Devil's Chatting Technique

I have been single for 21 years. At least after reading this book, I can boldly strike up conversations with strangers and chat with goddesses. Although I stuttered at first, I think it will definitely get better. At the same time, I also have a deeper understanding of gender, know how to be polite, know how to advance and retreat, and handle interpersonal relationships well.

Before, I was too straight. When I met a girl I liked very much, I wanted to give her all the good things I could do to her. I lacked the emotional resonance to wait for me to resonate. Then because I was leaving, I skipped this stage to express my love and failed.

There is a very popular saying in modern times, which is used to describe people who cannot chat. It means that someone can chat to death. In other words, when we chat with others in daily life, we will not pick up the conversation or follow what the other person says. This will cause us to be very passive in interpersonal communication and further limit our development at work. Therefore, we should seriously think about and learn this chatting skill, which can make us better at work and interpersonal communication.

If you listen to your words, you will live in vain for decades. We meet so late, so sad, so lucky!

Chatting skills and chatting style determine a person's social ability. Chatting between people is not a simple exchange of words but an expression of emotions and thoughts. If you want to know how to turn the socially fearful us into social cows, how to restore the goddess who was harmed by the EQ of straight men, and bring us closer to the relationship with the goddess, how to respond with high EQ and be able to escape unscathed when others deliberately make things difficult? Here we can all see it and take you to appreciate the art of chatting.

If I hadn't been quarantined, I would have wanted to go out on the street and try to strike up a conversation!

I am a very introverted person and I don't usually chat. I have very few friends. The teacher said it very well. I have never done this or thought about it in this way, so I can't talk to anyone without talking for a few words. Thank you teacher!

After reading this book, I noticed small details that I never noticed at ordinary times.

Ruan Qi is a trainer that I admire very much. He can very well make you aware of your problems in language and communication with others and provide solutions. The main purpose of this book is to explore how to build good relationships with people, communicate effectively, and influence how others think and behave. It provides a series of practical skills and principles to help us improve our interpersonal relationships, so that we can talk without stage fright in front of the person we love. Overall, the goal of this book is to help people improve their ability to relate to others and achieve personal and professional success through positive relationships.

For someone who has a low sense of security and is not mentally strong enough, talking directly about the reasons may make her feel that others are just here to watch the fun. Paying attention to the other person's current status or feelings can make the other person feel that you value her personally, thus making her feel more secure with you. After that, she often goes on to express her feelings. There are four important concepts in friendly communication: observation, feeling, need, and request. Many people always feel passive in interpersonal interactions. One of the reasons is that they rarely express their needs directly. They always wait for others to guess before they meet their own needs. And once this becomes a habit, when his needs are not met, he will easily think that others are deliberately ignoring him, which will further lead to inferiority or hostility.

Chatting is an art, making chatting no longer awkward. Good communication is not about rhetoric, but about sincerity and understanding. It is about skillfully opening topics, continuing conversations and avoiding embarrassment in different situations. It is about expressing one's points of interest in an appropriate way to elicit a response from the other party. A common mistake in chatting is to talk to yourself blindly. The correct way to deal with it is to pay attention to the other party's feelings, learn to listen, develop a sense of humor, and use appropriate language to express your opinions. In this fast-paced society, emotional relationships, daily social interactions, and workplace communication all require good chatting skills. By making chatting more natural, smooth, and charming, you can better establish interpersonal relationships and expand your social circle. [Three core questions] 1. Why do some people feel nervous when chatting? : Lack of self-confidence, worry about making mistakes or leaving a bad impression on the other party, or unfamiliarity with the chat situation. (For example, when you chat with the person you like for the first time, you will be so nervous that you don't know what to say because you are worried about saying the wrong thing.) 2. How to improve chat skills? : Observe more, listen more, understand each other's interests and hobbies, and learn to express your opinions and feelings in appropriate language. (When chatting, listen to other people's stories and ideas, then expand the topic based on their interests and share your own relevant experiences) 3. How to avoid cold spots in chat? : Prepare some topics in advance, be good at discovering common points of interest in chat, and guide the topic in a timely manner. (Know some hot topics in advance, and when the chat is quiet, bring up a topic that everyone may be interested in at the right time, such as the latest popular movies and hot current events) Content Sharing 1. Chatting is not to achieve any purpose, but to enjoy the fun of chatting itself. 2. Adjusting your mentality from a taker to a giver can often make the chat smoother. 3. True self-confidence is not about appearing strong, but about being able to accept yourself and others peacefully. 4. The humor in chat is not deliberately funny, but a relaxed attitude towards life. 5. Don't care too much about the results of the chat, but focus on the current communication process.

