When You Have Self-Discipline and Self-Control, You Can Be Cool and Cool

Thoughts after reading / Chapter 4, Chapter 5, and Chapter 6 are extra important to me. Chapter 4 is to regulate your emotions and stay away from a glassy heart. I am a very sensitive person, so maybe some relatives and friends may even reply to my messages late, which will make me feel very uncomfortable and disrespected. But in fact, everyone has their own life, and no one has to reply to you. Just relax and focus on yourself. This part also triggered me to think more deeply, why do I focus my thoughts on others? It shows that my own activities are scattered, my core is not stable enough, my goals are not focused enough, and I may even have low self-esteem and do not love myself enough. These problems can be summed up in two words. I think they are lack and purpose. So I am willing to spend time taking care of my inner lack and lack of love. I can be aware of it, read books, understand how to love myself, and sort myself out bit by bit. When I was just reading the book, I was thinking about my goals. It is difficult to think clearly about big goals at once, so I have to keep exploring. However, life cannot only care about the ending. The process of exploration is also wonderful. In practice, I believe I will find myself. Another point in Chapter 4 that I feel deeply about is that you really shouldn't care too much about your own face. In fact, I think this is also related to self-love and inferiority. My self-esteem was very strong in the past, and I was very separated from my cognition when I was in school, which made me extremely miserable at work. My high self-esteem not only did not help me in my job, but also made it difficult for me to accept the way those people dealt with, the way they spoke, etc. I felt that some of their words and actions did not respect me enough, so I was very angry, which caused my blood and energy to be disordered during that period, and I was often sad. Thinking about it now, this is definitely punishing myself for other people's faults and other people's cognitive systems. This is also caused by my own lack of knowledge and low self-esteem. Later I understood that I don't need face. If I can achieve something, I should do it boldly within the scope of reasonable and legal ethics. If I refuse, I will refuse. If I don't refuse, I will get some opportunities for growth. /Chapter 5: Don't use your emotions when you should use your brain. I was also deeply inspired. Get to know each other better first, and then slowly invest your feelings into it. I have fallen in love with someone at first sight before, and I was very affectionate towards him. Then I became very, very good to him without knowing much about him. But after a while, I found that what I fell in love with was completely the fantasy version of him. I didn't know the real him, so I started to try to accept the real him. However, the real him's outlook on life was very different from mine. It can be said that they are two extremes. Eg I have no sense of responsibility. , You can quickly throw away one relationship and replace it with another. This is unacceptable to me. I choose to respect, let go, and be happy. I said it lightly, but the fact is that it was relatively heavy at that time, so if there are sisters who read this, I hope everyone can take their time in relationships appropriately. Especially if you go to the groom's parents' house in advance, it's not difficult to get to know a person. When you go to their house, check whether they have a wine cabinet or a bookshelf, how their parents get along, their attitude towards you, etc. You can probably initially judge whether this person's habits match your personality and outlook, and who his parents are. In fact, it often affects a love and marriage relationship to a certain extent. Marriage is not just about getting along with each other, but also about getting along with each other's entire family. Even if two people move to an extra place, they cannot avoid the process of getting along with their families. So it is also necessary to know what their family is like. And the man will be influenced by his parents' personality to a certain extent. For example, if our parents are impatient, we will often have some impatient characteristics when doing things, so when we see our parents, we can often see the man's future state in marriage. /Chapter 6: I'm most afraid of you being mediocre and always keen on grand narratives. I think everyone is actually narrating their own cognition in the narrative process. Therefore, no matter whether the article is self-disciplined, chicken-soup-based, or whatever, we can often realize the deficiencies in our cognition and correct them. What the author talks about in Chapter 6 is a very big problem for me. Because the events I think about are always very grand, I think young people need to have ideals and be responsible, but my implementation is very poor and is not proportional to my ideals. If I cannot implement it, it means that my ideal is empty, no matter how grand it is. If I can continue to implement it, refine a big goal into small staged goals, and continuously achieve breakthroughs, then I think I will be one step closer to my ideal. Regardless of whether your final goal is achieved by doing this, you have actually grown a lot.

I like many of the viewpoints in the book, and I also admire the author's early awakening. As the saying goes: A year's plan begins in spring, and a day's plan begins in the morning. Looking at the present, apart from getting up early for work, how many people can insist on getting up early? The time of getting up early is beautiful, don't be in a hurry, take your time. I hope that we will not be afraid of the future, live well in the present, and do our job well. Encourage!

This book mentions that practicing self-discipline and self-control can bring us many benefits, such as making our skills stronger and our lives "cool". And the author is so awesome, he can summarize the key points of the plan from so many comments! The book also says that we should avoid self-pity, which I think is right, because in this way we can focus our energy on the things that really matter. I want to learn from the author and be a self-disciplined and self-controlled person! 🤗

There are many inspiring stories that make people's blood boil. Many times we lose to the trivialities of life. When we have enough time, we can do better and more. But time is 24 hours for us, and we should do the most important things when we are in the best physical condition. In short, time planning must be optimized to produce more output.

After reading this very sassy book, I gained a lot. This book gave me a lot of inspiration. We can slowly change our self-discipline like the author according to our own situation. I hope everyone can have a sassy life.

Got a lot of life inspirations

One point missing, I'll come back and make up for it when I have time.

I like it very much. I have benefited a lot. It is the first time I like reading a book so much and can continue to read it.

A very resonant book, worth studying

I really like the content of the author's book, and I can resonate with the author. His emotions are delicate and his heart is sensitive. From this chapter, I learned how to change from a glassy heart to a strong heart. This is exactly what I need. With books as friends, I will read other books by the author in the future. I support you!