Teacher Wu Zhihong has been engaged in psychology for 25 years. She has always been very concerned about people's current psychological state and changes, and has done a lot of investigations and research work. From a psychological micro perspective, she found deep answers from the childhood family relationships of the parties: Most of the reasons why a person becomes desperate and angry are because he is too seriously injured. What plays a role in psychotherapy is mainly the power of love. We must find the answers to life ourselves. We must first treat ourselves as a person and treat others as a person. You have to start it yourself. If you don't go deep into your existence with positive love, if you don't reveal the meaning of existence to yourself in your own way, then for you, existence will still be meaningless. We must find a new path that can inspire the enthusiasm to "promote life", feel the vitality of life and integrity of personality more than before, and feel that life is more meaningful.
Reader comments
I think that when writing this book, he gave many specific examples from real life, and also used many professional terms to explain some existing psychological problems. When the whole book is written down, it actually seems to reflect those specific problems and can help many people understand what psychological problems are. Maybe I think the only bad thing about it is, In other words, what I think is insufficient may be that after reading the whole book, although you may have such psychological problems, you know that you will have psychological problems, but you will feel very depressed, because the process of discovering your own problems and your own shortcomings will make you feel frustrated, so I only give this book four stars.
Regarding the questions in this book, Teacher Wu's answer is probably that you will get hurt not because you are too fragile, but because you pretend to be too strong. In more than 20 years of practicing psychology, Wu Zhihong has seen too many tragic cases of physical and mental damage caused by not being able to talk to oneself, and even hurting others. In the form of cases, Wu Zhihong teaches us science on how to harmoniously coexist with the bad boy in the body and the primitive desires in the self. If God has not given you a happy family, after reading this book you can at least reconcile yourself to yourself and give yourself happiness.
In this book, whether it is the personal experience of the visitor or a hot topic in society, the essence is the lack of love. Those problems that arise in love, friendship, and family relationships, and those behaviors that seem so perverse as to be unimaginable, allude to the lack of love in the original family when they were young. So no matter how strong the grown-up individual looks, he still only has a fragile heart that longs for love. Teacher Wu Zhihong said: People need to be seen. There is healing in the real world. As long as you are seen by the world, you will become better. Seeing is love. Real power, real self-strength, actually comes from being seen. The reason why we get hurt is because we lack security and self-confidence. The basis of self-confidence is love, and the reason for low self-esteem is the lack of love.
I always had a doubt when I was reading, why do these contents seem to have nothing to do with the title of the book "Why Are You Always Hurt"? But after reading it and thinking about it carefully, these stories all mentioned the concepts of "inner child" and "inner parent", so I think the author probably wanted to express: the balance between "inner child" and "inner parent" is very important, and an unbalanced inner will cause you to always get hurt. That's what it means.
After reading this book, I felt that it was of great help in getting out of the shadow of my family of origin. By reading this book, I learned the reason why my personality was changed. My personality was determined by my family environment. Through many examples, this book allows readers to empathize with and understand the causes of mental illness. I look forward to the teacher's next work!
Behind the kindness, there is always a wounded heart. A child who is not seen grows up to be a weak adult. I like Teacher Wu Zhihong's books very much. I can learn a lot of psychological knowledge, and I can also better understand myself and human nature through various cases in the book. In this book, whether it is the personal experience of the visitor or a hot topic in society, the essence is the lack of love. Those problems that arise in love, friendship, and family relationships, and those behaviors that seem so perverse as to be unimaginable, allude to the lack of love in the original family when they were young.
Regarding the questions in this book, Teacher Wu's answer is probably that you will get hurt not because you are too fragile, but because you pretend to be too strong. In more than 20 years of practicing psychology, Wu Zhihong has seen too many tragic cases of physical and mental damage caused by not being able to talk to oneself, and even hurting others. In the form of cases, Wu Zhihong teaches us science on how to harmoniously coexist with the bad boy in the body and the primitive desires in the self. If God has not given you a happy family, after reading this book you can at least reconcile yourself to yourself and give yourself happiness.