After reading this book, I only have one thought, why not read it earlier?

The writing is very good, but as a mud, it is still comfortable to lie in a pile of mud. The law of entropy increase mentions that love is also a process from low entropy to high entropy. Life is essentially a process of constantly gaining entropy from high entropy and dispelling entropy and adjusting entropy. The process of gaining entropy and discharging entropy is not that easy, nor is it that difficult. But maintaining stability is not an easy task for me. A superficial study is more beneficial than an in-depth exploration. If I have the time, it is better to learn more about Ah Q's spirit. Let the noble man and the poor boy have a headache, hahaha [laughing evilly] [laughing evilly] [laughing evilly]

This book is really practical! A lifesaver for people like me who sometimes don't know what to say in a relationship. The cases and techniques in the book are very close to life, and the author Ruan Qi really understands the psychology of girls, and the suggestions he gives are also very practical. I think the most important thing is to learn to read the other person's cues and express your feelings sincerely. This is the key to chatting. Recommended to everyone!

I feel very good. I seem to have learned something after reading it, but I also seem to know nothing [what][what][what][what][what][what]

Get along with girls as normal friends first, don't involve each other and create too much pressure, be proactive, show sexual tension, pay attention to language expression, be able to sense emotions, and at the same time enhance your own value. For other things, of course, specific analysis of specific problems and the help of professional emotional counselors can indeed break the situation. What's more, you need to be adaptable and have the courage to deal with it. I believe that people who are good to you will eventually meet someone who is good to you.

Congratulations on discovering a treasure. It's full of useful information. I found my girlfriend because of this book [laughing]

How to tell if you like: The amount of time that person occupies your mind when you're not interacting with that person (see how close love and hate are from this perspective). Also occupying the mind, men's likes are often full of plans for the future, while women's likes are often the aftertaste of the wonderful emotions they have experienced. The meaning of giving gifts: Only when the other person is invested in your relationship can giving gifts have the color of expressing affection. Otherwise, giving gifts is just to please or bribe.

Okay, okay, I tried it with my roommates and found that these methods can be used by both men and women.

The content is very good and easy to understand.

After reading the third part, it talks about how to cultivate a sound personality. The author draws conclusions based on his own experience, such as positive self-identity... These are all points of view that can be used for reference. It's fun to read, hahaha. I think it's more logical. You can see yourself clearly from the root and change yourself.

The writing is practical and relevant to life. I learned a lot of knowledge and at the same time realized that I usually make so many mistakes. Thank you, [shy][shy]

To be honest, this book is very useful Before watching it, I was worried about gains and losses, thinking about this and that. After watching it, I will not say how much I improved, but at least I won't be too emotional (just like watching a horror movie and knowing the plot in advance). But now I think about it, just let nature take its course. In the final analysis, let's not talk about whether we can find a partner. First, ask yourself if you have the ability to take on other people's lives.

I have read this before, or to be precise, I have listened to it. I remember a small part of it, but I only glanced at a large part of it. I thought it was okay.

This book has been of great help to me

If we had read this book earlier maybe we wouldn't be so bad

It's your first time watching it. It's best not to watch so much. Brothers, have you caught any? How about we create a group to discuss it?

I want the teacher's contact information

Really, after you read it carefully, you will have to sigh that the teacher can really see the eternal things from the superficial things, and find the unchanging principles and principles from the changes.

This book is very exciting and good. After reading it, it is useless in real life [laughing and crying][laughing and crying]