition by doing stupid things. I won't go into details about his mother, brothers and sisters, but I feel that Carrot Beard's father, who was his friend, didn't love him much and never truly understood and appreciated him. On the contrary, his godfather was really nice to him. When Carrotbeard shot a woodcock and was about to receive praise, he asked him why he didn't kill the other one as well. When he learned that Carrotwhisker was trying to commit suicide, he didn't think about why he wanted to end his life at such a young age. Instead, he told him that he was selfish and asked him to learn to obey and compromise. His mother also felt that he was so conceited that he committed suicide to attract other people's attention. This family is really bad. Fortunately, Carrotwhisker finally learned how to resist. For a person, a good native family is a safe haven in the storm, but a family without love and without proper education will only be the storm itself...

Are the memories and feelings from childhood really real? Maybe only children who were not well loved as children would be so suspicious. "Maybe I am loved" "Maybe they love me, but I don't feel it" "Maybe it's because I have lost the ability to feel love?" I would rather doubt myself than admit that, in fact, no one loves me. No one loved me as a child, but as an adult they needed me because they said "I am your family". However, when I was a child, did they ever say to me, "You are our family. We love you not because we need you to do something for us, but just because you are our family, so we love you, love you unconditionally..." Maybe, this is the reason why I don't believe in unconditional love, and maybe it is the reason why I am still studying the subject of family affection and love even now that I am financially independent... Or maybe, I really forgot that they had love for me when I was a child... I wonder if this is self-deception? I just feel a little sad...

When I read the chapter "I'm Sorry", my heart skipped a beat because the details were so real that it was almost immersive to read. It was a bit depressing, so I stopped and searched for his information. Unsurprisingly, this is an autobiographical novel, based on his childhood experiences… Almost all the suffering some children suffer comes from their parents, and these sufferings are packaged as "education", "spurring" or even "punishment". Without exception, they all say, "You are not good enough", "I am doing it for your own good", "You are wrong, so you must be punished"... Children are born to trust their parents, and children will only feel that they are really not good enough and not worthy of love. Even if an outsider tells the truth, it is difficult for children to accept this fact, because once it is confirmed that their parents do not love them, the child's world will really collapse. After all, the child cannot survive independently and cannot run away from home to wander. If the parents don't love them, they may really not keep them, so the children can only distort their cognition. At the end of the story, Carrotbeard wakes up and starts to rebel and says, "I don't have to be grateful to you for a blood relationship that was not voluntary." "Carrot Beard" is written very restrained, indifferent, like dissociation. Jules Renard seems to be his own "outsider", observing his life with cold eyes, and then sarcastically said: "How ridiculous." It seems that many writers who suffered family trauma in childhood have a similar temperament, like coolness and indifference, but it is more like a kind of sobriety that is forced to withdraw. Perhaps it was because I had to learn to observe people's emotions and live sensitively early on, so I saw things early that adults dared not admit, but I was unable to resist at that time, so I could only use humor and ridicule to fight back. I thought it was a knife, but after taking a closer look, I realized that they were all wounds.

Warning before reading: This book is about the daily life of an underappreciated child (Carrot Beard), which is real and depressing. I don't mind reading it when I'm feeling down, it's easy to get even more miserable. This book tells the daily life of the Lebique family, from the perspective of Carrotwhisker, a family of five, Mrs. Lebique, Mr. Lebique, the eldest brother, sister and Carrotwhisker. Carrotbeard is not his name, but a nickname. His name does not appear in the whole story, as if no one cares. In this family, Carrot Beard has the lowest status. He tries his best to find a way to survive in this family. After all, his father is too busy and his mother loves his brothers and sisters, but she doesn't love him that much. Until the end of the story, he was finally able to say that he did not love his mother because her mother did not love him. The entire book is a record of Carrot Beard's "pain", and it can be felt that Carrot Beard was influenced by his family, which led to some extremes and persistence in some aspects. Although most people are saying that Carrot Beard is kind, I think he is just a child. It is normal to be ignorant and the victim does not need to be perfect.

Carrot whiskers are unfortunate. The pain of their original family has distorted their personality, making it impossible for them to get along with others calmly. It is said that a person's childhood experience and native family will have an important impact on his future life. So I hope that the "carrot whiskers" in our hearts can be honest in each period. However, in the face of what you have experienced, pursue what you yearn for, just like Carrot Beard's father said, when we cannot change the family of origin, we must learn to obey and compromise, and turn a blind eye until you become an adult and can control your own destiny, and then you will be free.

It's so suffocating, Carrot Beard is lonely, no one understands me, it's really suffocating.

There are countless carrot beards in this world, but those carrot beards cannot escape the shadow of their parents throughout their lives.

Oh. Carrot whiskers. Catch the mole and throw it into the sky. Then stare at it. Oh. Carrot whiskers. Not cruel enough, my hands trembled and tears fell. Can it be eliminated? Where is the advance and retreat? It has never had a home.

Obviously the story has an indescribable style, nothing to say, but you undoubtedly know it's bad, oh, maybe I should have made it clear, referring to the family in the story, while the story itself is good.

People must learn to be tolerant and generous when they are young? Can my forbearance and generosity sustain me from doing whatever I want in the future?

A child who does not receive love from his family goes from expecting the love of his parents to disdain his parents' love. Many children from East Asian families can relate to Carrot Beard

A very bold book.

It is suitable for parents and children to read and reflect together.

A silence that is beyond words.

I have a similar experience, so I feel deeply about it. I am trying to forgive myself, and I really want to tell Little Carrot that I need to love myself.