Unconditional love is both a beacon that illuminates ourselves and a candle that illuminates others. The real world itself is healing. Only by expressing true emotions can you have the chance to become yourself! We should indeed be grateful for our mental illnesses and the protective effect they had on us in the first place. A truly healthy mentality is to frankly admit one's own psychological problems. We have gathered many years of psychological counseling experience, in-depth analysis of the client's childhood family relationships, and comprehensively sorted out hot keywords in the psychological field such as boundaries, symbiosis, and omnipotent narcissism to help you understand your true self, establish a link to love, and live out your inner vitality! Seeing is love. And love can be so powerful. The more you understand the darkness, the more you believe in the light. Please love yourself! We need to be seen, and that must be with eyes of understanding, love, and acceptance.
It is a very practical psychological book.
Through storytelling, hot social news and detailed analysis, it explains the psychology of family members, marriage and parenting, criminal elements and even people with suicidal tendencies.
In this way, we can understand that our own psychological problems may be corrected, or we may need the help of a psychologist. This is a book that will keep us healthy throughout our lives. [Sending Hearts]
I benefited a lot, the text is easy to understand, and there are examples. I think it is very good.
It feels like everyone should take time to analyze their own mental state. Your mental state determines your life. However, it seems that we have seen so many negative examples, and we may not be able to learn from them. Even if we learn from experience, we can really avoid problems completely.
The book also says that we have to find the answers to life ourselves. Just like the book says "you have to start by yourself", I think it makes sense. We must love ourselves first before we can love others better. This book gave me a new way of thinking about life, and I recommend it to you!
This is a very helpful book for parents
Very good! It makes perfect sense!
After reading this book, I feel that I have benefited a lot. I would like to thank the author for writing this book, and thank Tomato Novels for giving me the opportunity to read this book, which solved many of my doubts.
The author's words can bring people into the situation, and they can benefit a lot from each case.
The content is short and concise. It touched me a lot and solved many of my confusions.
Very good! Be philosophical! Benefit for life!
This author's books are all good
Very good book, thank you
I also have psychological problems. I hope I can help myself after reading psychology books.
Ways to deal with the causes of various psychological problems
It's very good. After reading this book, I feel that I have benefited a lot.
I particularly enjoy reading Wu Zhihong's books and benefit a lot from them.
After reading it, I have a deeper understanding of myself. The description of the "inner child" and "inner parent" is very profound, but I have found the problem but don't know the solution.
It is very relaxing while watching and can relieve stress and all emotions.
This book introduces the relationship between family, parents, children, and partners, as well as the id, the connection between ego and superego, the rules of power and cherishment between people, and professionalism.
I think that when writing this book, he gave many specific examples from real life, and also used many professional terms to explain some existing psychological problems. When the whole book is written down, it actually seems to reflect those specific problems and can help many people understand what psychological problems are. Maybe I think the only bad thing about it is, In other words, what I think is insufficient may be that after reading the whole book, although you may have such psychological problems, you know that you will have psychological problems, but you will feel very depressed, because the process of discovering your own problems and your own shortcomings will make you feel frustrated, so I only give this book four stars.
Regarding the questions in this book, Teacher Wu's answer is probably that you will get hurt not because you are too fragile, but because you pretend to be too strong. In more than 20 years of practicing psychology, Wu Zhihong has seen too many tragic cases of physical and mental damage caused by not being able to talk to oneself, and even hurting others. In the form of cases, Wu Zhihong teaches us science on how to harmoniously coexist with the bad boy in the body and the primitive desires in the self. If God has not given you a happy family, after reading this book you can at least reconcile yourself to yourself and give yourself happiness.
In this book, whether it is the personal experience of the visitor or a hot topic in society, the essence is the lack of love. Those problems that arise in love, friendship, and family relationships, and those behaviors that seem so perverse as to be unimaginable, allude to the lack of love in the original family when they were young. So no matter how strong the grown-up individual looks, he still only has a fragile heart that longs for love. Teacher Wu Zhihong said: People need to be seen. There is healing in the real world. As long as you are seen by the world, you will become better. Seeing is love. Real power, real self-strength, actually comes from being seen. The reason why we get hurt is because we lack security and self-confidence. The basis of self-confidence is love, and the reason for low self-esteem is the lack of love.
