Nurture Your Inner Child

We will face many problems while we are alive. If these problems cannot be solved, we will suffer from inner pain. The so-called inner strength means being able to take care of one's inner needs and respond to the ever-changing external world with a full attitude. The world will throw all kinds of problems at you, but as long as you are determined in your heart, you will be able to generate a lot of wisdom to solve them. Then, these questions will become your experience and make you stronger. "What our hearts need is security, freedom, sense of value, meaning, and intimacy. These five needs constitute all our real worries." When I saw this sentence, I instantly felt that my Ren and Du channels were opened. Among the many psychological books I have read, this book ranks among the top three. It is easy to understand. After reading it, I clarified a lot of problems in my thinking. There were many analysis that I directly talked about in my heart. It was really comfortable. I really recommend people with low inner security to read this book to heal their insecurities and understand themselves. There are so many enlightening ideas in the book that make me feel like I have found a treasure.

Raising your inner child, the author analyzes the human heart from the perspective of security, freedom, values, meaning, and intimacy. I have been looking for this kind of psychological book, and I found it. The author speaks very comprehensively. Every time I feel confused and don't know how to solve it, I either ignore or hide the pain in my heart, and it has been stranded. But in this book, I found a problem that corresponds to my own one-to-one, and I know how to solve my inner needs. The author is really great for being able to analyze his heart so thoroughly! I already know how to solve my inner problems, thank you very much to the author! Bao Bao's work, Bao Bao's author [Adoration] [Admiration]

I am a sufferer of depression and this book is really useful for me After reading it, I gained a lot. I have also let go of things that I have been holding on to. Thank you very much. I feel that I will be able to look at everything with a peaceful mind.

When you feel a lack of intimacy, the first step you need to take is to find the emotional needs you need. When you feel ignored, what you need is attention; when you feel denied, what you need is recognition; when you feel controlled, what you need is respect; when you feel indifferent, what you need is attention, support, etc. You need to find the emotional need behind a specific thing. Once you clarify your emotional needs, you need to think further: Is this true? What other possibilities are there? The lack of security is due to self-intimidation, the lack of freedom is due to self-imposed coercion, the lack of worth is due to self-denial, and the lack of intimacy is due to rejection of love. The above principles can help me understand the underlying logic of emotions and guide me to find the breakthrough point to solve the problem. I like this book very much. The most important thing is that it is free [gift]

In fact, I just read it not long ago, but I felt very deeply. Maybe I happened to face a similar situation described in the book. I felt it was very helpful. I hope I can grow up slowly and become stronger mentally [learned] I finished reading it, but it was a bit intermittent. I feel like I still don't understand some of the content in it. I plan to read it again. It's very good and helpful. I hope I can also truly understand myself.

I selected the chapters I needed and read them completely. My evaluation is that the author has expanded and sorted out each part of human core needs in detail, and the logic is smooth and reasonable. But when I applied these suggestions to myself, I discovered that my profound lack of sense of worth and meaning was actually due to a profound lack of intimacy. After being fulfilled in an intimate relationship, I found that my sense of worth and meaning had also been severely diminished. Therefore, from my personal point of view, I think this book develops several core human needs separately and independently. However, there are special circumstances that are not listed in the book, that is, sometimes these major needs are not independent of each other.

I regret that I came across this book when I lived to be 40 years old, was stuck in a mire and swamp, barely crawled out, and was dying; I am very lucky to live to be 40 years old, and finally came across this book after suffering a severe head injury and being exhausted physically and mentally; Every sentence in the book was written for me to read, hitting the depths of my heart with such precision, sharpness, gentleness and sensibility; Let me reflect, let me seek inwardly, let me think deeply, let me explore, let me review my 40 years of life, trace back what I want but don't get, analyze what happened to me, analyze my family of origin, encourage myself to start over, everything can come in time, everything can be reborn. I am grateful to the author of this book!

Great book! After reading it, I was full of useful information and gained a lot. The book fully combines theory and practice. It contains both theoretical knowledge of psychology and specific practical guidance. In addition, it also teaches readers how to open up the thinking mode of psychology, making your brain's way of thinking relaxed, flexible and broad. Moreover, the book's logical narratives, examples and answers to questions are all very comprehensive and specific. After reading it, readers will feel enlightened and have a deeper understanding of themselves. Overall, it can be called a masterpiece.

Getting along with oneself is really a science, and this knowledge happens to be written in this book. Everyone is a perfect self. We should not understand ourselves from others, but truly follow our hearts and analyze ourselves from our own hearts. This book helps you see yourself hiding deep in your heart: you don't believe that you are worthy of being loved, you don't believe that you have done well enough, you don't believe that your pain can be easily dissipated... We can only understand ourselves through our inner feelings, and similarly, only our inner feelings are our own personal experiences. Feeling pain means that it is possible to get better, as long as you are willing to face your true self. Always like to find faults, always avoid intimate relationships, always feel very angry... All negative emotions are just reminders that your inner needs have not been met. Instead of learning many skills, it is better to start by opening this book and grow up with your inner child.

