Get Out of the Black Box of Self-Perception

The psychology of the debtor, victim thinking, inner lack, family intergenerational, natural identification, father of a giant baby, emotional experience, disintegration of sense of value and belief, guarding boundaries, being overwhelmed by emotions, being hit by projection, complete separation (without expectations), symbiotic relationship, shared life, self-identity, subconscious trauma, traumatic experience, traumatic situation, emotional superposition, trauma activation, the background behind emotions Emotions, individual boundaries, emotional saviors, inner schemas, inner depth, projection and transfer of negative emotions, emotional digestion, self-conflict, emotional bystanders, behavioral inertia, unprocessed attacks, security deep in the personality, refusal to swallow, energy levels, internalized parents' sense of value, cognitive schemas, being objectified, de-souling, expression of aggression, but similar situations and holding. Independent of relationships and without personality expectations. Dissatisfaction, anger, and aggression toward others are a lack of acceptance of oneself. Dealing with emotions: Understand where emotions come from and what do they remind you? Provide emotional value: enable others' emotions to be expressed and processed. How to feel and understand the world? People who are insecure are most afraid of losing control and have a weak ability to transform negative energy and accumulate positive energy. Depression: physiological factors (nervous system and genetics), psychological factors (personality cognitive subconscious trauma), social factors (events, public opinions). How you want your children to live is how you want them to live. Acceptance: Show your true self. This true part may not be good enough or even bad, but I will not leave you or stop loving you. Love: When I am not good, not good enough, can't do it, don't want to do it, or am terrible, you still like, accept, hold, understand, and never abandon this "me." Freedom: Do what you like, no matter the consequences. What you need is a relationship that allows you to express and see your feelings. Someone in your heart can see and communicate with you. It is happiness to live within one's own values ​​and not be affected by other people's actions or shake one's beliefs. Process subconscious trauma, reorganize your own stories and memories, and see things in a positive light. How much love do you have? Parents are the cornerstone of children's sense of security, and the inner stability of parents affects the level of children's sense of security.

After reading it, I have solved the relationship and feelings that I have been confused about. Thank you very much! The author writes so well, it is better than seeing a psychiatrist👍. I have always felt that I am going to be depressed because of many things. After reading this, I feel that I have not understood my own boundaries and have forcibly accepted too many other people's negative emotions.

After reading this book, I was very touched. It talks about all aspects of life. It is both chicken soup for the soul and every bit of reality in life. After reading this book, I feel relieved a lot. I understand a lot of answers that I have always asked but could not get. I have the courage to accept my imperfect self. Don't get entangled. Be brave and reconcile with your true self.

I would like to call it "The Book of Self-Awareness and Redemption". Reading the whole book will improve your cognition by eight degrees! The author explores the causes of people's inner conflicts from a large number of life examples, peels off the cocoon, finds the root of obsession, and sees the original self. A cup of coffee and a book. In the book, you can see the confusion in childhood, getting along with your parents, and all the problems with your partner. You don't need to deal with it. You just need to "see" and understand the reasons, which is acceptance in itself. When emotions come, it must be reminding you of something. The suppressed emotions will not disappear, but will burst out in another way. To get along with emotions, you don't need to suppress and restrain yourself, you need to think about it

After watching it, I felt like I was taking a bath in the spring breeze and being empowered by the lake. I felt much more comfortable and refreshed. It is worth a visit for everyone!

For friends who have a low sense of worth, low self-esteem, sensitiveness, and anxiety, I really recommend that you read this book, or buy a paper copy and put it by your bedside, and read it before going to bed. It is really healing. This book will have the answers to your insecurities and sensitivity, as well as why those bad voices and people in the outside world do what they do. After reading it, I felt really relaxed and happy. Thanks to the author for his contribution

The prerequisite for loving the world is to learn how to love yourself, so don't be stingy about loving and praising yourself.

As I read it, I felt like I was communicating and learning with a teacher. I agreed with many of the views and reached deep in my heart. It allowed me to face the disputes and doubts in life and the doubts and attacks on myself. In this book, I found healing emotions, examined the relationships around me, brought myself closer to my true self and the truth, accepted myself, stopped attacking myself, treated myself kindly, and lived out my life.

