"Intimacy Sequel: Unfettered Relationships" is the sequel to Mr. Christopher's famous work "Intimacy: The Bridge to the Soul" and is also one of his best-selling masterpieces. Teacher Christopher has completely revised the content of this book and written a new preface especially for Chinese readers.
This book is not a guide or manual to improve or heal the important relationships in your life, or make them more exciting and passionate. This is also not an instruction manual on how to be a better communicator, lover, friend, or parent. What it says is that your relationship is perfectly designed. This book is designed to help you experience pure and lasting happiness by following eight principles of unbridled relationships:
Principle 1: My partner is not the source of my happiness; I am.
Principle 2: My partner is not the cause of my unhappiness or pain.
Principle 3: No matter how hard I try, I can't change my partner.
Principle 4: Problems in relationships are just stories.
Principle 5: Specialness is not love.
Principle 6: My partner supports my growth in acceptance, awareness, and appreciation.
Principle 7: My partner and I each have our own boat.
Principle 8: Communication with your partner reflects emotional maturity and state of consciousness.
Supplementary principle: I am the person I have been looking for.
As this joy fills you up slower and slower, joy will be integrated into every aspect of your relationship.
Reader comments
There is a red light warning in the marriage of a best friend, and there is no communication and interaction between the two in their marriage. Even if they have children, the marriage relationship is still in the cold war. I asked my best friend if you had ever sat down and had a good chat. She said that she had, but the man only lasted for a short time and returned to the original relationship. Do they not want to love? Or is there a communication problem? Later, I recommended "Intimate Relationships" to my best friend. After reading the whole book, she was immediately enlightened and clearly realized her mistake. It turned out that her strong and slightly selfish character made her lover want to escape from her. It turns out that love also needs encouragement, it turns out that love also needs to be reciprocal, and the lover's efforts need to be responded to, not taken for granted. Christopher wants more families to have a clear understanding of the relationship between themselves and their families, how to position themselves in the family, and how to position themselves and why conflicts arise between groups of family members. The whole book is more about how to deal with marriage relationships, from which you can get some inspiration about all aspects of life.
These principles are really, really useful! This is not intended to be a guide to improving or healing the important relationships in your life, or making them more exciting and passionate. The core message is that relationships are actually perfectly designed. This book is designed to help you experience pure and lasting happiness, and you need to follow eight principles of a free relationship: Principle 1: My partner is not the source of my happiness; I am. Principle 2: My partner is not the cause of my unhappiness or pain. Principle 3: No matter how hard I try, I can't change my partner. Principle 4: Problems in relationships are just stories. Principle 5: Specialness is not love. Principle 6: My partner supports my growth in acceptance, awareness, and appreciation. Principle 7: My partner and I each have our own boat. Principle 8: Communication with your partner reflects emotional maturity and state of consciousness.
This is a psychological book that made me laugh constantly after reading it. It is also a book that made me smile involuntarily. Humorous, interesting, lively and easy to understand. What particularly appealed to me was the talk about becoming an emotional adult. It turns out that many of us are still in the emotional child stage. In the personalized modern society, emphasis is placed on emotional confession and communication, and mutual understanding is the core of modern intimate relationships. The author's research on psychology is not in-depth. The more you read, the more you will gain.
This book really resonated with me, it reminded me of The Art of Loving. As the book says, our relationships are perfectly designed, and we need to be brave enough to face our own beliefs about intimacy. I used to always expect my partner to bring me happiness, but now I understand that I am the source of my own happiness. And the principles in the book are also very inspiring, such as "Problems in relationships are just stories", which helped me learn to look at and solve problems with a more relaxed attitude. I think this book is not only suitable for girls in love, but also for anyone who wants to have a healthy intimate relationship.
This is a psychological book that made me laugh constantly after reading it. It is also a book that made me smile involuntarily. Humorous, interesting, lively and easy to understand. What particularly appealed to me was the talk about becoming an emotional adult. It turns out that many of us are still in the emotional child stage. In the personalized modern society, emphasis is placed on emotional confession and communication, and mutual understanding is the core of modern intimate relationships. So this book is also about how to get along in relationships, but it is not limited to partnerships. The idealistic color is too strong, and some of the content cannot be recognized, but from the perspective of self-psychology and processing methods, it still has some effect.
In life, we always feel that we are unfortunate and that our unhappiness is caused by others. In fact, it is not others but myself who leads to this result. When we were young, we needed a sense of belonging and importance from our parents. What parents in the original family cannot give them is missing in this life. Many people are looking for a sense of belonging and importance throughout their lives, and they also want to get a sense of belonging and importance from marriage, which puts more hope and expectations into marriage. In "Intimate Relationships", absolute love in an intimate relationship is unconditional. The road to hell is paved with expectations. Never try to change others. The book teaches us to find ourselves through recognition, acceptance, awareness, and appreciation. After reading this book, you will be able to break through communication barriers and express your feelings calmly. The author Christopher Meng has been studying gender and marital relationships for many years and has published a series of "Intimate Relationships". This is a book on marriage and relationship science. This book is not just for lovers and husbands. Generally speaking, it is applicable to all kinds of relationships, including social relationships, superior-subordinate relationships, and neighbor relationships, allowing you to better recognize, understand, and appreciate the people and humanity around you.