There is a child inside everyone, and this child represents our truest emotions and needs. The child in us often lacks a sense of security and is always worried that he will be abandoned or hurt. All kinds of troubles in life often stem from his unmet needs. Loving yourself is not about buying yourself many brand-name clothes or eating delicacies from the mountains and seas. It is about being able to understand your own emotions, accepting your imperfections, and allowing yourself to have different thoughts and feelings. When we can see our own needs and meet them in a reasonable way, we no longer place our hope on others to meet our needs. We will find that we are the most reliable person. Key matters 1. "Your emotions are the inner child knocking on the door of your heart." All intense emotions are the cry of unseen needs. Don't respond with "tolerance" or "venting", first ask "why is he sad?" 2. "The way you treat yourself is the way your inner child treats the world." If you always criticize yourself, the inner child will think that "the world is full of harshness"; if you learn to be gentle and accompanying, he will believe that "I am worthy of being loved." 3. "True maturity is letting the inner child and adult self walk side by side." It is not to eliminate vulnerability, but to live bravely with vulnerability; it is not to deny the past, but to let the past self become the source of strength for the present. The power of self You have a sense of security, don't worry about gains and losses, don't be overly dependent, and don't need to be full of anxiety. Have a sense of self-worth, believe in and drive yourself to pursue your goals, and recognize your own value. The self always has independence, can live according to one's own wishes, can choose not to cater to other people's expectations, and can break away from the constraints of external rules. All of this requires you to continuously cultivate your inner strength, learn to respect your own feelings and choices, bravely express your thoughts, and boldly take the first step towards change.

I learned from this book: Love is a kind of giving, and need is a kind of request. Compared with I need you, I prefer I love you, regardless of gains and losses, but treat feelings sincerely and manage them with heart. Maintaining a long-lasting relationship of love and need is a dynamic balancing process. I use my strengths to make up for your shortcomings. My strengths plus your strengths produce the effect of one plus one greater than two, so that we both become better for each other.

Some plots in the book reveal our shadow, so that we can understand ourselves better, discover and correct our shortcomings. Maybe some things are a little obscure, but there are always people who are one of them. It does not mean that others will not judge. The methods in the book can understand ourselves more deeply and help ourselves.

After you enter the society as an adult, everyone expects you to be mature and stable and become an accomplished adult, but few people take care of the child deep inside you. But in fact, there is an inner child inside everyone, which is our true self, with emotions, needs and dreams. Understanding and caring for your inner child is key to achieving mental health and personal growth. A person excessively pursues external success and satisfaction at work and eventually achieves something, but the inner child can still feel lonely and lost. We need to realize that it is very important to connect with our inner child and listen to his needs, which can help us gradually regain our inner balance and satisfaction.

I once wrote a paragraph in which I answered someone else's question about what love is. What's sad is that I lost myself later on and was unsatisfactory in one relationship after another. My low self-esteem, as well as the lack of sense of worth and security, made me never face my heart, and I also missed and hurt some people who cared about me. Some time ago, the same reason caused me to fall into the vortex of self-blame again. This is also the reason why I read this book. I want to find an answer. I am very happy that my doubts and worries were answered in the book. I know where my problems are and I am trying to change them. Looking back at the answers given back then, I am more sure of myself and will continue to learn and change my paranoid ideas. Treat one thing that can extend the three-minute heat and become a part of your life, that is love. Love a flower and watch it grow. Probably one day you were deeply attracted by a flower at the flower market, and you decided to take good care of this flower, so you began to learn the knowledge of raising and protecting flowers. You were willing and determined to take care of it for ten years, and you were happy for her daily changes. If one day you find that you can't take care of her anyway, you are willing to transplant it to the mountains. You have to know that this flower does not belong to you. People can raise flowers, and flowers can raise people. One day, I suddenly discovered that the flower was actually me, and I was the flower.

I am lucky enough to read this book. It has been of great help to me. It can pull me out of the mire time and time again and bring my emotions back to calm.

At the end of the book, I realized that I rejected love, and it may take a long time to slowly digest it. Some of the logic in the book is not very smooth to use, and it requires a transformation process. Maybe over time, it will become more automated. I really long for love. I am afraid that no one in this world desires love more than me. I spend most of my time pursuing love, which is of course ridiculous. Once I get it, I mostly lose interest. It seems that my class is about pursuit, not enjoyment. Maybe I was just proving that they were wrong, my parents were wrong, those who misunderstood me were wrong, and I deserved to be loved. Perhaps strangely, my demands can be reversed, for example, I can stay up late and read this lesson and give up sleep in order to grow. Sacrificing some sense of security for a sense of value is something I often do. For example, if I can make everyone smile, I can die. The appeal behind this spirit of sacrifice is probably love, but I suffer from the fact that no one understands me and I am no longer able to win people's trust and then accept love. No one can truly understand you, not even you, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy being loved, right?

