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The psychology of the debtor, victim thinking, inner lack, family intergenerational, natural identification, father of a giant baby, emotional experience, disintegration of sense of value and belief, guarding boundaries, being overwhelmed by emotions, being hit by projection, complete separation (without expectations), symbiotic relationship, shared life, self-identity, subconscious trauma, traumatic experience, traumatic situation, emotional superposition, trauma activation, the background behind emotions Emotions, individual boundaries, emotional saviors, inner schemas, inner depth, projection and transfer of negative emotions, emotional digestion, self-conflict, emotional bystanders, behavioral inertia, unprocessed attacks, security deep in the personality, refusal to swallow, energy levels, internalized parents' sense of value, cognitive schemas, being objectified, de-souling, expression of aggression, but similar situations and holding. Independent of relationships and without personality expectations. Dissatisfaction, anger, and aggression toward others are a lack of acceptance of oneself. Dealing with emotions: Understand where emotions come from and what do they remind you? Provide emotional value: enable others' emotions to be expressed and processed. How to feel and understand the world? People who are insecure are most afraid of losing control and have a weak ability to transform negative energy and accumulate positive energy. Depression: physiological factors (nervous system and genetics), psychological factors (personality cognitive subconscious trauma), social factors (events, public opinions). How you want your children to live is how you want them to live. Acceptance: Show your true self. This true part may not be good enough or even bad, but I will not leave you or stop loving you. Love: When I am not good, not good enough, can't do it, don't want to do it, or am terrible, you still like, accept, hold, understand, and never abandon this "me." Freedom: Do what you like, no matter the consequences. What you need is a relationship that allows you to express and see your feelings. Someone in your heart can see and communicate with you. It is happiness to live within one's own values ​​and not be affected by other people's actions or shake one's beliefs. Process subconscious trauma, reorganize your own stories and memories, and see things in a positive light. How much love do you have? Parents are the cornerstone of children's sense of security, and the inner stability of parents affects the level of children's sense of security.

After reading it, I have solved the relationship and feelings that I have been confused about. Thank you very much! The author writes so well, it is better than seeing a psychiatrist👍. I have always felt that I am going to be depressed because of many things. After reading this, I feel that I have not understood my own boundaries and have forcibly accepted too many other people's negative emotions.

After reading this book, I was very touched. It talks about all aspects of life. It is both chicken soup for the soul and every bit of reality in life. After reading this book, I feel relieved a lot. I understand a lot of answers that I have always asked but could not get. I have the courage to accept my imperfect self. Don't get entangled. Be brave and reconcile with your true self.

I would like to call it "The Book of Self-Awareness and Redemption". Reading the whole book will improve your cognition by eight degrees! The author explores the causes of people's inner conflicts from a large number of life examples, peels off the cocoon, finds the root of obsession, and sees the original self. A cup of coffee and a book. In the book, you can see the confusion in childhood, getting along with your parents, and all the problems with your partner. You don't need to deal with it. You just need to "see" and understand the reasons, which is acceptance in itself. When emotions come, it must be reminding you of something. The suppressed emotions will not disappear, but will burst out in another way. To get along with emotions, you don't need to suppress and restrain yourself, you need to think about it

After watching it, I felt like I was taking a bath in the spring breeze and being empowered by the lake. I felt much more comfortable and refreshed. It is worth a visit for everyone!

For friends who have a low sense of worth, low self-esteem, sensitiveness, and anxiety, I really recommend that you read this book, or buy a paper copy and put it by your bedside, and read it before going to bed. It is really healing. This book will have the answers to your insecurities and sensitivity, as well as why those bad voices and people in the outside world do what they do. After reading it, I felt really relaxed and happy. Thanks to the author for his contribution

As I read it, I felt like I was communicating and learning with a teacher. I agreed with many of the views and reached deep in my heart. It allowed me to face the disputes and doubts in life and the doubts and attacks on myself. In this book, I found healing emotions, examined the relationships around me, brought myself closer to my true self and the truth, accepted myself, stopped attacking myself, treated myself kindly, and lived out my life.