This book first introduces the basic characteristics and needs of intimate relationships, including trust, respect, sharing, etc. Then, it explains in detail the key elements and skills of building an intimate relationship, such as communication, conflict handling, compromise, etc., While illustrating it with actual cases. Through in-depth research and case analysis, this book helps readers understand the nature and working mechanism of intimate relationships, and provides some practical suggestions and strategies to help readers establish and maintain healthy intimate relationships.
It's very beautiful, it solved a lot of my problems, and I feel suddenly enlightened.
There is a red light warning in the marriage of a best friend, and there is no communication and interaction between the two in their marriage. Even if they have children, the marriage relationship is still in the cold war. I asked my best friend if you had ever sat down and had a good chat. She said that she had, but the man only lasted for a short time and returned to the original relationship. Do they not want to love? Or is there a communication problem? Later, I recommended "Intimate Relationships" to my best friend. After reading the whole book, she was immediately enlightened and clearly realized her mistake. It turned out that her strong and slightly selfish character made her lover want to escape from her. It turns out that love also needs encouragement, it turns out that love also needs to be reciprocal, and the lover's efforts need to be responded to, not taken for granted. Christopher wants more families to have a clear understanding of the relationship between themselves and their families, how to position themselves in the family, and how to position themselves and why conflicts arise between groups of family members. The whole book is more about how to deal with marriage relationships, from which you can get some inspiration about all aspects of life.
These principles are really, really useful! This is not intended to be a guide to improving or healing the important relationships in your life, or making them more exciting and passionate. The core message is that relationships are actually perfectly designed. This book is designed to help you experience pure and lasting happiness, and you need to follow eight principles of a free relationship: Principle 1: My partner is not the source of my happiness; I am. Principle 2: My partner is not the cause of my unhappiness or pain. Principle 3: No matter how hard I try, I can't change my partner. Principle 4: Problems in relationships are just stories. Principle 5: Specialness is not love. Principle 6: My partner supports my growth in acceptance, awareness, and appreciation. Principle 7: My partner and I each have our own boat. Principle 8: Communication with your partner reflects emotional maturity and state of consciousness.
This is a psychological book that made me laugh constantly after reading it. It is also a book that made me smile involuntarily. Humorous, interesting, lively and easy to understand. What particularly appealed to me was the talk about becoming an emotional adult. It turns out that many of us are still in the emotional child stage. In the personalized modern society, emphasis is placed on emotional confession and communication, and mutual understanding is the core of modern intimate relationships. The author's research on psychology is not in-depth. The more you read, the more you will gain.
This book really resonated with me, it reminded me of The Art of Loving. As the book says, our relationships are perfectly designed, and we need to be brave enough to face our own beliefs about intimacy. I used to always expect my partner to bring me happiness, but now I understand that I am the source of my own happiness. And the principles in the book are also very inspiring, such as "Problems in relationships are just stories", which helped me learn to look at and solve problems with a more relaxed attitude. I think this book is not only suitable for girls in love, but also for anyone who wants to have a healthy intimate relationship.
This is a psychological book that made me laugh constantly after reading it. It is also a book that made me smile involuntarily. Humorous, interesting, lively and easy to understand. What particularly appealed to me was the talk about becoming an emotional adult. It turns out that many of us are still in the emotional child stage. In the personalized modern society, emphasis is placed on emotional confession and communication, and mutual understanding is the core of modern intimate relationships. So this book is also about how to get along in relationships, but it is not limited to partnerships. The idealistic color is too strong, and some of the content cannot be recognized, but from the perspective of self-psychology and processing methods, it still has some effect.
In life, we always feel that we are unfortunate and that our unhappiness is caused by others. In fact, it is not others but myself who leads to this result. When we were young, we needed a sense of belonging and importance from our parents. What parents in the original family cannot give them is missing in this life. Many people are looking for a sense of belonging and importance throughout their lives, and they also want to get a sense of belonging and importance from marriage, which puts more hope and expectations into marriage. In "Intimate Relationships", absolute love in an intimate relationship is unconditional. The road to hell is paved with expectations. Never try to change others. The book teaches us to find ourselves through recognition, acceptance, awareness, and appreciation. After reading this book, you will be able to break through communication barriers and express your feelings calmly. The author Christopher Meng has been studying gender and marital relationships for many years and has published a series of "Intimate Relationships". This is a book on marriage and relationship science. This book is not just for lovers and husbands. Generally speaking, it is applicable to all kinds of relationships, including social relationships, superior-subordinate relationships, and neighbor relationships, allowing you to better recognize, understand, and appreciate the people and humanity around you.
This book first introduces the basic characteristics and needs of intimate relationships, including trust, respect, sharing, etc. Then, it explains in detail the key elements and skills of building an intimate relationship, such as communication, conflict handling, compromise, etc., While illustrating it with actual cases. Through in-depth research and case analysis, this book helps readers understand the nature and working mechanism of intimate relationships, and provides some practical suggestions and strategies to help readers establish and maintain healthy intimate relationships.
It's very beautiful, it solved a lot of my problems, and I feel suddenly enlightened.