Self-Control: Stanford's Popular Psychology Course

After reading this book, I learned that the more we think "I don't want it," the less control we have. Therefore, I need to accept my own desires and feelings. Self-control does not mean suppressing myself, but feeling and accepting myself.

I have read the first nine chapters on another platform, so the length may seem short. This book is really worth reading, especially for procrastinators who have weak self-control. This book gives a lot of examples to prove the correctness of the point of view, and explains many points of view in the form of stories, which does not seem so boring. What impressed me most was the white rat. The White Bear Effect, the Ten-Minute Rule and the Ironic Rebound Theory were all my previous problems with poor self-control because of my lack of understanding of these theories. My self-control has improved a lot after reading the book!

The content in this book is very close to life. It explains the physiological and psychological factors that affect self-control, and provides many good methods for how to improve self-control. The first time I read it, it didn't seem very profound, but I gained a little bit. I believe that every time I read it, I will get a different understanding. I hope that everyone who reads this book can become a self-controlled person as they wish. "As long as there are pros and cons in our thoughts, good behavior always allows us to do a little bad." The phrase shows that we always like to deceive ourselves and others. If we work hard today, we will make excuses for slacking off tomorrow.

This book has more content and is richer than I imagined. Improve your understanding of yourself, accept it, and change yourself. Recognizing the limitations of human beings, one's own ordinaryness and ordinaryness can reduce anxiety. Accepting oneself is the beginning of change. Those who have questions about their own control and suspect that they have poor control can read this.

This book has a certain meaning. Controlling oneself is a question that many people have been looking for answers to throughout their lives. Many of us don't know how to control ourselves and think this is unattainable, but the author tells us that our inner thoughts will affect the outcome of events. For example, we must have thoughts that can control ourselves, so as to help us have self-control. This idea gave me a lot of inspiration. Sometimes I like to pour cold water on myself, but over time I seem to really decide that I can't do this anymore. Therefore, we must first be mentally prepared and actively imply that we can control ourselves.

This book is really good, I feel it can improve my self-control

It's really exciting and useful. It exposes our self-deception in the most essential way, and it's very scientific.

It is a good book in life, and I am willing to pass it on to future generations. I read it while taking notes. I read it for a long time and read it frequently. It is a very helpful book for procrastinators and friends who always fail to complete their plans on time. After reading it halfway, I started to put it into practice. It has helped me to exercise regularly and keep in good health. The effect is good and I have been very inspired. It makes you think about how to easily achieve self-control. Self-control is not just about fighting willpower or enduring hardships. There are methods for self-control.

"Don't mistake behaviors that support goal achievement for the goal itself. Progress can motivate people and even improve self-control in the future, but the premise is that you must use your behavior as evidence of your efforts to complete the goal. In other words, you must know what you have done and keep an eye on your goals. Focus on your commitment to yourself, rather than on pure progress. In order to achieve your goals, you must be willing to pay more." This book systematically explains the core psychology courses at Stanford University and is worth learning.

Do you have self-control? What role do you think self-control plays in your success or failure? As we all know, self-control is the ability to regulate oneself. If a person wants to be successful, self-control is essential. If you want to make your own self-control a guiding light on the road to success, this book is definitely a necessary choice. The language in the book is very beautiful, using a lot of writing techniques and starting from many aspects, so that readers can unconsciously learn the skills of cultivating self-control during the reading process. The truth is enlightening and refreshing.

This book made me understand that the best self-control is self-acceptance, acceptance of inner desires, feelings, and emotions, and the ability to understand what I want, what I want to do, and what I don't want to do in coordination. Many interesting willpower experiments provide methods and strategies for how to control ourselves. I think this book will be of great help to us in establishing a self-control system [smile]

