Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

I believe that no book can make people change immediately. The only person who can promote change is yourself. However, this book allowed me to see me, all aspects of me, the me that I never knew, the hidden me... Don't worry if there is no change, some changes are subtle but slow and firm. I believe we can all get better.

I recently started reading a book that I added to my bookshelf a long time ago, and it took me more than a week to read it. Understand what the profession of psychotherapist usually does. The author also deeply analyzes his own heart from his career experience. Every visitor in it has a shadow of our lives. "How to find a sense of security in this unpredictable world" "How to forgive your past" "How to make the best farewell" "How to become a better self" The life issues that everyone faces are actually the same, such as the ones mentioned in the article, death, loneliness, freedom, and meaninglessness. Face-to-face confrontation with any subject will give you a new meaning in life, and will briefly wake you up from the confusion, "Ah, this is the life I have to face." In real life, there is no right or wrong, nothing should be taken for granted, good people are not rewarded, and hard work does not lead to victory. Life is not a matter of two and four. He has never been a man of stairs. You can reach the pinnacle of life by climbing up the stairs. No one's success can be copied, and no one's lessons can be repeated. Everyone is dealt a unique card, and no one can provide a blueprint for your life. Although we cannot predict what kind of trouble we will encounter, what attitude can we use to face this matter of freedom!

Although this book only has about 300,000 words, I have been reading it for several months. One reason is that the story line is a bit messy, especially in the early stages (which is why I gave it four stars), and the other reason is because it is a true story of psychological counseling. Touching the heart also requires digestion and understanding, unlike stories that can be read quickly. Overall, this book is worth recommending. The author is a professional psychological counselor. The stories in the book are also taken from real cases, involving the family of origin, intimacy, loss, death and other topics that are really relevant to everyone, as well as ways and means of how we can make changes. The book also involves a lot of professional psychological knowledge and theories, which inspired and helped me a lot. Finally, I quoted a sentence from the book, "We are all traveling into the future at the same speed - sixty minutes an hour." I think this sentence is very romantic and full of hope, because no matter what we have experienced in the past, no matter what the future will bring, we are all the same in this present moment, and this is the present moment that we can truly feel and grasp!

This kind of book is suitable for reading calmly. At first, I felt it was very confusing. Every story was written paragraph by paragraph. Sometimes I couldn't remember what happened before. Afterwards, we are connected and we gradually get into a better state, while the author heals himself in the process of healing. Isn't that what life is like? If you can't get over the hurdles on your own, you need someone to guide you, and maybe you can get over them all at once. You need someone to listen, and you need to open your own heart. This book allows me to understand what psychotherapy is and what a psychologist is. Each case will have a little bit related to it. I am grateful for those encounters and thank myself for the coincidence. Finally, of course, I would like to thank the recommender Yang Zi for letting me encounter this book [laugh][laugh][laugh]

I finally finished reading this book. I read it on 5.23 In April. In the meantime, I had to read other books due to other reasons. Reading this book requires patience, because the story line is indeed a bit confusing at the beginning. One chapter is about this person, and the next chapter is about another person. The story line is fragmented, but later on, every character is actually complete. This narrative method is also very clever, very similar to our daily life, and it also conforms to the very important connecting point in the acknowledgments, which is "people and conversation." The book makes me feel that every client gets help from the therapist, and the therapist also gets inspiration and touch from the client. Wendell, Julie, Rita, and John in the book left a deep impression on me. They are all very lively and warm people. Of course, they may have caused harm to others, but as Myron's friend said, no one can break the rules. Finally, I would like to say that Wendell also reminds me of my consultant. In fact, I am still in the early stage of consultation for about a month, and my attitude towards the consultant's ideas will also fluctuate. Sometimes I think it is reliable, sometimes I feel it is rewarding, and sometimes I am very distressed. Why am I still in this state? But my consultant told me that I believe I will get better and likes me very much. I think this has given me a lot of strength.

This book is very good, and it will make me think about some issues. I will think about how I should take action and how to deal with my bad emotions. But then I think about why I want to deal with them. I just vent it out. But maybe I'm still in the preparation stage or the hesitation stage, and I haven't really vented my collapse. I don't know what I want to say. I used to really want to say love yourself well, but after reading this book, what I want to say is, accept yourself well and accept your imperfect self. After all, who is different in this world?