I always had a doubt when I was reading, why do these contents seem to have nothing to do with the title of the book "Why Are You Always Hurt"? But after reading it and thinking about it carefully, these stories all mentioned the concepts of "inner child" and "inner parent", so I think the author probably wanted to express: the balance between "inner child" and "inner parent" is very important, and an unbalanced inner will cause you to always get hurt. That's what it means.
After reading this book, I felt that it was of great help in getting out of the shadow of my family of origin. By reading this book, I learned the reason why my personality was changed. My personality was determined by my family environment. Through many examples, this book allows readers to empathize with and understand the causes of mental illness. I look forward to the teacher's next work!
Behind the kindness, there is always a wounded heart. A child who is not seen grows up to be a weak adult. I like Teacher Wu Zhihong's books very much. I can learn a lot of psychological knowledge, and I can also better understand myself and human nature through various cases in the book. In this book, whether it is the personal experience of the visitor or a hot topic in society, the essence is the lack of love. Those problems that arise in love, friendship, and family relationships, and those behaviors that seem so perverse as to be unimaginable, allude to the lack of love in the original family when they were young.
Regarding the questions in this book, Teacher Wu's answer is probably that you will get hurt not because you are too fragile, but because you pretend to be too strong. In more than 20 years of practicing psychology, Wu Zhihong has seen too many tragic cases of physical and mental damage caused by not being able to talk to oneself, and even hurting others. In the form of cases, Wu Zhihong teaches us science on how to harmoniously coexist with the bad boy in the body and the primitive desires in the self. If God has not given you a happy family, after reading this book you can at least reconcile yourself to yourself and give yourself happiness.
Unconditional love is both a beacon that illuminates ourselves and a candle that illuminates others. The real world itself is healing. Only by expressing true emotions can you have the chance to become yourself! We should indeed be grateful for our mental illnesses and the protective effect they had on us in the first place. A truly healthy mentality is to frankly admit one's own psychological problems. We have gathered many years of psychological counseling experience, in-depth analysis of the client's childhood family relationships, and comprehensively sorted out hot keywords in the psychological field such as boundaries, symbiosis, and omnipotent narcissism to help you understand your true self, establish a link to love, and live out your inner vitality! Seeing is love. And love can be so powerful. The more you understand the darkness, the more you believe in the light. Please love yourself! We need to be seen, and that must be with eyes of understanding, love, and acceptance.
It is a very practical psychological book. Through storytelling, hot social news and detailed analysis, it explains the psychology of family members, marriage and parenting, criminal elements and even people with suicidal tendencies. In this way, we can understand that our own psychological problems may be corrected, or we may need the help of a psychologist. This is a book that will keep us healthy throughout our lives. [Sending Hearts]
I benefited a lot, the text is easy to understand, and there are examples. I think it is very good.
It feels like everyone should take time to analyze their own mental state. Your mental state determines your life. However, it seems that we have seen so many negative examples, and we may not be able to learn from them. Even if we learn from experience, we can really avoid problems completely.
The book also says that we have to find the answers to life ourselves. Just like the book says "you have to start by yourself", I think it makes sense. We must love ourselves first before we can love others better. This book gave me a new way of thinking about life, and I recommend it to you!
This is a very helpful book for parents
Very good! It makes perfect sense!
After reading this book, I feel that I have benefited a lot. I would like to thank the author for writing this book, and thank Tomato Novels for giving me the opportunity to read this book, which solved many of my doubts.
The author's words can bring people into the situation, and they can benefit a lot from each case.
The content is short and concise. It touched me a lot and solved many of my confusions.
Very good! Be philosophical! Benefit for life!
This author's books are all good
Very good book, thank you
I also have psychological problems. I hope I can help myself after reading psychology books.
Ways to deal with the causes of various psychological problems
It's very good. After reading this book, I feel that I have benefited a lot.
I particularly enjoy reading Wu Zhihong's books and benefit a lot from them.
After reading it, I have a deeper understanding of myself. The description of the "inner child" and "inner parent" is very profound, but I have found the problem but don't know the solution.
It is very relaxing while watching and can relieve stress and all emotions.
This book introduces the relationship between family, parents, children, and partners, as well as the id, the connection between ego and superego, the rules of power and cherishment between people, and professionalism.