After reading the book, I came here to write a review. The author used concise and concise words to describe the black box that exists in the soul in real life but is rarely noticed. People are immersed and trapped in it, and it is difficult to extricate themselves. This book introduces correct theories and viewpoints through small cases, inducing readers to integrate their own emotions according to the influence of their original family, awaken the essence and true meaning of life, and open a broad road to a happy life.

It's very healing, and many of the cases there are really similar to mine. I agree with the author's point of view, but I still stay at the spiritual level and don't know how to effectively improve my dark side through actions. Fortunately, I can see some warmth and direction forward from the book. I hope we can all get along well with ourselves, when we are confused, in pain, when we are misunderstood, when we are lonely, when we are tired, when we are sad, when we are helpless, when we are angry, when we are confused, when we are entangled, when we are desperate... No matter what, please believe that you are not useless, and there must be a way to go on. As the book says, your existence itself is valuable, remember to hug yourself.

It is very well written. I hope that after reading this book, readers will find themselves aware of themselves, see the truth, reconcile with themselves, and live out their lives. As for pain, we need to experience, summarize, and understand it ourselves. Life is like a journey against the odds, and I am also a traveler.

Thank you for this book that allowed me to re-recognize myself. There were many passages that made me feel the same way, and I couldn't help but shed tears. Thank you to the author for letting me feel relieved. Thank you for the author's energy, which healed me.

It turns out that there really is a book that can explain a lot of your confusions. The feeling of resonance makes people want to think about it again and again. Every time I read a few sentences, I can see readers writing comments, and I have also drawn a lot of lines and written a lot of insights, which can always open up the black box that is rarely found in your cognition. I will always be deeply moved by the author's expression of his unspeakable feelings, and inspire myself to better understand the true self, not to lose myself, open up more cognitions, and learn to accept more, in order to improve myself and live in peace. This is my favorite book I have read so far and will be used throughout my life!

This book resonated with me very much, it was like a friend who understood me. Teacher Zhou Xiaokuan's writing is very gentle, and the cases in the book also reminded me of the people and things around me. I think this book can not only help us understand ourselves, but also teach us how to deal with emotions and relationships. As the book says, we must learn to love ourselves and replenish ourselves with energy. I also recommend you read the book "Why Family Hurts". It is somewhat similar to "Out of the Black Box of Self-Perception", both of which allow us to better understand the impact of our original family on us.

Recommended, a spiritual book worth reading. This book is a psychological therapy book that can help adults who are depressed, anxious, and helpless to integrate inner conflicts, complete self-understanding, and improve themselves. The whole book has a rigorous structure and logical coherence between contexts. The examples involved in the book are close to life and are also typical. The author provides a thorough and comprehensive analysis of knowledge points, introduces many complex concepts to readers in a simple and easy-to-understand manner, and hits the nail on the head during the narration. The methods in the book are also practical and help readers understand and improve themselves.

For an avoidant personality, there are many revealing essences in the book that can be savored carefully.

Life is a process of constant exploration, constantly accepting the impact of new knowledge. It feels like the body and mind have fallen into an endless night, and the long loneliness deep in the soul has been annihilated by the trivialities of life. The ups and downs of emotions, the fatigue of running for life, and the soul that is difficult to love, people will always be defeated by the ruthless reality. However, if you insist on accepting all imperfections in life, embrace your injured self in time, and understand the truth behind every anger, you can get out of the black box of cognition and usher in a better self.

Very detailed explanation to help you grow There are many feelings, but in short, love yourself!

It must be full marks [I almost cried], this book talks about people's mental illness, it is clear and well-founded. My favorite sentence at the end is "Pain is normal, you need to face it bravely to get rid of this unfriendly emotion."