This is a book that can make people feel at peace. Especially the story of Julie touched me very much. A girl who is so vivid and works so hard to make her life bloom will always stay at her most beautiful age. It made me think a lot, such as about the meaning of life, about disease, and about death. We still have a lot to learn. As a psychotherapist, the author is very warm and emotional. She devotes a lot of patience, understanding, tolerance and sincere companionship to the people she serves, guiding them to re-recognize themselves and gain new life.

It's a very good psychology book and I gained a lot. In fact, everyone faces the problems you face in life. Life is painful, but don't forget that it is also happy.

Discussions about self and others don't actually absorb much. Only in the later stages of reading, I suddenly realized that the conversation with the psychological counselor was not as smooth as I imagined it should be. The article mentioned awkward silences many times. I think back to the comments my friends gave me before, saying that I am very good at giving others steps and never put pressure on others. Maybe it is because of this that it is difficult to enter into an intimate relationship. Without breaking the inherent chat boundaries between me and the other party, everyone will stay within a safe range, and it will be impossible to quickly understand each other's true thoughts within a limited time. Under such a premise, there is no other way but to settle in time. Understanding this difference may give me more courage to face the embarrassment that may occur.

Seeing Julie's death party brought tears to my eyes. Then I realized that before I died 1 Be grateful for every meal - a spicy steamed bun. A toasted bun. 2 Be grateful for the sunshine you can see every day. The air you breathe. 3. Be grateful for your body. She loves you so much. 4Say no to the judge in your brain. I have grown up. Very safe. Able to take care of myself. The protective mechanisms of childhood can be suspended for a while. Thank you for protecting that little me when I grow up, but I don't need it anymore. You can go and rest and don't imprison me anymore. I will never go back to the past. Recorded myself reading offline for 16 hours and 12 minutes.

After reading it, it was the first psychological book that allowed me to make changes and implement changes in my life. Really like it! ! There are many places that moved me, many places that I learned, and many places that I thought about. But at the same time, I also realize that if people want to change, it will always mean losing. "Human nature craves stability, but life is constantly changing." And change does not happen instantly, so there are very few practices that I can consciously implement... But as long as there is something that touches me, something that can make me change in real life, I think I will still read those places that touch me again w As the future expands little by little, I can also become a new me!

I never expected that I would be able to read this book, and I gained the ability to empathize with it after re-reading it for the second time. It used to be medicine, but now it's about hoping to help other people. So calm down and read it carefully, all kinds of emotions and scenes are rolling through it. We can't escape pain, and we hate being alone. Fortunately, there are all kinds of people around us. And we grow up in relationships with people. Hope we get better and better! Be the best version of yourself and finish re-reading "Maybe You Should Find Someone to Chat With". It's a great sense of accomplishment!

It's a book I like very much. I like every story in it. Everyone is cute, even John who always calls others stupid~ I am very interested in the profession of psychological counselor. I listen to other people's stories and help them help themselves. I hope that I can become an excellent female psychologist soon!

After reading it, it seems that nothing has changed and yet something has changed. In this book I found the answers to some things I had never understood. I have thought about what I want to do in the next few days more than once, but sometimes I give up after persisting for a day or two. I once attributed it to the temptation of mobile phones. I couldn't resist the temptation, and I also felt that I was not self-disciplined enough. There is a sentence in the book: "Change is often accompanied by loss. If you have nothing to lose, you cannot change. Because of this, people often say they want to change, but they still stay where they are." "Change is really a painful process." I seem to understand that I want to do those things, but I have not made up my mind to do it, because it means that I have to give up my entertainment time. I don't want to lose the short-term happiness that entertainment gives me, which will be painful. We cannot avoid pain, we can only acknowledge it. Also, sometimes I don't understand why my family can't accept some of my changes. They always say how you were when you were a kid, but I'm not the same. After reading this book, I learned that these reactions are very common, "In a family system, once one person starts to make changes, even if the changes are healthy and positive, other members of the family system are likely to do their best to maintain the status quo and bring the system back to a stable state." They are used to what I am like, and once there are changes, they may not be easy to accept. Whether it's family or friends, these reactions are normal.