After reading the book, I came here to write a review. The author used concise and concise words to describe the black box that exists in the soul in real life but is rarely noticed. People are immersed and trapped in it, and it is difficult to extricate themselves. This book introduces correct theories and viewpoints through small cases, inducing readers to integrate their own emotions according to the influence of their original family, awaken the essence and true meaning of life, and open a broad road to a happy life.

It spoke deeply into my heart and made me aware of many of my own problems. I also understood that I should accept my negative self and be a complete self.

It is very helpful for my own growth. I feel a lot of pressure recently, my mood is up and down, unstable, anxious, depressed, and annoying, and I can't accept myself. When I see other people's lives, others are excellent, I feel more anxious and annoyed. Sometimes I hate myself, and I don't know whether my efforts will be fruitful, whether there is a future, and whether I am on the right path. As an ordinary person, life is not easy no matter how you do it. I don't want to lie flat. It doesn't last long. After reading it, I feel that my heart is much calmer and more comfortable, and I understand myself better. I am young and have experienced less things. As I grow up slowly, maybe this is growth, accepting the differences in the world and the contradictions in my own world.

It's very healing, and many of the cases there are really similar to mine. I agree with the author's point of view, but I still stay at the spiritual level and don't know how to effectively improve my dark side through actions. Fortunately, I can see some warmth and direction forward from the book. I hope we can all get along well with ourselves, when we are confused, in pain, when we are misunderstood, when we are lonely, when we are tired, when we are sad, when we are helpless, when we are angry, when we are confused, when we are entangled, when we are desperate... No matter what, please believe that you are not useless, and there must be a way to go on. As the book says, your existence itself is valuable, remember to hug yourself.

It is very well written. I hope that after reading this book, readers will find themselves aware of themselves, see the truth, reconcile with themselves, and live out their lives. As for pain, we need to experience, summarize, and understand it ourselves. Life is like a journey against the odds, and I am also a traveler.

Thank you for this book that allowed me to re-recognize myself. There were many passages that made me feel the same way, and I couldn't help but shed tears. Thank you to the author for letting me feel relieved. Thank you for the author's energy, which healed me.

It turns out that there really is a book that can explain a lot of your confusions. The feeling of resonance makes people want to think about it again and again. Every time I read a few sentences, I can see readers writing comments, and I have also drawn a lot of lines and written a lot of insights, which can always open up the black box that is rarely found in your cognition. I will always be deeply moved by the author's expression of his unspeakable feelings, and inspire myself to better understand the true self, not to lose myself, open up more cognitions, and learn to accept more, in order to improve myself and live in peace. This is my favorite book I have read so far and will be used throughout my life!

I have been looking to get rid of my lifeless and painful self. Reading this book made me realize the many emotions that exist in my heart. It is indeed a good book. Love myself first, and then transform positive energy. In the future, I may transform more energy to love my children and save my children from the trauma caused by the previous bad environment!

This book resonated with me very much, it was like a friend who understood me. Teacher Zhou Xiaokuan's writing is very gentle, and the cases in the book also reminded me of the people and things around me. I think this book can not only help us understand ourselves, but also teach us how to deal with emotions and relationships. As the book says, we must learn to love ourselves and replenish ourselves with energy. I also recommend you read the book "Why Family Hurts". It is somewhat similar to "Out of the Black Box of Self-Perception", both of which allow us to better understand the impact of our original family on us.

Recommended, a spiritual book worth reading. This book is a psychological therapy book that can help adults who are depressed, anxious, and helpless to integrate inner conflicts, complete self-understanding, and improve themselves. The whole book has a rigorous structure and logical coherence between contexts. The examples involved in the book are close to life and are also typical. The author provides a thorough and comprehensive analysis of knowledge points, introduces many complex concepts to readers in a simple and easy-to-understand manner, and hits the nail on the head during the narration. The methods in the book are also practical and help readers understand and improve themselves.

