Get Out of the Personality Trap

This book requires a certain foundation. I was lucky enough to have read Teacher Wu's "Thank Myself for My Imperfections" before reading this book. Both books are very inspiring, but I think the former can help understand the latter. I think the focus of this book is "respecting your own feelings". This is a sentence to read. It seems simple, but it is actually easy to ignore it. It is easy for us to disrespect our own feelings and the feelings of others. This situation is even worse between parents and children. As a saying circulated on the Internet, there is a kind of coldness that makes your mother think you are cold, and a kind of hunger that makes your mother think you are hungry.

I have a lot of thoughts after reading this book, and the sentences in it are classics. The words quoted are thought-provoking, especially the need for an extra spiritual eye, which made me suddenly realize that a person wants to change his relationship with other people. You must start with yourself, not with others. A person can only get the relationship from his family. After getting it and forming his own relationship, the original family relationship has nothing to do with him. If he wants to change the relationship between himself and the world, he must start with himself. At that time, you will have to take responsibility for what you do. It is unrealistic to change the world, but it is possible to change the world by changing yourself.

This book has a great influence on me. I am the kind of character who only dares to think but not do anything. Every time I miss an opportunity because of this, I really hate myself. But after reading this book, I feel that the first step is to understand myself first. Only by understanding myself can I love myself, and only by loving myself can I change for myself. Many of my behaviors are actually small things in the process of growing up, and finally formed a habit. I am used to imagining bad consequences first, and I am used to worrying first. In fact, parents in the past did not have any awareness of education in this area, but it is not too late to start self-correction now.

"No one is perfect." There is no truly perfect person in this world. We all have more or less personality flaws, and these flaws will lead to our success. Most of these flaws have a lot to do with the environment in which we live. As a result of the environment, our personality has changed imperceptibly. Everyone's environment is different, so there are different personalities. As we grow up, they become our personality flaws, and they are deep-rooted and difficult to change. This book teaches us how to understand and improve our own personality. "Improve self-awareness, and recognize your own personality mask and psychological needs through learning and observation." What we need to understand most in life is ourselves, face our own personality, and constantly improve it.

Teacher Wu Zhihong's books are really all classics. I also took the test of Sixteen Personalities, which was very popular for a while, and found it very interesting. This book is actually a very in-depth and easy-to-understand book on personality. It tells us the formation of personality, the impact of the growth environment on personality, and how to understand one's own personality and use it to live a better life. This is our purpose. Some people care so much about other people's opinions that they neglect themselves. This is terrible. Each of us must learn to live for ourselves.

Overall, I feel pretty good after reading it. The whole book is based on the theory of "Six Laws of Spiritual Growth" and "Seven Psychological Fables" and explains in detail the important role of "personality" in our growth. Generally speaking, we need to open an extra eye in interpersonal relationships to explore the reasons for harmony or conflict in interpersonal relationships, and balance the relationship between the first examiner in our lives, our inner parents and our inner selves. The last paragraph about the face and dignity of Chinese society has been mentioned several times. I think this topic is more interesting.

The author's core point of view is that personality is the core competitiveness of life, and personality defects are common among the public. He pointed out that countless people have various traps in their personalities that constrain them from pursuing excellence and strength. No matter how excellent the external conditions are, personality is the core competitiveness in the long journey of life. Therefore, based on the theoretical basis of "Six Laws of Spiritual Growth" and "Seven Psychological Fables", it explains the important role of "personality" in our growth. After reading this book, it helped me realize the charm and traps of my own personality and constantly improve myself as a person.

The content of this book is very enlightening and it made me think about my own personality and growth. The author Wu Zhihong explains the impact of personality traps on us in a simple and easy-to-understand manner through cases and analysis. The views in the book are unique and can help us understand ourselves better. I think it is worth reading.

This book is great! It helped me solve a lot of core things. I didn't know what was going on before, but now I know the root cause. I have gained relief and peace, and gained a lot. Thank you for the good books provided by the platform [laughs]

Feeling is so important, but we often ignore it and suppress it. It comes from the fact that when we were growing up, no one respected or taught us to value it. Slowly, we will respond in a numb way and use rational thinking to make decisions, but we don't know that the most correct way is to feel

This is a very good book. After reading it, it helped me a lot. I have a correct understanding of both my own emotional control and how to treat my children. Thank you Teacher Wu Zhihong for presenting such excellent works to us.

This book introduces the essence of personality more clearly. Personality is actually the relationship pattern between the inner parents and the inner child of an individual. Returning to the family of origin, the relationship between you and your caregivers in childhood determines your personality. It deeply analyzes the underlying logic behind each person's behavior pattern, and gives the answer to the reconstruction of the inner relationship. It is a good book for learning psychology and guiding psychological reconstruction.

It really seems to be nourishing the heart. When reading, the heart will become calm and objective. Maybe this is the meaning of reading.

This book is great. It is nourishing my body and mind. The feeling of reading is like bathing my soul. It is clean and refreshing from the inside out.

Let me comment before I finish reading it. However, Teacher Wu's writing is very easy to understand and easy to read. I benefit from it every time I read it. A psychology book suitable for Chinese babies' constitution, highly recommended and well worth reading!

I saw many beautiful realms I hope I can do it too

It's very good. I feel that common things in life can find corresponding views in it.

It is very exciting and practical. I relied on reading the books of Wu Zhihong and Zeng Qifeng to build my own complete core step by step. Now it is basically completed.

If you can read this book before becoming a parent, then your children will be happy and lucky. I am also lucky now that I read it. There are many cases in the book, which help me better understand what the people around me are doing.

Easy to understand, easy to remember, and usable.

Very good book, you can read it

Very good, Wu Zhihong's thinking is very good [laughs]

Very good books

Still not finished, keep reading

It feels good to go back to my childhood and find my true self.

Desire to form a cohesive self

This book can't fill in some of the gaps I don't understand. I'll give it a star and I'll read it next time👀

Expanding cognition and understanding oneself is the beginning of growth

I admire the author so much. Our country finally has a great psychologist. I have learned a lot.

It's very good. Everyone spends his life getting along with his own inner self. Whatever his personality is, his destiny is determined by his destiny. If he wants to change his destiny, he must be aware of himself and change his inner relationship with his parents.