Psychological counselors/psychotherapists help clients save themselves. Without the efforts of the clients, it would be difficult to complete psychological counseling/psychotherapy. In each conversation, the counselor establishes a connection with the client, and this connection helps the client get out of his own predicament. This is a very good book that will inspire those who want to engage in psychological counseling related work.

Help clients peek into the problems hidden behind their defense mechanisms, help them learn to face their own hearts, and prompt them to make changes until they no longer rely on these defense mechanisms. Many things cannot just be seen on the surface. Most of what is hidden in the depths is the key to things. Those things that you don't want to admit and make you suffer are the true appearance of things. The book is very good.

A very good book But I feel a little strange. When I read it for the first time, I had the impression that there was a scene where the author walked around the railing and strode outside. Why didn't I read it the second time? Could it be a different version? Or does the memory have a rendering function?

This book truly shows the process of psychotherapy, allows us to see the troubles and difficulties faced by different people, and also allows us to find hope in resonance. It's like Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist, talking about profound topics in a light-hearted way. The author Lori Gottlieb is not only a professional psychotherapist, but also a good friend full of empathy. Her words are warm and powerful. After reading this book, you will know better how to get along with yourself and others.

It explains the knowledge points related to psychology in a simple and easy-to-understand way. During the reading process, I will look at myself from time to time and explore and reflect on the crux of the problem that I have never discovered that has been troubling me.

This book is a book that needs to be calmed down and read slowly, touching your thinking and deep inside your heart. Everyone is seriously changing themselves and longs to meet a better self. There are life and death issues and gender issues. Julie's words "It's not unusual" really work equally well for good and bad things, and they also gave me great comfort when I was resting at home due to fetal stoppage.

This is a book that can make people think quietly about time, life, love, and all the things that they don't want to face but have to face in life. The author makes us understand that difficulties are not scary, but what is scary is how we face them. And there are many people with the same problem as us. Thank you, the author. It's a very interesting book. It's a book worth remembering.

I have only read one chapter. Most of them are the author's records and opinions on events in life. The author has a great sense of humor and the stories are interesting. It is easy to keep reading. However, I don't know if it is because I am not very knowledgeable and the gains are not great.

It's a really meaningful book, as I said at the end. It was also the first time that I had a new understanding of psychotherapists. I used to think that therapists were good at chatting and talking, but it turned out that this was not the case. Many of them moved me. We need to be self-consistent and open to understanding. There is a cage in real life, and you are in a free zone. Faced with death threats, how to survive the final stage, how to accept separation, etc.

It's very good. As a first-person narrator, and the author's own story accounts for a large proportion of the story, the humorous language resolves the uncomfortable strong sense of substitution, and the professional analysis is not left behind. It is a very good book to read.

It's inspiring and helpful, good

Rita, who is almost seventy years old, is jealous of what her children have. My family also treated me like that for a period of time. I don't understand why you are said to be so lucky. In fact, I am not as lucky as she thought. I was very tired and sad during that period. Reading psychological books also helped me face trauma. I am my own psychological counselor.

I haven't read it all yet, but I can now take it in. When I read this book, I felt it was a record of the life and work of a psychiatrist. In fact, every time you read a book, you open up an unknown side. What the author describes may not be true. People who read the book treat it as watching a play. People living in this world are either acting or watching a play every day.

I like it very much and it has strengthened my idea. Sometimes many things require people to discover problems from the perspective of bystanders. Psychological counselors are very professional bystanders and are a mirror that allows clients to see their true self.

I only watched a small part of it the first time and put it aside. After reading it again this year, I was quite inspired. It brought me a lot of positive energy. It tells us how to face difficulties, solve problems head-on, accept ourselves, and grow in relationships with others! Reading this book is like doing hot yoga for your psyche!

I was very moved and touched, and I had tears in my eyes several times on the subway. The author's words reveal humor, wisdom and intimacy, and every character in the story is so vivid and full.