Teacher Zhou Xiaokuan, who is known as "gentle and powerful", gently explains to us the mysteries of the soul, intergenerational trauma in the original family, inner subconsciousness, etc. From a psychological perspective and in the simplest language. He tells us how to muster the courage to understand ourselves, see the truths we have never seen in the past, and rebuild the world of self-perception. We should not be kidnapped by other people's beliefs and judgment standards, thereby constraining ourselves. We should clearly understand ourselves and the relationship between ourselves and the world, so as to live our own lives.

For an avoidant personality, there are many revealing essences in the book that can be savored carefully.

Life is a process of constant exploration, constantly accepting the impact of new knowledge. It feels like the body and mind have fallen into an endless night, and the long loneliness deep in the soul has been annihilated by the trivialities of life. The ups and downs of emotions, the fatigue of running for life, and the soul that is difficult to love, people will always be defeated by the ruthless reality. However, if you insist on accepting all imperfections in life, embrace your injured self in time, and understand the truth behind every anger, you can get out of the black box of cognition and usher in a better self.

Very detailed explanation to help you grow There are many feelings, but in short, love yourself!

It must be full marks [I almost cried], this book talks about people's mental illness, it is clear and well-founded. My favorite sentence at the end is "Pain is normal, you need to face it bravely to get rid of this unfriendly emotion."

There is a time to be happy and a time to be sad, There is a time to be down and a time to be proud. This is life. Dark night and day coexist, Pain is sometimes greater than happiness, But, I also want to see it. We pursue beauty and reject darkness. But those negative and dark things not only surround our past, but are also buried deep in our hearts, becoming an invisible pattern and participating in our future. Life is bittersweet, and nine times out of ten things go wrong. Whether you do self-growth or not, whether you want to explore the truth or not, this remains unchanged.

As a practitioner, reading this book is like having a spiritual discussion with a fellow Taoist. Through professional ability and practice, the author has made a detailed description of the delicate understanding of the inner world and the inner truth. Reading slowly will allow you to face yourself more truly. Although there are no good feelings, we are slowly moving forward towards the other side of liberation.

First of all, I am very grateful to the author for writing such a book. After reading it, I felt deeply. This book helped me understand, become familiar with, and learn how to love myself at the best age. Let me know that I can make mistakes, be imperfect, live not in line with my parents' requirements, choose what I want to do without considering the consequences, and have imperfect emotions... I want to live sincerely in the days to come, slowly understand myself, accept myself, and become who I want to be. In the process, I will face difficulties and setbacks, pain and sadness, don't avoid them, and solve problems when I encounter them. Even if there is darkness, as long as there is light in your heart, you will definitely get where you want to go. Finally, thanks to this book, I have once again gained inner self-growth and improved my self-awareness. [Love]

This book guides us to discover from the depths of our own hearts the problems we face when we grow up. Why don't you accept yourself? Why do you doubt yourself? Why should you seek security from others? It takes a lifetime to heal what the family of origin brings. Look at the essence through phenomena, understand yourself and others, analyze from a series of behavioral standards to see why your own lack of confidence arises, how to face it, and how to accept yourself. It is a good book worth recommending.

This book is a psychological therapy book that can help adults who are depressed, anxious, and helpless to integrate inner conflicts, complete self-understanding, and improve themselves. The whole book has a rigorous structure and logical coherence between contexts. The examples involved in the book are close to life and are also typical. The author provides a thorough and comprehensive analysis of knowledge points, introduces many complex concepts to readers in a simple and easy-to-understand manner, and hits the nail on the head during the narration. The methods in the book are also practical and help readers understand and improve themselves.

A very good book (>‿◠)✌️The prerequisite for loving others is to love yourself (¬‿¬)✎There is a passage in it that particularly poked me: "All people who don't love themselves are because they don't have a mother who loves themselves." I burst into tears when I read it.

It really answers questions and solves problems. There are many problems that we know or don't know now, and there are also problems that we know but don't know how to solve. The "original family" theory in the opening chapter is the beginning that I want to keep reading. Later, I talked about many case points that have also happened to me. I am very grateful to the author for detailing what may happen to everyone in such an easy-to-understand written text. It is of great benefit to me and gives me an outlet when I am often in trouble.