Obsession: How to Learn to Love and Be Loved Normally (Susan Forward's Psychology Classic)

Name: Obsession: How to Learn to Love and Be Loved Normally (Susan Forward's Psychology Classic)
Author: Susan Forward

执迷：如何学会正常地爱与被爱（苏珊·福沃德心理学经典作品）

by Susan Forward (苏珊·福沃德)

Status: Completed
Length: 129k Words
Updated: 3y ago
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Synopsis

The famous American psychotherapist Susan Forward's classic book "Why We Love So Confused" has been re-edited and released again! Unravel the psychological mystery of why the more we fall in love, the more we get hurt. Tell us how to escape emotional violence, regain ourselves, and regain happiness! It topped the New York Times book list for 44 weeks! Luo Jinyue, a senior marriage and family counselor and One Psychology columnist, wrote a preface and recommended it! • Does he legitimately believe that he should control your life and every move you make? • Have you ever given up activities that were important to you and cut off contact with friends and family in order to please him? • Does he consistently look down on your opinions, feelings, and belittling your achievements? • If you make him unhappy, will he yell at you, say harsh words, or simply go away and sulk? • Are you "walking on thin ice", thinking over and over again what to say, fearing that an inadvertent word will make him angry? • Does he fall out whenever he wants, leaving you at a loss as to what to do? • Do you often feel that you are upset, do stupid things, or are not good enough for him? • Is he jealous and possessive? • In married life, does he think that you are the culprit whenever something goes wrong? If more than half of your answers are "yes", then you are probably meeting a "controlling man." He relies on constantly belittling women to gain control, shirk responsibility, and take the initiative in emotional relationships. Over time, your self-esteem will collapse and you will easily become depressed and anxious. Some people may even experience physical symptoms and adverse reactions. In this book, Dr. Susan Forward will help you understand the destructive thoughts of controlling men, how you can break patterns, heal trauma, regain self-esteem, and rebuild relationships or start a new, healthy relationship.

Reader comments

Personally, Susan's books are great. In the article, the author writes about the performance of the obsessive, the pain caused to the target, the reasons why the obsessive pursues the goal, the solution and the final therapeutic effect achieved by everyone. The language of the article is humorous and analyzed with specific cases. For the obsessive, change can be painful, but if you make up your mind to do it, you will discover a new self. If you want salvation, you can only find yourself, and you must also be good at seeking help from psychologists and friends. For love, true love is based on equality and independence. Each of us is an independent individual. There is me first and then there is us. No one can really live without the other. Never lose yourself for anyone. Regarding the indifferent attitude of others, we should express our doubts to the other party instead of constantly denying ourselves and falling into internal friction. Love is full of uncertainties, and we should accept loss happily. At the same time, we must keep our eyes open, reject emotional pua, and beware of being deceived.
8 likes1y ago
The analysis made me understand the meaning behind the behavioral patterns that happened to me, my ex, the person I like now, the ex of the person I like, and many other friends. Please be sure to be exposed to water and fire thousands of times. If you understand the past, you can't admonish it, but if you know what's coming, you can pursue it. Don't be harsh on yourself, everything will be fine, come on!
7 likes1y ago
Many of the issues mentioned in this book resonate with me. For example, in an intimate relationship, the other person may devalue themselves to gain control. A friend of mine encountered such a situation. She became less and less confident in her relationship. This book not only analyzes the problems, but also provides solutions, which is of great benefit to people. Moreover, the author, Dr. Susan Forward, is very professional and the suggestions in the book are also very practical. I think this book will be of great help to people who are about to get married or who are confused in their relationships.
6 likes2y ago
I do have a savior plot, and it is easy to fall in love with depressed and unfortunate people. I have learned that if the relationship with my lover is mutually depleting, I must draw a clear line and terminate it decisively if I don't make changes.
5 likes2y ago
Although I am aware of the situation described in the book, it is indeed difficult to break through my own obsession. But if it is because of the pursuit of self from the heart, it should be a relationship that everyone should break through.
3 likes2y ago
The translator did a great job of translating it, and it reads in line with the expressions in our national language. This psychological book is very professional, good-looking and easy to read. I saw a part of myself in the characters in the book. Five-star praise
2 likes4mo ago
This is a book I want to read again
1 like3y ago
Worth reading, good book, I really like the author of this book
1 like3y ago

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