This book is called "Nurturing Your Inner Child". In fact, I feel it is more like "Exploration of Intimate Relationships" When I read the title, I thought it was a book about healing the family of origin, but I didn't expect it to be something very abstract and difficult to concrete in close relationships. When I realized this, I started to understand some people's behavioral habits.

This is a book with good content. Unfortunately, since it is related to psychology, there are so many stereotypes about women, and almost all of the few examples have negative comments from women. It's a pity. Examples are always not rigorous enough

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The essence of relationships between people is to have needs, be aware of this need in your own heart, and then give it to yourself, re-nurturing your inner child (the need that arises). [Sending Hearts]

Thank you Cong Feicong, you helped me heal the pain in my heart. In the future, I believe that my life will become healthier, sweeter and happier [shy][blowing kiss][smile]

As adults, we all have to learn to be our own parents. If you missed the emotional needs of your original family when you were a child, then start learning to use the five-step method in the book to raise your inner child now; if you lose your sense of security, freedom, and value in the process of maintaining family ties, building friendships, and pursuing love when you grow up, now At the beginning, I used the spirit of studying things to gain knowledge and explore, "What kind of feelings does this incident bring to me, what kind of impact will it have, and what unmet expectations and needs does it touch in my heart?", So as to understand the true thoughts in my heart, heal myself, understand myself, and finally draw parallels and understand human nature.

I can sympathize with some of the details mentioned by the author in the book. These are often the problems that trouble me. The logic introduced by the author is easy to understand, and some measures and methods are also realistic to a certain extent.

A very beautiful and practical book. Anyone who gets this book will be happy. I hope more people can read this book [Like][Like][Like][Like][Like][Like][Like][Like][Like][Like][Like][Like]

It's very true, and it's very helpful to me. My native family is not good, which leads to big personality problems, low self-esteem, and lack of confidence. But after reading this book, I understand why my personality is like this. At the same time, I can make up for my shortcomings, truly understand myself, and truly face myself. At the same time, it gives us a lot of encouragement to make myself strong and fulfilled. The author of the book puts forward many things that may happen in life and their impact on a person. It also teaches us how to look at problems. It is a very good book. It is really useful and concise. It is very suitable for people who lack a sense of security in their hearts. They understand what it means to be consistent with the body and brain, rather than a state of separation between the body and the brain. Stay away from internal friction and seek inward survival.

Worth a look, it can fix some inner bugs

Thank you teacher for writing this book. It is really well written. After reading it, I felt like I had taken a few hours of psychology classes. It was very valuable. If it was paid, I would be willing to do so. I think all problems and all bad emotions are actually inner needs that have not been met. Look inward, explore your heart, and understand your true needs. Please, it really takes a long time to understand your own heart. This is a lifelong lesson. I also think that it is very important to get along with yourself, manage your relationship with yourself, and heal your inner child. The inner child deserves to be cared for, deserves to be liked, deserves to be seen, every feeling deserves to be seen, thank you teacher, thank you [Like] One thing I need to do is, as for the direction of reading books in the future, I don't know what type of books I will read, but for now, I will stick to reading and keep reading about the inner child, because the child in me deserves to be seen, he deserves to be loved, and he deserves to be cared for. He needs someone to coax him, he needs someone to tell him not to be afraid, he will protect you. He needs someone to tell him that you are really cute and well-behaved, and you should love yourself a little more. He deserves to be loved, deserves to be cared for, and deserves to be liked. He had really worked very hard. When he once felt that he had accumulated a lot of grievances, those unsatisfactory experiences, those moments that made him painful, he was desperate and pessimistic at that moment. But I want to tell him that it's not his fault. He is just a child who needs to be comforted and taken care of. He is really in a very difficult situation. What I should do is not to scold him, to criticize him, not to say that you must, but to tell him that you are good, you are really good.

This book taught me a lot. It helped me understand the causes of various problems encountered by my inner child, so that I would no longer hit a wall in the dark when I encounter the same problems again. You can read it when you are anxious about the future of life, afraid of the end of a relationship, can't find yourself, or hope to get to know yourself again.

I found this book with the idea of ​​healing myself. I found the answers to many of my incomprehensible behaviors in this book. This book helped me understand myself better. It was really rewarding and worth recommending.

Cognition improvement, only by understanding the essence of the problem can we solve the problem from the root, thereby improving the quality of life, increasing the happiness index, living yourself, living in harmony with yourself, the more books you read, the fewer worries you will have, especially a book of this type, it is also qualified to be said to be a functional book.