Content introduction: If thinking is rational, then emotions are "darkly rational". Human thinking and behavior are greatly affected by emotions. Fundamentally speaking, the function of emotions revolves around "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages", and all emotions have value. Whether it's depression, anxiety, sensitivity or anger, there are positives. And the reason we suffer from these emotions is because they are out of control. How to control emotions and make friends with them easily? In the book "Dark Reason", psychology expert Wei Lan deconstructs the truth about emotions and provides effective methods for emotional management, allowing us to control our emotions from the root, get rid of various troubles in interpersonal relationships, intimate relationships, and social relationships, and gain freedom from the inside out.
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Lowering expectations will make people feel much better. For example, if your boyfriend doesn't reply to your message immediately today, you will be anxious and wonder if he doesn't like you. When you finish sending the message tomorrow, no longer expect his reply and just do your own thing, you will find that you will be much happier. In this book, the author uses academic and refined language to describe the emotional and psychological problems in life from a darkly rational perspective. The examples of various psychological emotions are also very comprehensive. After reading it, I realized more deeply that it is normal for people to have emotions. We must understand our emotions and face them correctly without being a slave to them.
Before reading this book, I was really a person who lost my temper easily. In fact, people with bad tempers would never admit that they were angry, but in fact, when they were angry, their entire body would emit negative energy. I read a lot of books on this topic, and the point of view of this book is very interesting. A person's personality is different, and the environment has different effects on him. But in the beginning, it was all because of the environment that he formed such a character, irritable and irritable. As the author said, rationality makes people weigh and think, while irrationality often makes it easier to fail. When we really have conscious control, we are not far from success.
Controlling emotions is an important psychological skill, and Emotional Intelligence can help us achieve this goal. First, through self-awareness, awareness of your own emotional state is the first step to emotional management. Learn how you behave and react in different moods by observing your emotional reactions and physical sensations. Develop understanding and empathy for the emotions of others. Build good relationships and better handle emotions in communication by listening and paying attention to the feelings and needs of others.
If you can change yourself with just one book, if you are not naive, then you are a shill. A person's pattern of generating emotions is a combination of innate inheritance and acquired learning. It is formed in the entire life process that has happened before. How can it make a big difference in your life after reading this book for only a few days? But I don't deny that this book is well written and is an excellent reference book on "Emotional Psychology".
Emotional control is really important. I have seen too many people around me mess up things because they lost their temper for no apparent reason, so I came to read this book specifically to give myself guidance on how to handle emotions correctly. My favorite sentence from the author is that it is not the emotion itself that is harmful to the body, but the way of expression. It is normal for us to have emotions, but venting them in the right way is the best way to deal with them. With this understanding, when we want to get angry, we will give ourselves a vaccination, so that we can face things rationally and calmly.
Emotion management is a very profound knowledge. Because if thinking is rational, then emotions are "darkly rational". Human thinking and behavior are greatly affected by emotions. Fundamentally speaking, the function of emotions revolves around "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages", and all emotions have value. Whether it's depression, anxiety, sensitivity or anger, there are positives. Learn to control your emotions and make friends with them easily.
As the book says, we must understand the essence of emotions in order to solve the troubles caused by emotions. I think this book is very practical, somewhat similar to "Emotional Psychology", both of which allow us to better understand our own emotions. However, I particularly hate the person in the book who is always looking for trouble. I really hope I don't meet such a person in real life!
The author distinguishes emotions from thinking. Thinking is rational, while emotions are implicitly rational. We encounter many contradictions and discomforts in our daily lives, which affect our mood. Sensitivity, anxiety, dissatisfaction and depression all require us to digest them with a correct attitude. This book helps us understand the information behind each emotion from many aspects such as how to understand emotions, break the glass heart, and rebuild emotions, so that we can avoid emotional distress and better solve problems.
For this reason, I specifically read Mr.'S online publication.
Lowering expectations will make people feel much better. For example, if your boyfriend doesn't reply to your message immediately today, you will be anxious and wonder if he doesn't like you. When you finish sending the message tomorrow, no longer expect his reply and just do your own thing, you will find that you will be much happier. In this book, the author uses academic and refined language to describe the emotional and psychological problems in life from a darkly rational perspective. The examples of various psychological emotions are also very comprehensive. After reading it, I realized more deeply that it is normal for people to have emotions. We must understand our emotions and face them correctly without being a slave to them.
Before reading this book, I was really a person who lost my temper easily. In fact, people with bad tempers would never admit that they were angry, but in fact, when they were angry, their entire body would emit negative energy. I read a lot of books on this topic, and the point of view of this book is very interesting. A person's personality is different, and the environment has different effects on him. But in the beginning, it was all because of the environment that he formed such a character, irritable and irritable. As the author said, rationality makes people weigh and think, while irrationality often makes it easier to fail. When we really have conscious control, we are not far from success.
Controlling emotions is an important psychological skill, and Emotional Intelligence can help us achieve this goal. First, through self-awareness, awareness of your own emotional state is the first step to emotional management. Learn how you behave and react in different moods by observing your emotional reactions and physical sensations. Develop understanding and empathy for the emotions of others. Build good relationships and better handle emotions in communication by listening and paying attention to the feelings and needs of others.
If you can change yourself with just one book, if you are not naive, then you are a shill. A person's pattern of generating emotions is a combination of innate inheritance and acquired learning. It is formed in the entire life process that has happened before. How can it make a big difference in your life after reading this book for only a few days? But I don't deny that this book is well written and is an excellent reference book on "Emotional Psychology".
Emotional control is really important. I have seen too many people around me mess up things because they lost their temper for no apparent reason, so I came to read this book specifically to give myself guidance on how to handle emotions correctly. My favorite sentence from the author is that it is not the emotion itself that is harmful to the body, but the way of expression. It is normal for us to have emotions, but venting them in the right way is the best way to deal with them. With this understanding, when we want to get angry, we will give ourselves a vaccination, so that we can face things rationally and calmly.
Emotion management is a very profound knowledge. Because if thinking is rational, then emotions are "darkly rational". Human thinking and behavior are greatly affected by emotions. Fundamentally speaking, the function of emotions revolves around "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages", and all emotions have value. Whether it's depression, anxiety, sensitivity or anger, there are positives. Learn to control your emotions and make friends with them easily.
As the book says, we must understand the essence of emotions in order to solve the troubles caused by emotions. I think this book is very practical, somewhat similar to "Emotional Psychology", both of which allow us to better understand our own emotions. However, I particularly hate the person in the book who is always looking for trouble. I really hope I don't meet such a person in real life!
The author distinguishes emotions from thinking. Thinking is rational, while emotions are implicitly rational. We encounter many contradictions and discomforts in our daily lives, which affect our mood. Sensitivity, anxiety, dissatisfaction and depression all require us to digest them with a correct attitude. This book helps us understand the information behind each emotion from many aspects such as how to understand emotions, break the glass heart, and rebuild emotions, so that we can avoid emotional distress and better solve problems.
For this reason, I specifically read Mr.'S online publication.
Well written and easy to understand