Take control of yourself and achieve your future! Self-control is not an innate talent, but can be improved through scientific methods and continuous training. Self-control is like a muscle, it can get tired but can also be strengthened through exercise. Stress, emotion, etc. Can weaken it, while proper relaxation and the right mindset can strengthen it. There are many factors that affect self-control, including but not limited to various temptations and challenges in life. After reading this book, you will learn how to control your attention, emotions and behavior; whether it is to overcome procrastination or resist bad habits, you will find effective methods to better achieve your goals and have a more fulfilling, self-disciplined and free life. [Three core questions] 1. Why is it sometimes difficult for self-control to work? : Because the human brain has a preference for "instant gratification" and faces too many temptations. At the same time, stress and fatigue can also weaken self-control. (I know clearly that eating too many sweets is bad for health, but when faced with delicious milk tea and cakes, I still can't help but eat a lot) 2. How to effectively improve self-control? : By setting clear goals, exercising your willpower muscles, getting good sleep, and relieving stress. (Next time, you will definitely do it now. After a period of repetition and persistence, self-control will become stronger like a muscle) 3. Is self-control a limited resource? : Is limited, but can be restored and enhanced with appropriate rest and adjustments. (After a busy day at work, it is difficult to concentrate on learning new knowledge when you go home; there are also certain psychological factors, people will subconsciously avoid being overtired) Content Sharing 1. "The so-called willpower is the ability to control one's attention, emotions and desires." 2. "We always ask ourselves 'Can I persevere', but in fact we should ask more 'Am I willing to persevere'." 3. "Willpower is actually the three forces of 'I will', 'I won't' and 'I want'. They work together to make us a better version of ourselves." 4. "When we view our willpower challenges as a measure of our moral standards, good deeds give us permission to do bad things. To gain greater self-control, we need to forget about virtues and focus on goals and values." 5. "If we want to increase our self-control, we must consider how to support our most exhausted selves, rather than expecting our most ideal selves to suddenly appear to save our lives."

The willpower lessons mentioned in this book were exactly what I needed! It made me understand that willpower is not a temporary behavior, but requires long-term cultivation. The content in the book is very practical, just like a friend who understands you is chatting with you and helping you solve problems in life. I loved the parts of the book about managing stress and making healthy choices. It reminded me of the book The Power of Habit. They both taught me that small changes can have a big impact. I will recommend it to my friends so that everyone can become more self-controlled together!

"Don't mistake behaviors that support goal achievement for the goal itself. Progress can motivate people and even improve self-control in the future, but the premise is that you must use your behavior as evidence of your efforts to complete the goal. In other words, you must know what you have done and keep an eye on your goals. Focus on your commitment to yourself, rather than on pure progress. In order to achieve your goals, you must be willing to pay more." This book systematically explains the core psychology courses at Stanford University and is worth learning.

For the first time, I felt the importance of social psychological experiments and the huge role of cases in alerting people. Many examples can make people understand the causes. And a new perspective on many other things in reality

Feeling pretty good

After all, it was recommended on Douyin

I started to be self-disciplined

Understanding the process of the emergence of desires, what the brain and real behavior are thinking about, and recognizing oneself can reduce a lot of worries.

It's a very good book. It explains some principles and gives examples of typical real-life events. It also gives you a path on how to change it. It can be said that it not only tells you why and how it happens, but also tells you how to change it. It is a book that allows everyone to understand themselves better.

Make a friend who can encourage and record each other [please pay attention]

Very good, worth a look

Understand the principles behind your own loss of control

Meditation is a good training method

Changing yourself requires not only strong willpower and firm goals, but also overcoming the interference of procrastination and temptation. Our biggest obstacle is not how strongly we want to change our thoughts, but the various temptations and procrastination in life that keep us from moving forward. This book's method of resisting temptation and changing procrastination is very useful. It starts from resisting every small temptation and starting from doing every little thing well. The smallest is the greatest, the smallest is the greatest. [Like]

Concentrate on your breathing and imagine that the bad emotion is just a gust of wind that everyone can feel and there is nothing special about accepting it. See the essence of things clearly and find the power I want.

Kelly's book is the perfect choice for readers who want to gain the willpower to better manage their health and emotions. The word self-control does not simply mean restraining oneself. In fact, in a broader sense, it means satisfying one's truest needs after fully understanding oneself. Sometimes our loss of control does not lie in our inability to resist temptations, but rather in the subjective amplification of these temptations under external pressure. By reading this book, the author hopes that readers will not gain self-control and exhaust themselves, but instead embrace themselves and let themselves have a better life.

This book has a certain meaning. Controlling oneself is a question that many people have been looking for answers to throughout their lives. Many of us don't know how to control ourselves and think this is unattainable, but the author tells us that our inner thoughts will affect the outcome of events. For example, we must have thoughts that can control ourselves, so as to help us have self-control. This idea gave me a lot of inspiration. Sometimes I like to pour cold water on myself, but over time I seem to really decide that I can't do this anymore. Therefore, we must first be mentally prepared and actively imply that we can control ourselves.

As long as you calm down and study, it will definitely subvert your understanding. This book cannot be understood in one sitting.

Not bad, a lot of benefits. Little beauty