First of all, I am very grateful to the author for writing such a book. After reading it, I felt deeply. This book helped me understand, become familiar with, and learn how to love myself at the best age. Let me know that I can make mistakes, be imperfect, live not in line with my parents' requirements, choose what I want to do without considering the consequences, and have imperfect emotions... I want to live sincerely in the days to come, slowly understand myself, accept myself, and become who I want to be. In the process, I will face difficulties and setbacks, pain and sadness, don't avoid them, and solve problems when I encounter them. Even if there is darkness, as long as there is light in your heart, you will definitely get where you want to go. Finally, thanks to this book, I have once again gained inner self-growth and improved my self-awareness. [Love]

This book guides us to discover from the depths of our own hearts the problems we face when we grow up. Why don't you accept yourself? Why do you doubt yourself? Why should you seek security from others? It takes a lifetime to heal what the family of origin brings. Look at the essence through phenomena, understand yourself and others, analyze from a series of behavioral standards to see why your own lack of confidence arises, how to face it, and how to accept yourself. It is a good book worth recommending.

This book is a psychological therapy book that can help adults who are depressed, anxious, and helpless to integrate inner conflicts, complete self-understanding, and improve themselves. The whole book has a rigorous structure and logical coherence between contexts. The examples involved in the book are close to life and are also typical. The author provides a thorough and comprehensive analysis of knowledge points, introduces many complex concepts to readers in a simple and easy-to-understand manner, and hits the nail on the head during the narration. The methods in the book are also practical and help readers understand and improve themselves.

A very good book (>‿◠)✌️The prerequisite for loving others is to love yourself (¬‿¬)✎There is a passage in it that particularly poked me: "All people who don't love themselves are because they don't have a mother who loves themselves." I burst into tears when I read it.

From all aspects, it objectively and directly points out some issues about self-awareness that are difficult to be aware of. This book can help us better understand ourselves, help us be more consistent with ourselves, understand how to accept ourselves, and how to get along better with ourselves and others. Very useful, thank you very much.

Since childhood, our parents and teachers have taught us to be kind to others and be a good student. But when we encounter bad people and bad things, being kind to them actually cannot solve the problem. Society is like a jungle, the strong get stronger and the weak get weaker. Blind weakness will only lead to countless insults. One unbearable radicalization may ruin many years of youth. The world is gray and good and evil coexist. Be prepared to accept everything, embrace everything in your chest, and cultivate a healthy and upright spirit. Can be watched over and over again

This book is great, easy to understand, and gives examples. It feels like what happens to the people around you, and I also see myself in it. If you find that there is a problem in the relationship, and you are very internally consumed and feel sorry for yourself every day, read this book and find out the essence of it. Finally, I would like to give you a message. I hope everyone can find their true self, recognize the reality earlier, understand how to love themselves, and live in harmony with the world. Come on! [Love][love][love] Maybe you have been struggling with something for months or years. This book hits the nail on the head and gets to the essence of it. It's like looking in the mirror. It will also give you methods. I hope it will be useful to people who are confused and want to save themselves.

Whether it is a psychological perspective or the truth about a certain aspect of the world, what this book tells is like personal experience. It explains and soothes the trauma of my life for more than 20 years, and provides me with enlightenment and inspiration. Grateful!

It is similar to "The Courage to Be Disliked". It has the courage to accept the incomplete self, understand one's old understanding, and analyze it from the perspective of observation. It is not limited to the past, but also anxious about the future, and only lives in the present.

This book is worth reading. It contains very real and urgent issues. You can read it if necessary. It is definitely worth it. I hope we can all get rid of the haze of the past, embrace our true selves, and live a life free and easy, come on!

So well written! Whenever I feel a little uncomfortable or painful, I will open this book and read it. After more than half a year, I finally finished reading this book. There are many very practical and practical things in it, not empty and big things, but very detailed and patient dialogue with the reader's mind. The author seemed to be sitting across from me, answering my doubts one by one, and explaining them calmly.

Every sentence is tactful, clear and easy to understand. I like it very much. Thank you to the author. This book has benefited me a lot and improved my knowledge a lot! ! [Laugh]