The Courage to Not Care

Completely ignore other people's criticism and don't consider the other person's feelings. Insensitive to other people's emotions, feelings, words and deeds. Throw away humility and caution. Is it worth it? What do you mean? With a smile on his face: Let me go today. Why are you so interested in me? Ask others the same questions they asked you. Jealousy vented: It is usually caused by feeling that "they are not being treated specially": People with strong self-esteem will not ask for "special treatment", but once people with low self-esteem feel that they are only being treated "normally", they will think that they are "being fooled" and cause attacks: special discounts, special prices, special offers for you. A customer who likes to exert high pressure:" This customer had an attack because he felt "he was at a disadvantage": "This is a good deal." The most primitive animalistic seizure. Say "Hahaha" or "Don't say that (laughing)" and just "ignore" and leave without any response. It's because your rejection method was not straightforward enough. As I said, money will never let you down! "Purely caused by "belittling yourself to choose someone with less ability": because you underestimated yourself, and then chose "people who are even worse than you" according to habit. Choosing people with low abilities leads to the phenomenon that "one looks down upon oneself even more." If you think of someone as "poor and miserable", you need to distance yourself from such people and associate with people you admire. When you are far away from misfortune and are influenced by people you respect, you will be closer to the kind of person you yearn for. There is no need to have the idea of ​​"I must do something for them". Only by staying away from misfortune can you gradually become happy. The one you cannot ignore is the "disgusting person". "I've obviously worked so hard, why am I still like this?", And you will feel like you have fallen into the same state again. This phenomenon is "the inability to ignore one's own failures." Because I will keep thinking, "I have worked so hard, why can't I ignore it?" This sense of failure that cannot be ignored will expand, and finally I feel that "I am back to the original state." Ignore annoying things

The specific psychological process described in this book is quite similar to my own. Through the author's description, I gradually learned to gradually change my mentality as mentioned in the book. Although it was still in the practice stage, I finally took this step and found some direction! [Praise]

I have to say that this book is very high-level, but the solutions it gives when analyzing the essence in detail are rather vague. My biggest gain is the ability to ignore it. That is to say, the problem is not with me, but with other reasons. In this regard, this book solves the problem I have been having, thank you to the author [cool]

That's great. I'm just too sensitive right now and react to everything. I hope I can ignore some things that I don't need to pay attention to in the future and make myself less sensitive.

I agree with some of the points in this book, but I don't agree with some of them. This book was recommended by our Chinese teacher

Everyone has his own life, and everyone has his own value. We mainly need to manage ourselves well, don't put too much of our energy on others, learn to ignore it, take good care of ourselves, and live our own life. This is a required course in life, come on, stranger!

The enemy's view of us may be closer to the truth than our own view) When you are angry because of a malicious attack, why not tell yourself first, wait a minute, I am not perfect to begin with. Even Einstein admitted that he is wrong 99% of the time. Maybe I am wrong at least 80% of the time. Since you cannot avoid unfair criticism, you can at least think about it, that is, decide whether you want to be disturbed by criticism. If you are in a leadership position, you are destined to be criticized. Find a way to get used to it. You will be scolded for doing something and you will be scolded for doing nothing. The result is the same. In other words, there is jealousy behind those who have achieved good results, and those who are envious will point fingers. That's because we are ahead of the curve.

This book records ignoring the things or people that make me unhappy [Adoration]

The ideas raised in this book are enlightening. Sometimes we care so much about other people's feelings that we neglect our own needs. Like a friend of mine who always prioritizes others and ends up getting tired himself. The exercises in the book can help us learn not to care and find inner peace. For example, the sentence "The people you really hate are those who care too much about others" really resonates. I think this book is not only suitable for recent graduates, but also for everyone who wants to pay better attention to themselves.

By the way, I read this book in 20 or 4 years ago. I have always remembered the important contents. Yes, I have been working hard to practice it. It has been 26 years this year. I think I have practiced it very well [smile] Come on, everyone.

It's very well written. Some time ago, I found that my self-efficacy is relatively low, and I am an anxious person, so I found this book. Some methods and concepts really made me enlightened. I hope that I will get better and better in the future.

Don't care about other people's opinions

It's okay. You don't need to be too rigid when it comes to life and other people's opinions. Sometimes jokes can have unexpected effects. Respect the fate of others and don't interfere too much with others.

The overall writing language and opinions are average, but they are very detailed, which can alleviate some of the discomfort of dealing with people to a certain extent. Everything is mine, and I am the main one, which is not a bad life wisdom.

[Blowing a kiss] I like it very much, thank you so much, the author

Are all emotions due to jealousy? There are many cases worth learning from.

As a result, I become more free, dare to think and do.

Great book, life will be much happier if you are not sensitive or nagging.

Have the courage to be hated

The courage to not care is worth watching

Teach us not to engage in internal friction. What are the disadvantages of internal friction?

Only when you focus on yourself, do people and things, and don't listen to other people's gossip will your life become easy and comfortable. The steering wheel of life is in your own hands. The key to how you want to live depends on yourself.